OP- any updates?

I can't imagine your child changing that much since May that would make a good fit school no longer a fit. Moreover, even if your DC did change that drastically, consider that if they are that changeable, then they are likely to change again. I would stick to the school plan that you have financially committed to and realize that kids are changeable but make the best of the situation.

This world has gotten to be so soft. Just send your kid to school let him or her figure it out. That is just how life works if it is not a good fit after year one just move on and count it as a lesson learned.

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Anonymous wrote:Too much emphasis is placed on fit. Encourage your kid to do the best he or she can.

+1
Most of the world just goes to the school they are zoned for. And yet somehow they manage.

Learning to fit in and coping when it's difficult are extremely valuable lessons.

Your parents aren't always going to be there.

Off topic to OP's question, but this is terrible advice for all but the mildest situations kids can find themselves in. Abuse never 'toughens up' a person as much as it damages them psychologically, no matter who the abuse is coming from. See, e.g., the school experiences of school shooters and other children who died by suicide. The crap that happens to kids in school is psychologically formative. 'Learning to fit in' when surrounded by bullies who don't want you to fit in can lead to some seriously messed up kids. It is MORE than OK for parents to step in and help children who are sill developing. Sometimes that is what it takes for a child to grow up and then be able cope with the adult world when they eventually do become adults. Look around you at the adults who can't cope -- they were often the kids left in terrible social situations and not helped by the adults around them.

Better to eat the 15k, than having to eat 50k.

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Anonymous wrote:With the crazy wait lists and demands there is no legal reason to enforce the contract. If they can't fill the spot then maybe they can go after you. A good lawyer can write a letter to the school explaining the laws in your state. Typical rules

- A full refund of tuition if the student withdraws before the start of the school year or term.
- A partial refund (e.g. 50-75% of remaining tuition) if the student withdraws within the first few weeks of the school year or term.
- No refund for tuition if the student withdraws after a certain cutoff date, such as 4-6 weeks into the school year or term.

Huh? Typical for DMV is you are on the hook after June 1 unless you purchased insurance and follow the rules of the insurance policy.

And the insurance policies typically include a requirement to attend the first week or two of school.

Anonymous wrote:With the crazy wait lists and demands there is no legal reason to enforce the contract. If they can't fill the spot then maybe they can go after you. A good lawyer can write a letter to the school explaining the laws in your state. Typical rules

- A full refund of tuition if the student withdraws before the start of the school year or term.
- A partial refund (e.g. 50-75% of remaining tuition) if the student withdraws within the first few weeks of the school year or term.
- No refund for tuition if the student withdraws after a certain cutoff date, such as 4-6 weeks into the school year or term.

Huh? Typical for DMV is you are on the hook after June 1 unless you purchased insurance and follow the rules of the insurance policy.

If the $15k is already paid, it is a sunk cost and you should move forward with the best school for your kid, not just send them there because you paid for it. Only change would be if it's worth giving the school a try before defaulting to your public school.