Anonymous wrote:Obviously cultural differences matter. Its almost a given for Indian women to pierce nose and ears and wear beautiful jewelry.

A pierced nose is different than a pierced nipple or belly button or pierced tongue.

Frankly she’s lucky it’s piercing and not tattoo. At least it isn’t permanent like a tattoo

It's HER body. You need to learn to allow women to have bodily autonomy. You would want the same for yourself.

Anonymous wrote:Not PP but studies show that healthy adventurous people experiment with a couple of tattoos and piercings, ones with several are almost always clinically depressed, no matter how fun they try to appear to external observers. Button,plug, tunnel piercings and large tattoos are often a cry for help.

Oh please. I know dozens of ppl with multiple piercings and/or many tattoos. They do it for themselves not to appear “fun” to others. And it’s quite a conclusion to think all of these folks are clinically depressed.

There is no surer way to ensure she keeps getting pierced than knowing that you disapprove. Half the fun is disturbing mom.

Say nothing.

It sounds like OP doesn’t have a close relationship with her DD if the first time she is made aware of the new piercings is when DD showed up at the house. Like a pp indicated, eventually the piercings go away, if indeed it is just a period of experimentation. If however she shows up the next time with more piercings and or added several tattoos, like one other pp mentioned it could be tied to some mental health or emotional trouble.

Anonymous wrote:Just tell her you think they look so cool and that you are thinking of getting a few too. Suggest that you together for a few piercings, perhaps VCH.

Why would anyone get one of those.
Sounds terrifying and dangerous.

My DD had several including nipple ones during college... I think she was trying to experiment and figure out her identity. She also had some confidence issues. They have been going away over the past 2 years since she graduated. I never said anything. If she asked what I thought of them I'd say I wasn't a fan in a non-judgmental way.

Anonymous wrote:I think these excess piercings scream “no class”, just like excess tattoos. Or any tattoos, frankly.

I personally don't like or want any tattoos but I can understand one or two small ones with some significance or for fun if it can be covered with clothing. I doubt its a class issue for anyone other than religious prudes.

I think these excess piercings scream “no class”, just like excess tattoos. Or any tattoos, frankly.

Anonymous wrote:
She sounds fun.

I bet she’s on OF and fetlife.

Obviously cultural differences matter. Its almost a given for Indian women to pierce nose and ears and wear beautiful jewelry.

Not PP but studies show that healthy adventurous people experiment with a couple of tattoos and piercings, ones with several are almost always clinically depressed, no matter how fun they try to appear to external observers. Button,plug, tunnel piercings and large tattoos are often a cry for help.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
She sounds fun.

No. She sounds depressed or angry or traumatized. And it’s sad.

Because she has piercings? LOL

Anonymous wrote:
She sounds fun.

No. She sounds depressed or angry or traumatized. And it’s sad.

She sounds fun.