Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 13:24     Subject: Re:3 year old still in diapers
Also FWIW pediatricians are not trained in potty training. They are a good source for many things but I wouldn't take that word as gold and would at least explore other sources. You can choose a different method than the three day method (it takes more than 3 days FWIW but gives you a good start) but you do need to ATTEND to it. does that resonate? Like you need to read up, understand the process, different approaches - pick one and go for it (that approach could be differen than a weekend approach).

The pediatrician probably thought you were asking is it normal/ok that she isn't there yet? Of course it is. But he didn't mean DO NOTHING until 4 and she will magically start peeing/pooping in the potty.

I'm sorry folks are being mean, I think you are just trying to follow your child's lead which is so great in many aspects of parenting! and is something you can still do with this WITH the tools to help her through something brand new for her.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 13:20     Subject: 3 year old still in diapers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Do you have a potty already? We trained our daughter shortly after she turned 2 but started by having a potty in the bathroom months before and casually offering it to her, especially for BMs where she gave clear signs it was about to happen. She wasn't interested, but we still offered. Then we introduced some potty books to introduce her to the idea of "potty training" and being a big girl. After that, one random day she said "yes" to using the potty and we had underwear in her favorite character print ready. Took about a week and pretty painless.


We have one in the bathroom, we've not been consistent but had her sit on it for 15 minutes every other day just to try and get used to it, she's not used it yet though


OP after reading more of your posts I really do recommend getting the Big Little Feelings videos on this. It will really help to give you confidence and a framework! No 3 year old is going to want to sit on a potty for 15 minutes! I'm amazed you could get her to do that. I don't think that is the approach you want. What is it you're looking for that would make you think she is emotionally ready? That part is not clear. There isn't typically any magical change that means they are emotionally ready for it. Many kids will never show interest. And yes it is hard with daycare and managing that, but that is why many many parents now do the three day weekend approach to get a head start and then daycare can help you as she gets used to it. It really sounds like you need a strategy here.


It's not something we've been concerned of, it's something at the check up that she'd pick it up before she turns 4. We've not got a full weekend until September to give it our best shot, with mini breaks and visiting relatives


OP I'm going to give up because it doesn't sound like you're interested in the answers we are giving you to the question that you asked. I get that you're saying you haven't been concerned, that is clear. But your question was whether you should be and we are all sort of unanimously saying you should attend to it. You don't need to be concerned, these things do figure themselves out and you will eventually be forced to attend to it at some point, but it sounds like you would benefit from reading some evidence based sources on strategies, educating yourself more on the potty training process and THEN make decisions on whether you should do it now, in a few months, or continue with your approach. You can do a little more reading or watching videos on the process without having to block off a weekend in the next few weeks. I know it is hard to find the time, it may not be in the next few weeks but having a plan is usually helpful.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 13:00     Subject: 3 year old still in diapers
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Do you have a potty already? We trained our daughter shortly after she turned 2 but started by having a potty in the bathroom months before and casually offering it to her, especially for BMs where she gave clear signs it was about to happen. She wasn't interested, but we still offered. Then we introduced some potty books to introduce her to the idea of "potty training" and being a big girl. After that, one random day she said "yes" to using the potty and we had underwear in her favorite character print ready. Took about a week and pretty painless.


We have one in the bathroom, we've not been consistent but had her sit on it for 15 minutes every other day just to try and get used to it, she's not used it yet though


Because you HAVE NOT been consistent! Duh.


We can only do it on weekends consistentlywith us both working, and daycare want progress at home before starting taking her there


I'm the PP that wrote about what we did with our daughter. We did not consistently make her sit on the potty, either. That actually made her angry and resist it more (she is incredibly stubborn). We found being casual with it to be much better.

Also two working parents and she had just started daycare/preschool at the time. So our "potty training" was limited to evenings after she came home and the weekend. We never did the "oh sh!t" or any of the more stringent methods. Follow her cues but you should definitely be leading her.


DP. I agree there are other ways to do it, but I took a day off work over a long weekend so I could focus on doing the Oh Sh*t method. Parenting takes work.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 12:59     Subject: 3 year old still in diapers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you have a potty already? We trained our daughter shortly after she turned 2 but started by having a potty in the bathroom months before and casually offering it to her, especially for BMs where she gave clear signs it was about to happen. She wasn't interested, but we still offered. Then we introduced some potty books to introduce her to the idea of "potty training" and being a big girl. After that, one random day she said "yes" to using the potty and we had underwear in her favorite character print ready. Took about a week and pretty painless.


We have one in the bathroom, we've not been consistent but had her sit on it for 15 minutes every other day just to try and get used to it, she's not used it yet though


wtf?? 15 minutes? why! that’s a long time to make a 3 year old sit.

