[quote=Anonymous]Most top colleges are like this. The richest students, across incomes, hang out with one another. The athletes, usually white outside of mainstream sports, hang out with one another. The Middle Class figure it out. The fgli hang out with the fgli.[/quote]

100% false. I have a full pay kid at Duke. They’re friends with kids who are fgli and lots of kids on financial aid, and some insanely uber-wealthy people(most of those try to hide it, to be fair).

Mine at an ivy hangs out with a coed academic group (engineering) where they are the only caucasian, and a different club arts group where they are one of only 2. The rest of the friends are an amazing mix of 3 other ethnicities including internationals. Mixing happens, understanding different cultures happens, for the students who want that to happen. Ivies are more diverse than they have ever been, with less than 50% caucasian. Those who only hang out with the same as themselves are missing the point of these diverse schools

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Anonymous wrote:Most top colleges are like this. The richest students, across incomes, hang out with one another. The athletes, usually white outside of mainstream sports, hang out with one another. The Middle Class figure it out. The fgli hang out with the fgli.

All colleges are like this.

This was not me or DC's experience at our ivies.

There is no way someone with grammar this bad went to an Ivy.

It's not a terrible sentence. Maybe, you're just uptight.

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Anonymous wrote:Most top colleges are like this. The richest students, across incomes, hang out with one another. The athletes, usually white outside of mainstream sports, hang out with one another. The Middle Class figure it out. The fgli hang out with the fgli.

All colleges are like this.

This was not me or DC's experience at our ivies.

There is no way someone with grammar this bad went to an Ivy.

Anonymous wrote:Why is this forum so lame?

It’s a quiet time of year for college admissions.

Anonymous wrote:My DS just saw some friends from HS who go to Princeton, Duke and Dartmouth. He reports that all three (boys) say that the only people they hang with are either legacies or athletes.

All three are legacies.

I don’t find this at all surprising as kids from similar backgrounds tend to hang together but it’s also so disappointing and telling about those schools.

FWIW, my son goes to a big public and yes, his friends are mostly white but not mostly legacies or athletes.

Same at most high schools, its either under privileged or over privileged who go to Ivies, not middle class studious ones.

Anonymous wrote:My DS just saw some friends from HS who go to Princeton, Duke and Dartmouth. He reports that all three (boys) say that the only people they hang with are either legacies or athletes.

All three are legacies.

I don’t find this at all surprising as kids from similar backgrounds tend to hang together but it’s also so disappointing and telling about those schools.

FWIW, my son goes to a big public and yes, his friends are mostly white but not mostly legacies or athletes.

FYI - Duke is not in the Ivy League.

When was the last time you got laid?

Do you expect them to hang with the first gen kids who are there just trying to get a good education and get out or the poor kids on scholarship? This is how the world works. It won't be any different when they get jobs either.

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So called 'connections' is BS for the most part for normal middle class folks.

This is DC's experience at Bowdoin. All her friends are solidly middle class down to low income, but there's whole swaths of CEO daughters and trust fund kids who latch to each other throughout the four years and are very careful with who they get close with. There's also clear class distinction between those who went to Philips Academies and Grotons, so you really go to these places to take the resources from the institution, unless you're wealthy and your friend, whose dad is CEO of Boeing, can get you an in.

Not true in my experience at an Ivy.

Harvard has a few old school upper crust fraternities (Final Clubs) and a regular Jewish frat or two (AEPi, not all Jews are in it). These are non residential .
That's a quarter of the school.
Harvard is diverse in its special way. They do get partial randomized by dorm assignments. Almost everyone at Harvard lives in the dorms..

I'm a bit relieved to hear that kids from your public school are getting into Princeton, Duke, etc, even if they are legacies.

I don't know where my kids will fit in. They are public school, legacy, but not white. It is debatable if we are rich - probably not according to dcurbanmom standards.

Why is this forum so lame?

OP: did you think your kid would be hanging with the rich kids?

Why is this even a surprise?

Anonymous wrote:Most top colleges are like this. The richest students, across incomes, hang out with one another. The athletes, usually white outside of mainstream sports, hang out with one another. The Middle Class figure it out. The fgli hang out with the fgli.

This is true in life!!!