Divorce is hell. But so is a shitty marriage.
I wouldn’t say I am happier. But I now live in peace. I lost a lot of things I value in order to feel safe and have agency over my body and my decisions.

I do have a new loving partner but that relationship does very little to numb the pain of divorce. I would much rather be happily married to the father of

Anonymous wrote:I would reaffirm what the PPs said: totally worth it for the woman if you have money. Meaning own house, travel as much as during marriage, a rewarding career.

Yep. Divorce freed me from the man I married with his champagne taste and beer budget.

He became an abusive alcoholic. I got primary custody, have family money, and finally have peace. It was a bad bad marriage by the end of 15 years and nearly took my life.

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Anonymous wrote:Men are lining up to date a middle-aged single mother approaching menopause!

Go away incel

Not that poster. But it is true. I have no shortage of suitors.

Why does it matter if a woman has “suitors” or not? Seriously?

Because regular sex is important for many women in 40s and 50s.

You significantly overestimate the abilities of men in that same age group vs sex toys for women

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Anonymous wrote:Men are lining up to date a middle-aged single mother approaching menopause!

Go away incel

Not that poster. But it is true. I have no shortage of suitors.

Why does it matter if a woman has “suitors” or not? Seriously?

Because regular sex is important for many women in 40s and 50s.

Two of my closest friends (one male, one female) divorced in early- mid-40s. It was really rough for both initially, and they are both infinitely happier now. Due to kids, they spend a lot of time with their ex-es, and their relationships with them have improved a lot now that they aren't married to them any longer. Notably, they both met their ex-spouses in college, so in some ways they are only now experiencing dating as full adults (e.g. jobs, not school).

TBH, I could not imagine going through a divorce (46 y.o. woman), but I am overall happy in my marriage. In both the cases of my friends, they were deeply unhappy and things had gotten quite hostile with their spouses. I think they are both better off.

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Anonymous wrote:Men are lining up to date a middle-aged single mother approaching menopause!

Go away incel

Not that poster. But it is true. I have no shortage of suitors.

Why does it matter if a woman has “suitors” or not? Seriously?

Woman here I have the same question. This isn’t the Bridgerton era.

I did not mean literally as men wanting to get married. I meant men wanting to date you. That is what I meant. Not sure why people are harping on the word.

But nothing in the original post indicates OP is asking about dating. She asked how divorce worked out. Your post assumes she/we GAF about dating. Some of us do and some dont, but whether life after divorce is successful is not defined by the availability of suitors/dates.

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Anonymous wrote:Men are lining up to date a middle-aged single mother approaching menopause!

Go away incel

Not that poster. But it is true. I have no shortage of suitors.

Why does it matter if a woman has “suitors” or not? Seriously?

Woman here I have the same question. This isn’t the Bridgerton era.

I did not mean literally as men wanting to get married. I meant men wanting to date you. That is what I meant. Not sure why people are harping on the word.

Of course you are incel implying that middle aged women are not datable. This is simply not true. I dated several nice men post divorce in mid 40s, all within 5 years of my own age. All were looking for a serious relationship

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Anonymous wrote:Men are lining up to date a middle-aged single mother approaching menopause!

Go away incel

Not that poster. But it is true. I have no shortage of suitors.

Why does it matter if a woman has “suitors” or not? Seriously?

Woman here I have the same question. This isn’t the Bridgerton era.

I did not mean literally as men wanting to get married. I meant men wanting to date you. That is what I meant. Not sure why people are harping on the word.

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Anonymous wrote:Men are lining up to date a middle-aged single mother approaching menopause!

Go away incel

Not that poster. But it is true. I have no shortage of suitors.

Why does it matter if a woman has “suitors” or not? Seriously?

Woman here I have the same question. This isn’t the Bridgerton era.

Anonymous wrote:Would love to hear from anyone who did this or have close friends who did - and how it worked out/ are you/ they glad you did it/ how are you2 they doing now?

Speaking from someone who just turned 60 who is going through it now, waiting doesn’t make it any easier or better. Do not spend years of your life in a dead end marriage if it can’t be repaired.

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Anonymous wrote:Men are lining up to date a middle-aged single mother approaching menopause!

Go away incel

Not that poster. But it is true. I have no shortage of suitors.

Why does it matter if a woman has “suitors” or not? Seriously?

I guess you didn’t read the thread because I was responding to the person who said this:

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Men are lining up to date a middle-aged single mother approaching menopause!”

Mid 40s women usually don’t have any problem dating if they are attractive. that was the point.

It’s been fine as I have been able to focus on me and my kids rather than on dealing with an abusive ex. I have a good job so money isn’t a big issue though our lifestyle is a step down but worth it. I’m lucky to have a FWB who is not LTR material but who is truly gifted in bed.

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I mean, are you trying to be ironic?

I’m 2 months in and so far so good. Feel like a giant weight has been removed. Uninterested in a relationship but maybe FWB eventually.

Divorced at 47. 50 now. Life is so much better for the reasons PP said - not sharing space with someone that took so much out of me. And loneliness IN a marriage is SO much worse than being alone / not in a romantic relationship.

BUT - the opportunities for a new long term relationship are pretty slim. The dating pool is gross. You see it on here - all the men that just want to sleep around. And the ones that want something serious and are worth my time have their pick of a very large pool (because there are few of them relative to the women looking fro #2).

That said, sex is easy to find, and I have had no problem making/keeping friends and having a great social life.

So - all good, as long as you aren’t expecting to find husband #2 and live happily ever after.