OP are you getting all your parenting advice from Tiktok? Maybe you should just listen to your inlaws.

Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 12:57     Subject: Re:3 year old still in diapers
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Hi op, lots of different opinions on this. That is a random potty training product website, not really a reliable source and what they are saying doesn't align with what I've read. But, there isn't great research on potty training (who wants to focus on that) so it isn't like there is some ultimate source. But I definitely wouldn't base your full decision on a list like that.

Like another poster said, if your child is able to express their needs to you verbally, can pull up and down their pants (we actually potty trained before my younger could fully do this so it isn't a requirement), they are probably ready. Some kids will just do it on their own but MOST need you to initiate, get them excited and remove the diapers.

I would recommend getting the big little feelings course and making a plan to address it:
https://biglittlefeelings.com/courses/potty-training-made-simple/?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwnei0BhB-EiwAA2xuBte7FMJN5LWNEwR8-P0LlD4Dab505YDvv-A_zA38kLc7Tg7GgVvZERoCkwMQAvD_BwE

Maybe she'll show more signs of interest, but after 3 they get used to it and she'll probably just continue on - it is all she knows. If her personality is one to just keep on keeping on, she will. Doesn't mean she can't or shouldn't be potty trained.

There isn't a perfect right answer, some parents wait and it is fine. Some wait and it is really hard. We did it early and don't regret it at all. At 3 I would start addressing it, personally.


Op here thanks we'll look into it, starting to think our 3 year check up advice wasn't the best. I've been reading things based on the doctors advice that recommended leaving it so have probably been biased by that


There are definitely two schools of thought on this and I can't say which one is best. Probably neither - it is probably fine to leave it for a little! But just know, that she CAN definitely do it - 100%. I wouldn't not do it because you think she's "not ready." 3 year olds unless there are some developmental concerns are ready. It is more what works for your family and those sorts of things.


Thanks I'm sure she's physically ready, but she isn't emotionally ready, hence why we've been waiting a little longer. We will start introducing, but her lack of interest is what is putting us off.


OP. You have to *teach* your child. Kids don’t naturally have interest in all the things they need to learn. That’s why we adults need to actually teach them.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 12:56     Subject: Re:3 year old still in diapers
Anonymous wrote:Hi op, lots of different opinions on this. That is a random potty training product website, not really a reliable source and what they are saying doesn't align with what I've read. But, there isn't great research on potty training (who wants to focus on that) so it isn't like there is some ultimate source. But I definitely wouldn't base your full decision on a list like that.

Like another poster said, if your child is able to express their needs to you verbally, can pull up and down their pants (we actually potty trained before my younger could fully do this so it isn't a requirement), they are probably ready. Some kids will just do it on their own but MOST need you to initiate, get them excited and remove the diapers.

I would recommend getting the big little feelings course and making a plan to address it:
https://biglittlefeelings.com/courses/potty-training-made-simple/?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwnei0BhB-EiwAA2xuBte7FMJN5LWNEwR8-P0LlD4Dab505YDvv-A_zA38kLc7Tg7GgVvZERoCkwMQAvD_BwE

Maybe she'll show more signs of interest, but after 3 they get used to it and she'll probably just continue on - it is all she knows. If her personality is one to just keep on keeping on, she will. Doesn't mean she can't or shouldn't be potty trained.

There isn't a perfect right answer, some parents wait and it is fine. Some wait and it is really hard. We did it early and don't regret it at all. At 3 I would start addressing it, personally.


No that was a diaper wipes company, obviously it's in their interest to encourage diaper use over underwear.

You sound lazy OP. Just potty train your kid. Diapers on a 3 year old are gross
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 12:55     Subject: 3 year old still in diapers
Anonymous wrote:How did you know to start. Daughter only really showing sign 6 here, so that's why we're leaving for now

https://www.kandookids.com/blog/when-to-start-potty-training/


lol my kid showed zero of these signs. we trained him using the bootcamp method at 3 and it was fine.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 12:54     Subject: 3 year old still in diapers
You’re the parent - you decide when she’s ready. She’s three. Do you expect her to say “Please mummy, I’m ready to potty train now!”
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 12:52     Subject: 3 year old still in diapers
OP you're late to the potty, and daycare should help with this. You do the work on weekends and daycare does the work during the week.

OR you take a week off and do potty boot camp.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 11:56     Subject: 3 year old still in diapers
It’s late. Period. Stop making excuses. Most parents work.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 11:48     Subject: 3 year old still in diapers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you have a potty already? We trained our daughter shortly after she turned 2 but started by having a potty in the bathroom months before and casually offering it to her, especially for BMs where she gave clear signs it was about to happen. She wasn't interested, but we still offered. Then we introduced some potty books to introduce her to the idea of "potty training" and being a big girl. After that, one random day she said "yes" to using the potty and we had underwear in her favorite character print ready. Took about a week and pretty painless.


