Anonymous
07/31/2024 13:37
Subject: Shaving legs
DD asked me at the end of 5th. But when I was a kid I was embarrassed to ask and wished my mom had raised it so I didn't have to.
So far as I can tell, DD shaved once and then didn't bother again. Maybe she'll resume when school does.
She hasn't done her pits yet and doesn't see the need (I'm the opposite!) but it's nice there are so many swimsuit options with sleeves now.
So far as I can tell, DD shaved once and then didn't bother again. Maybe she'll resume when school does.
She hasn't done her pits yet and doesn't see the need (I'm the opposite!) but it's nice there are so many swimsuit options with sleeves now.
Anonymous
07/31/2024 13:33
Subject: Shaving legs
Anonymous wrote:First of all to the people commenting on how not shaving is “disgusting” a reminder that no one else’s body is on view for your consumption in a public space.
Second of all to answer OP, as a mom to a 12yo girl I asked her on a shopping run to Target as casually as I could muster “Hey, did you want to pick up some razors and shaving cream?” She shrugged and embarrassedly said yes, so I asked her if she knew what she wanted, she as expected said no, and I walked her to the aisle and picked out the disposable razors I use and shaving cream and then also a bottle of nair. In the car on the way home I handed it to her, she of course asked what the other bottle was for and I explained that it was up to her, but some people prefer to remove their bikini line hair and I had found it was easier to use that then to shave it so I figured if she wanted to experiment she could. That was it, I have no idea how it went because I don’t follow my daughter’s body that closely and she is pretty modest otherwise.
Well, sadly we have to “consume” the “view” whether we like it or not. This is true with poorly chosen bathing suits at the beach too. Cheeky bottoms are not for most people. And yet we are all subjected to them.
Anonymous
07/31/2024 12:21
Subject: Shaving legs
First of all to the people commenting on how not shaving is “disgusting” a reminder that no one else’s body is on view for your consumption in a public space.
Second of all to answer OP, as a mom to a 12yo girl I asked her on a shopping run to Target as casually as I could muster “Hey, did you want to pick up some razors and shaving cream?” She shrugged and embarrassedly said yes, so I asked her if she knew what she wanted, she as expected said no, and I walked her to the aisle and picked out the disposable razors I use and shaving cream and then also a bottle of nair. In the car on the way home I handed it to her, she of course asked what the other bottle was for and I explained that it was up to her, but some people prefer to remove their bikini line hair and I had found it was easier to use that then to shave it so I figured if she wanted to experiment she could. That was it, I have no idea how it went because I don’t follow my daughter’s body that closely and she is pretty modest otherwise.
Second of all to answer OP, as a mom to a 12yo girl I asked her on a shopping run to Target as casually as I could muster “Hey, did you want to pick up some razors and shaving cream?” She shrugged and embarrassedly said yes, so I asked her if she knew what she wanted, she as expected said no, and I walked her to the aisle and picked out the disposable razors I use and shaving cream and then also a bottle of nair. In the car on the way home I handed it to her, she of course asked what the other bottle was for and I explained that it was up to her, but some people prefer to remove their bikini line hair and I had found it was easier to use that then to shave it so I figured if she wanted to experiment she could. That was it, I have no idea how it went because I don’t follow my daughter’s body that closely and she is pretty modest otherwise.
Anonymous
07/31/2024 12:12
Subject: Shaving legs
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:End of 4th grade my daughter asked me, almost the exact time I asked my Mom.
OP here. I asked as soon as short season started in 5th. My DD is going into 7th (we are FCPS so, this will be the start of MS) in a couple of weeks and has not asked.
Maybe the hair doesn't bother her. A way to bring it up casually if you watch TV and see a shaving ad could say "if you want to shave you can but if you don't want to that's totally okay, lots of girls and women don't shave." Then don't bring it up agsin unless she does.
Or if you’re watching a movie where there's a shaving scene. Could say above after the movie is over, especially if you talk about the movie after.
Lots don’t shave?? Just wrong. I don’t know a single teen or woman that doesn’t shave.
I actually have seen some hairy underarms at the pool this summer and it’s so disgusting!!!
Anonymous
07/31/2024 12:12
Subject: Shaving legs
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:End of 4th grade my daughter asked me, almost the exact time I asked my Mom.
OP here. I asked as soon as short season started in 5th. My DD is going into 7th (we are FCPS so, this will be the start of MS) in a couple of weeks and has not asked.
Maybe the hair doesn't bother her. A way to bring it up casually if you watch TV and see a shaving ad could say "if you want to shave you can but if you don't want to that's totally okay, lots of girls and women don't shave." Then don't bring it up agsin unless she does.
Or if you’re watching a movie where there's a shaving scene. Could say above after the movie is over, especially if you talk about the movie after.
