Buck up, OP. Your mom is being over the top and you’re letting it get to you. Start honing your boundary-setting skills now.

I’m 12 weeks now and I am not going to fly at all during this pregnancy due to sensitive ears. It ducks so bad being in pain and pregnancy has its own set of problems. Definitely wear compression socks and get up to go to the bathroom as much as you can. I get so stiff after sitting more than 20 or so mins. I flew until I was 6 months pregnant with my first. I wouldn’t do it again because it’s so uncomfortable. Each pregnancy I slow down more and more because otherwise I end up in PT for sciatica. This is pregnancy 3

You should work with a therapist now before the baby is born so you can work on setting boundaries. This WILL cause issues in your marriage and it's unfair to make DH the "bad guy" by being the one who stands up to her.

I flew then and didn’t notice a difference at all. Safe travels!

You are a grown woman who is about to raise her own child. Stop allowing your mom to cause you to “feel bad” about your adult choices. This is a decision between you and your partner - she doesn’t get a say.

There are flight attendants and pilots who get pregnant and continue to work. You'll be fine and if for some reason you aren't, the flight won't be the reason.

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Anonymous wrote:I personally traveled several times at 12-20 weeks, including at least a couple of flights across the county. If I recall correctly, my doctor gave me the first two trimesters to travel, then told me to stay close to home during the third trimester.

I've known people who had earlier restrictions, but only if they were high risk for some specific reason.

Does you mom have any specific concerns? What exactly is she worried about? Do you have any high risk factors?

She said the air pressure from the airplane is not good for pregnancy.

She's wrong. Airplanes are pressurized to the equivalent air pressure that you'd find at 8,000 ft elevation. People live at those elevations and have healthy pregnancies all the time.

-- Pilot

Is your mom this anxious normally? Or is this just something that has started with your pregnancy?

I agree with the other poster that you should probably limit what you tell her. She is not reacting normally.

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Anonymous wrote:Your mom doesn't know what she's talking about. Your doctor does and already said it's fine!

Yes, why would you need to triple check? Did your mom secretary get a medical degree?

I did not call again. I think she just got to me this morning. Thank you! I knew better but somehow her words did make feel a little guilty.

I hope you have a nice trip, OP. You might want to consider limiting what info you share going forward if she’s anxious (and will make you feel anxious as a result). Not faulting you at all for sharing your trip info, just something to think about so you can enjoy your pregnancy without unnecessary worry. Congrats!

My midwife approved it and I flew a lot for work up until somewhere in the 3rd trimester. I was always in or near a city, so I knew it would be easy enough to get medical attention if needed. Once went on a cruise while in 1st tri.

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Anonymous wrote:Your mom doesn't know what she's talking about. Your doctor does and already said it's fine!

Yes, why would you need to triple check? Did your mom secretary get a medical degree?

I did not call again. I think she just got to me this morning. Thank you! I knew better but somehow her words did make feel a little guilty.

Anonymous wrote:You should respectfully tell your mom that you appreciate she wants the best for you and her yet-to-be-born grandchild but that this has no basis in reality or medical advice and you can't let her anxiety control your reasonable choices. In my family my husband would be OK helping each out to my mom to say this, sensitively, and she would probably respond better to him than to me. YMMV.

Fly!

Thank you! My husband offered to speak with her because I have a feeling it is not going to get any better. She has already called me several times since she found out we were expecting yesterday with a list of "advice", etc.

Anonymous wrote:Your mom has anxiety over this pregnancy. Something to keep in mind. It's not going to get better.

But other than that, you should be fine.

Thank you! I thought so too but then again I think she just got to me this morning.

Anonymous wrote:I personally traveled several times at 12-20 weeks, including at least a couple of flights across the county. If I recall correctly, my doctor gave me the first two trimesters to travel, then told me to stay close to home during the third trimester.

I've known people who had earlier restrictions, but only if they were high risk for some specific reason.

Does you mom have any specific concerns? What exactly is she worried about? Do you have any high risk factors?

She said the air pressure from the airplane is not good for pregnancy.

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely no issue. My sibling is an OBGYN, also 12 weeks pregnant right now, and leaving on a plane cross country tomorrow (hello sister if you see this you'll know it is me I'm sure!) Your mom is completely wrong here.

Thank you! I think my mom just made me feel anxious. We are only taking a 3-hour flight.