My adhd kid is super irritable and i am pretty sure its anxiety. Its not the actual adhd that makes him grouchy.

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Anonymous wrote:Ds/ 11/ audhd seems to be in a state of near constant irritation. Things are never going how he wants them to. He is in therapy. What is this and how do I address it?

It could also just be either a personality — some people are just whiners. Or could be modeling behavior he sees from those around him, namely family including his parents.

Those are more likely explanations than blaming it on a mental defect.

Oh good someone came to troll the sn board from outside again.

ADHD and autism are not ‘mental defects’.
Internet trolling though - that is a mental defect

Anonymous wrote:Ds/ 11/ audhd seems to be in a state of near constant irritation. Things are never going how he wants them to. He is in therapy. What is this and how do I address it?

It could also just be either a personality — some people are just whiners. Or could be modeling behavior he sees from those around him, namely family including his parents.

Those are more likely explanations than blaming it on a mental defect.

For my always aggrieved profoundly ADHD kid, it was anxiety. When the anxiety was lowered (years of therapy, meds for a couple of years, better school situation, etc), the irritability disappeared! It was gradual but like magic. He is in college now and rarely irritable, but it comes out when he's stressed.

Anonymous wrote:With either ADHD or ASD, the world doesn't mesh with who these kids are, leading to so many misunderstandings. All day, every day. It's a capricious, unfathomable world. Of course these kids feel aggrieved.

I know a family of ASD and the father is so kind. He has all the symptoms 24/7 but when something messes up he says Oops, or I’m sorry. When his kid messes up he says the same and adds He’s doing his best. He is aware enough to say, I don’t know what you’re talking about.

The result is most people show him grace and repeat themselves or help him or change to an easier topic. Sure some people have a deadline or need some fast processors and that’s fine too.

But by HIM being nice and kind after confusion, he doesn’t destroy relationships. Like how being mean, explosive or defiant would.