Anonymous
07/29/2024 09:30
Subject: Vulgar and rude insults
Anonymous wrote:What would your current and retirement financial life look like if you were to leave him now? Would it really be destitution, or just different that you were expecting based on how hard you’ve worked?
If it’s the latter, you may want to work with a therapist to come around to the idea that you won’t have certain luxuries that you have now or that you were planning to have. But you will be free. Your life will look different, yes, but it will be on your own terms.
If you’re stating simply because you don’t want him to have your hard earned assets because of the principle of the matter, that’s another area a good therapist can help you unpack. There are all kinds of situations that can happen to any one of us in life that are unfair. Most people reading this post have been through one or even many. But robbing yourself of your own peace and dignity just so that he doesn’t get the lake house is a great injustice you’d be doing yourself.
I’m sorry you’re tied to this abusive jerk OP. I hope you find your way.
Impossible for me to pay for 2 households. Won’t be able to retire in the US if I have to split retirement assets in half. That’s what years of DH’s unemployment did to our finances. At least I have been able to maintain the family with a decent lifestyle, but cutting it all in half will ruin me financially.
Anonymous
07/28/2024 18:34
Subject: Vulgar and rude insults
Guy here,, don’t tolerate that, Leave. No man of any value would do that.
Anonymous
07/28/2024 17:29
Subject: Vulgar and rude insults
What would your current and retirement financial life look like if you were to leave him now? Would it really be destitution, or just different that you were expecting based on how hard you’ve worked?
If it’s the latter, you may want to work with a therapist to come around to the idea that you won’t have certain luxuries that you have now or that you were planning to have. But you will be free. Your life will look different, yes, but it will be on your own terms.
If you’re stating simply because you don’t want him to have your hard earned assets because of the principle of the matter, that’s another area a good therapist can help you unpack. There are all kinds of situations that can happen to any one of us in life that are unfair. Most people reading this post have been through one or even many. But robbing yourself of your own peace and dignity just so that he doesn’t get the lake house is a great injustice you’d be doing yourself.
I’m sorry you’re tied to this abusive jerk OP. I hope you find your way.
If it’s the latter, you may want to work with a therapist to come around to the idea that you won’t have certain luxuries that you have now or that you were planning to have. But you will be free. Your life will look different, yes, but it will be on your own terms.
If you’re stating simply because you don’t want him to have your hard earned assets because of the principle of the matter, that’s another area a good therapist can help you unpack. There are all kinds of situations that can happen to any one of us in life that are unfair. Most people reading this post have been through one or even many. But robbing yourself of your own peace and dignity just so that he doesn’t get the lake house is a great injustice you’d be doing yourself.
I’m sorry you’re tied to this abusive jerk OP. I hope you find your way.
Anonymous
07/28/2024 17:18
Subject: Vulgar and rude insults
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am the main breadwinner so would have to support him and give him half of what I worked so hard for. It’s not fair.
Millions of divorced men know how you feel.
Most SAHMSs actually take care of the house and family, and in most instances this would be a joint decisions, to have one parents stay at home. This is different from an angry and lazy unemployed man.
+1 but they so often forget this and how much they and family benefitted from her care and work before they dump their wives.
Women never care how much you did for them in the past. Once they decide they’re done with you, all your past love and care is wiped from the memory banks. And indeed, seamlessly replaced with the new “memory” that everything you ever did was “abusive”.
What happened to you does not generalize to all women. You need to get some therapy to fix your situation and stop taking out your anger on DCUM women.
Anonymous
07/28/2024 17:17
Subject: Vulgar and rude insults
DTMFA
Anonymous
07/28/2024 17:16
Subject: Vulgar and rude insults
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am the main breadwinner so would have to support him and give him half of what I worked so hard for. It’s not fair.
Millions of divorced men know how you feel.
Most SAHMSs actually take care of the house and family, and in most instances this would be a joint decisions, to have one parents stay at home. This is different from an angry and lazy unemployed man.
+1 but they so often forget this and how much they and family benefitted from her care and work before they dump their wives.
Women never care how much you did for them in the past. Once they decide they’re done with you, all your past love and care is wiped from the memory banks. And indeed, seamlessly replaced with the new “memory” that everything you ever did was “abusive”.
Anonymous
07/28/2024 17:14
Subject: Vulgar and rude insults
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am the main breadwinner so would have to support him and give him half of what I worked so hard for. It’s not fair.
Millions of divorced men know how you feel.
Most SAHMSs actually take care of the house and family, and in most instances this would be a joint decisions, to have one parents stay at home. This is different from an angry and lazy unemployed man.
It’s different because it’s always different when a woman does it. No man has ever had an angry and lazy SAHM wife. 🙄
Anonymous
07/28/2024 16:15
Subject: Vulgar and rude insults
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am the main breadwinner so would have to support him and give him half of what I worked so hard for. It’s not fair.
Millions of divorced men know how you feel.
Most SAHMSs actually take care of the house and family, and in most instances this would be a joint decisions, to have one parents stay at home. This is different from an angry and lazy unemployed man.
There are millions of angry and lazy unemployed women.
Don't kid yourself.
Anonymous
07/28/2024 15:59
Subject: Vulgar and rude insults
Just move on. Pack up and go. Stop complaining and take action for your life's choices.
Anonymous
07/28/2024 15:54
Subject: Vulgar and rude insults
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am the main breadwinner so would have to support him and give him half of what I worked so hard for. It’s not fair.
Millions of divorced men know how you feel.
Most SAHMSs actually take care of the house and family, and in most instances this would be a joint decisions, to have one parents stay at home. This is different from an angry and lazy unemployed man.
+1 but they so often forget this and how much they and family benefitted from her care and work before they dump their wives.
Anonymous
07/28/2024 15:48
Subject: Vulgar and rude insults
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am the main breadwinner so would have to support him and give him half of what I worked so hard for. It’s not fair.
Millions of divorced men know how you feel.
Most SAHMSs actually take care of the house and family, and in most instances this would be a joint decisions, to have one parents stay at home. This is different from an angry and lazy unemployed man.
Anonymous
07/27/2024 21:50
Subject: Vulgar and rude insults
Anonymous wrote:I am the main breadwinner so would have to support him and give him half of what I worked so hard for. It’s not fair.
Millions of divorced men know how you feel.