Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry for your condition. You should break up with him. You are going to have a hard time finding a partner. It will be very difficult for someone to deal with your condition. Be very upfront on the first date about your allergies in the future.

Be clear on the first date that you can only date him if he agrees to never wear a fragrance, and that every product should be scent free.

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Anonymous wrote:Because there is no such thing as a serious medical allergy to fragrance. It’s not a thing. But please break with him and enjoy the solitude. Or maybe your find a kid to your pot.

Are you an allergist? A medical professional who studies allergy?

If not, then STFU

There is definitely severe allergy to fragrance.

I have become seriously ill from exposure to air freshener -- headaches, dizziness, overall ill feeling -- twice.

I can't wear any sort of fragrance, can't use skin care products, no fragrances in my home, no scented cleaning products, or I become ill.

If you don't suffer from it, then STFU and mind your own business.

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Anonymous wrote:Can the person wear normal deodorant or no?

Not op, but in my case, no.

Op, I’m also allergic to fragrances. It’s a pain!! So glad I can work from home.

I’m female and I generally find guys are willing to switch products. Most guys don’t care what laundry detergent they use or what shampoo etc. I imagine it’s harder to be an allergic guy dating a woman because women are choosier about their products.

I do tend to buy the products for them and just leave them in their bathroom (after discussing it with them). That way they know what to buy.

So I think you can find a guy who will be respectful about this. I would break up with someone who wouldn’t be respectful about this. Someone who isn’t is a di*k anyway.

That said, sometimes it can take a while for cologne and laundry detergent to get out of clothes. Are you still smelling it one him and assuming he’s still using the fragrances? Or has he derided you or not thrown out the scented detergent and cologne etc? Make sure it’s not just residual perfume from when he was using the scented stuff before he met you.

Oh also. When I was online dating, I mentioned my allergies in my dating profile.

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Anonymous wrote:Can the person wear normal deodorant or no?

Not op, but in my case, no.

Op, I’m also allergic to fragrances. It’s a pain!! So glad I can work from home.

I’m female and I generally find guys are willing to switch products. Most guys don’t care what laundry detergent they use or what shampoo etc. I imagine it’s harder to be an allergic guy dating a woman because women are choosier about their products.

I do tend to buy the products for them and just leave them in their bathroom (after discussing it with them). That way they know what to buy.

So I think you can find a guy who will be respectful about this. I would break up with someone who wouldn’t be respectful about this. Someone who isn’t is a di*k anyway.

That said, sometimes it can take a while for cologne and laundry detergent to get out of clothes. Are you still smelling it one him and assuming he’s still using the fragrances? Or has he derided you or not thrown out the scented detergent and cologne etc? Make sure it’s not just residual perfume from when he was using the scented stuff before he met you.

Anonymous wrote:Can the person wear normal deodorant or no?

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how this is a WWYD question. You've stopped going out with him already. That's what you do.

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Anonymous wrote:Break up. I’m puzzled how you can physically have sex with someone wearing an allergen, though.

I can't anymore.

I told him when we met I was allergic to fragrance. I asked him not to wear any cologne.

I am not allergic to anything else, not dogs, cats, penicillin, bee stings, peanuts, or shellfish.

I just have this sensitivity to some fragrances. Sunscreens for example must be fragrance free.