Anonymous
Post 07/03/2024 21:09     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
Anonymous wrote:There is a sixth grade boy on my DD’s summer swim team who is super into playing with the group of seven year old girls. There’s lots of ticking and chasing each other around. I have told my DD to knock it off and she has but the group persists in chasing this kid and vice versa. Am I off base to find this creepy?


No. Have a talk with your DD again to make sure she understands your concern. And then keep an eye on it.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2024 19:19     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
I wouldn’t allow it with my child either, OP. Let all these progressive parents on this thread let their daughters get molested in the name of inclusion, instead.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2024 18:31     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
Anonymous wrote:There is a sixth grade boy on my DD’s summer swim team who is super into playing with the group of seven year old girls. There’s lots of ticking and chasing each other around. I have told my DD to knock it off and she has but the group persists in chasing this kid and vice versa. Am I off base to find this creepy?


Some kids are immature and prefer to play with children younger than them. However, only a person observing it can make a judgement call, hard to comment on second hand account, without factoring in human biases.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2024 17:51     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
Anonymous wrote:Oh my god, OP. You're disgusting.


-1. Take a few child safety trainings. There are some very damaged kids out there that perpetuate damage. For OP to be aware of that fact is realistic, not disgusting. To make sure her kid isn’t the one being tickled - even if, as is most likely, this is a totally innocent situation - is just good parenting. Doesn’t mean OP needs to take any other action, but it’s ok to be alert.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2024 16:32     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Very odd. Is he NT?


What's so odd?? They're kids playing, did you only strictly play with kids your exact age growing up?


Wel I have a 6th grade boy, and he would have no interest at all in playing with a bunch of little kids.


Hate to break it to him, but he still is a little. He needs to enjoy it while he can.i


+1. The "mature" 6th graders I know are dropping f-bombs and harassing people at the local shopping center, chasing each other through stores and leaving their bikes laying everywhere. I prefer the 6th grade boy playing with younger kids.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2024 16:31     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It is likely that the boy is having developmental problems. A kid playing with kids younger than they are is likely not being 'creepy' or a 'predator' they are just likely having difficulty socializing with kids their own age. Which is generally really difficult for them.

So I would hope his parents help him because it is hard and emotional to take that leap out of childhood and he needs support. But I would not jump to any conclusions that an 11 year old clinging to playing with kids younger than him needs anything other than compassion.


I wouldn't jump to conclusions. And he's only 11, why does he have to be done with his childhood?


He doesn't have to be done with childhood but he can also have boundaries. No tickling is just basic. He's way too old for that.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2024 14:25     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
What’s the gender and age breakdown of the swim team? Maybe he’s just running around and playing because there are few boys his age and/or the other kids age don’t want to “play.”

I don’t find it creepy at all.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2024 14:15     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Very odd. Is he NT?


What's so odd?? They're kids playing, did you only strictly play with kids your exact age growing up?


Wel I have a 6th grade boy, and he would have no interest at all in playing with a bunch of little kids.


Hate to break it to him, but he still is a little. He needs to enjoy it while he can.i
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2024 00:01     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
Anonymous wrote:It is likely that the boy is having developmental problems. A kid playing with kids younger than they are is likely not being 'creepy' or a 'predator' they are just likely having difficulty socializing with kids their own age. Which is generally really difficult for them.

So I would hope his parents help him because it is hard and emotional to take that leap out of childhood and he needs support. But I would not jump to any conclusions that an 11 year old clinging to playing with kids younger than him needs anything other than compassion.


I can relate to this. I spent time with kids younger than me for this reason. I’m female, NT, and fairly certain I came across as simply nurturing. But the reason I was drawn to the younger kids was absolutely because it was easier than playing with kids my age.

I like the no tickling rule another pp suggested. It strikes a good balance.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 22:11     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Very odd. Is he NT?


No


Then there is your answer.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 22:10     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Very odd. Is he NT?


What's so odd?? They're kids playing, did you only strictly play with kids your exact age growing up?


Wel I have a 6th grade boy, and he would have no interest at all in playing with a bunch of little kids.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 22:05     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
Anonymous wrote:Oh my god, OP. You're disgusting.


+1
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 22:05     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
Anonymous wrote:Very odd. Is he NT?


No
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 20:28     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
Oh my god, OP. You're disgusting.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2024 18:45     Subject: 11 year old boy super into playing with 7 year olds?
Anonymous wrote:Very odd. Is he NT?


What's so odd?? They're kids playing, did you only strictly play with kids your exact age growing up?