Lots don’t shave?? Just wrong. I don’t know a single teen or woman that doesn’t shave.
DP.
When I went to the University of Oregon in Eugene, OR, there was a cohort of women and girls who eschewed shaving legs & pits; many also avoided deodorant and used patchouli essential oil instead. But, they tended to either date each other or date really crunchy hippie guys. Many of them worked at the organic food co-op or for the local non-profits.
It was not that many, however.
Anonymous
07/31/2024 11:43
Subject: Shaving legs
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:End of 4th grade my daughter asked me, almost the exact time I asked my Mom.
OP here. I asked as soon as short season started in 5th. My DD is going into 7th (we are FCPS so, this will be the start of MS) in a couple of weeks and has not asked.
Maybe the hair doesn't bother her. A way to bring it up casually if you watch TV and see a shaving ad could say "if you want to shave you can but if you don't want to that's totally okay, lots of girls and women don't shave." Then don't bring it up agsin unless she does.
Or if you’re watching a movie where there's a shaving scene. Could say above after the movie is over, especially if you talk about the movie after.
Lots don’t shave?? Just wrong. I don’t know a single teen or woman that doesn’t shave.
Anonymous
07/30/2024 18:41
Subject: Shaving legs
My mother never taught me or offered supplies so I did it once with one of her disposable razors. Dry. Baaaaad call. I told DD11 this story and that I wanted better for her, so she decides she wants to shave to let me know and I’ll take her to get stuff and teach her how. She sees the scars on my shins and asks if they’re from that, and I have to admit that no, they’re from trying to read a book while shaving in the bathtub and skinning myself. It’s 100% a thing she would do too.
Anonymous
07/30/2024 18:18
Subject: Shaving legs
I’ve got some swarthy girls. I just bought them some razors going into 5th and let them use it.
Anonymous
07/30/2024 18:15
Subject: Shaving legs
Anonymous wrote:I told both of my daughters I would teach them when they are ready. Older one started summer before 7th. Younger one asked me when older one started and I told her. She chose to start at the same time.
People on this board try to act like it’s “normal” for girls not to shave legs, but IME most girls still do.
Most blondes don't shave at all. There is no need
Anonymous
07/30/2024 14:26
Subject: Shaving legs
In the suburbs, it would still be extremely uncommon for a teen girl not to shave her legs or armpits.
Anonymous
07/30/2024 07:56
Subject: Shaving legs
My oldest daughter is almost 12. I told her that if she ever wants to shave that I can show her how to do it. It was in passing, so not a big deal and we weren't looking at anyone's legs. I said it in the same way that I did when I told her to talk to me if she wanted to use tampons or a menstrual cup.
Anonymous
07/30/2024 07:52
Subject: Shaving legs
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I told both of my daughters I would teach them when they are ready. Older one started summer before 7th. Younger one asked me when older one started and I told her. She chose to start at the same time.
People on this board try to act like it’s “normal” for girls not to shave legs, but IME most girls still do.
It is normal now not to shave, also normal to shave. I’m not sure if I could say “most” to either choice because seems common now
Um, I believe you may want to review the definition of the word “normal.” You don't seem to understand what it means.
DP. I understand the PP perfectly. All choices are normal. It’s normal to wear your hair long and also normal to cut it in to a bob. Just a matter of preference.
Maybe common is a better word for this particular case. In some areas/circles/groups, shaving will be more common. But that doesn’t make it more normal.
Anonymous
07/30/2024 07:46
Subject: Shaving legs
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I told both of my daughters I would teach them when they are ready. Older one started summer before 7th. Younger one asked me when older one started and I told her. She chose to start at the same time.
People on this board try to act like it’s “normal” for girls not to shave legs, but IME most girls still do.
It is normal now not to shave, also normal to shave. I’m not sure if I could say “most” to either choice because seems common now
Um, I believe you may want to review the definition of the word “normal.” You don't seem to understand what it means.
Anonymous
07/30/2024 07:17
Subject: Shaving legs
My DD just turned 12. She’s AA and had a lot of armpit hair at 10 and was going to sleepaway camp. I talked to her then about shaving and showed her how to do under her arms.
We talked about legs but I told her it’s completely optional…. She’s never done her legs and her underarm hair still hasn’t grown back.
We talked about legs but I told her it’s completely optional…. She’s never done her legs and her underarm hair still hasn’t grown back.
Anonymous
07/30/2024 07:10
Subject: Shaving legs
Anonymous wrote:I told both of my daughters I would teach them when they are ready. Older one started summer before 7th. Younger one asked me when older one started and I told her. She chose to start at the same time.
People on this board try to act like it’s “normal” for girls not to shave legs, but IME most girls still do.
It is normal now not to shave, also normal to shave. I’m not sure if I could say “most” to either choice because seems common now