We have one in the bathroom, we've not been consistent but had her sit on it for 15 minutes every other day just to try and get used to it, she's not used it yet though


OP after reading more of your posts I really do recommend getting the Big Little Feelings videos on this. It will really help to give you confidence and a framework! No 3 year old is going to want to sit on a potty for 15 minutes! I'm amazed you could get her to do that. I don't think that is the approach you want. What is it you're looking for that would make you think she is emotionally ready? That part is not clear. There isn't typically any magical change that means they are emotionally ready for it. Many kids will never show interest. And yes it is hard with daycare and managing that, but that is why many many parents now do the three day weekend approach to get a head start and then daycare can help you as she gets used to it. It really sounds like you need a strategy here.


It's not something we've been concerned of, it's something at the check up that she'd pick it up before she turns 4. We've not got a full weekend until September to give it our best shot, with mini breaks and visiting relatives
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 11:35     Subject: 3 year old still in diapers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you have a potty already? We trained our daughter shortly after she turned 2 but started by having a potty in the bathroom months before and casually offering it to her, especially for BMs where she gave clear signs it was about to happen. She wasn't interested, but we still offered. Then we introduced some potty books to introduce her to the idea of "potty training" and being a big girl. After that, one random day she said "yes" to using the potty and we had underwear in her favorite character print ready. Took about a week and pretty painless.


We have one in the bathroom, we've not been consistent but had her sit on it for 15 minutes every other day just to try and get used to it, she's not used it yet though


OP after reading more of your posts I really do recommend getting the Big Little Feelings videos on this. It will really help to give you confidence and a framework! No 3 year old is going to want to sit on a potty for 15 minutes! I'm amazed you could get her to do that. I don't think that is the approach you want. What is it you're looking for that would make you think she is emotionally ready? That part is not clear. There isn't typically any magical change that means they are emotionally ready for it. Many kids will never show interest. And yes it is hard with daycare and managing that, but that is why many many parents now do the three day weekend approach to get a head start and then daycare can help you as she gets used to it. It really sounds like you need a strategy here.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 11:29     Subject: 3 year old still in diapers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you have a potty already? We trained our daughter shortly after she turned 2 but started by having a potty in the bathroom months before and casually offering it to her, especially for BMs where she gave clear signs it was about to happen. She wasn't interested, but we still offered. Then we introduced some potty books to introduce her to the idea of "potty training" and being a big girl. After that, one random day she said "yes" to using the potty and we had underwear in her favorite character print ready. Took about a week and pretty painless.


We have one in the bathroom, we've not been consistent but had her sit on it for 15 minutes every other day just to try and get used to it, she's not used it yet though


Because you HAVE NOT been consistent! Duh.


We can only do it on weekends consistentlywith us both working, and daycare want progress at home before starting taking her there


I'm the PP that wrote about what we did with our daughter. We did not consistently make her sit on the potty, either. That actually made her angry and resist it more (she is incredibly stubborn). We found being casual with it to be much better.

Also two working parents and she had just started daycare/preschool at the time. So our "potty training" was limited to evenings after she came home and the weekend. We never did the "oh sh!t" or any of the more stringent methods. Follow her cues but you should definitely be leading her.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 11:16     Subject: 3 year old still in diapers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you have a potty already? We trained our daughter shortly after she turned 2 but started by having a potty in the bathroom months before and casually offering it to her, especially for BMs where she gave clear signs it was about to happen. She wasn't interested, but we still offered. Then we introduced some potty books to introduce her to the idea of "potty training" and being a big girl. After that, one random day she said "yes" to using the potty and we had underwear in her favorite character print ready. Took about a week and pretty painless.


We have one in the bathroom, we've not been consistent but had her sit on it for 15 minutes every other day just to try and get used to it, she's not used it yet though


Because you HAVE NOT been consistent! Duh.


We can only do it on weekends consistentlywith us both working, and daycare want progress at home before starting taking her there
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2024 11:06     Subject: 3 year old still in diapers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you have a potty already? We trained our daughter shortly after she turned 2 but started by having a potty in the bathroom months before and casually offering it to her, especially for BMs where she gave clear signs it was about to happen. She wasn't interested, but we still offered. Then we introduced some potty books to introduce her to the idea of "potty training" and being a big girl. After that, one random day she said "yes" to using the potty and we had underwear in her favorite character print ready. Took about a week and pretty painless.


We have one in the bathroom, we've not been consistent but had her sit on it for 15 minutes every other day just to try and get used to it, she's not used it yet though


Because you HAVE NOT been consistent! Duh.