Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My only warning to you would be to be careful with casual hookups. Soon after my divorce I got into the FWBs thingy, but it didn't work out. Each one of the FWBs after a few months were excepting something serious. 1 explicitly asked. 2 said they would continue having sex only if we became exclusive. They were all in their 40s. I don't do anything with anyone under 30 because they are either looking for kids/marriage or a serious boyfriend. I thought women in the 40s would be better nope. Thats just my experience.

Yea, too bad women tend to get naturally attached though having sex. Maybe you should consider a poly arrangement with one “prime” and others coming over for threesomes. I know someone who does it, but he’s got hundreds of millions and bandwidth for all women in his “pride”

Please don’t speak for all women. I don’t get “attached” though having sex.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My only warning to you would be to be careful with casual hookups. Soon after my divorce I got into the FWBs thingy, but it didn't work out. Each one of the FWBs after a few months were excepting something serious. 1 explicitly asked. 2 said they would continue having sex only if we became exclusive. They were all in their 40s. I don't do anything with anyone under 30 because they are either looking for kids/marriage or a serious boyfriend. I thought women in the 40s would be better nope. Thats just my experience.

Yea, too bad women tend to get naturally attached though having sex. Maybe you should consider a poly arrangement with one “prime” and others coming over for threesomes. I know someone who does it, but he’s got hundreds of millions and bandwidth for all women in his “pride”

+1. I am a man and I agree with you. Women just aren't wired for endless hookups.

Anonymous wrote:You lucked out! A man who has not dated 2 years post-divorce wow. Take is as blessing. It’s not even a gender thing to be honest. Anyone who has gone through a divorce and did some introspective thinking will take a long time to go back on the dating market. There are exceptions of course. For instance, I would totally understand an abused spouse who is divorced to want to be in a relationship sooner.

49 year old woman here. I was an abused spouse and it took me 4.5 years before I was ready to date. Was working on myself, dealing with an ex who still abuses me, and focusing on my kids. Did OLD for over a year and recently deleted all my accounts. Took too much of my time and mental energy to match with people, chat and/or meet and be ghosted. And the quality of men is seriously lacking. One was a flat out racist (asked me if my kids were white), another tried to kiss me three times on a first meet up, and the rest were not emotionally intelligent. I’d love to have regular sex but it’s just not worth it.

Anonymous wrote:My only warning to you would be to be careful with casual hookups. Soon after my divorce I got into the FWBs thingy, but it didn't work out. Each one of the FWBs after a few months were excepting something serious. 1 explicitly asked. 2 said they would continue having sex only if we became exclusive. They were all in their 40s. I don't do anything with anyone under 30 because they are either looking for kids/marriage or a serious boyfriend. I thought women in the 40s would be better nope. Thats just my experience.

Yea, too bad women tend to get naturally attached though having sex. Maybe you should consider a poly arrangement with one “prime” and others coming over for threesomes. I know someone who does it, but he’s got hundreds of millions and bandwidth for all women in his “pride”

My only warning to you would be to be careful with casual hookups. Soon after my divorce I got into the FWBs thingy, but it didn't work out. Each one of the FWBs after a few months were excepting something serious. 1 explicitly asked. 2 said they would continue having sex only if we became exclusive. They were all in their 40s. I don't do anything with anyone under 30 because they are either looking for kids/marriage or a serious boyfriend. I thought women in the 40s would be better nope. Thats just my experience.

Anonymous wrote:Dated someone after my divorce for about two years. It seemed like we were both on the same page and wanting to get remarried but she ended up ghosting me. I put in so much effort, time and money into her. And her kids. It felt like it was going to be something that lasted so it really rocked my world when she ended everything and blocked me. I haven't even tried dating or getting into anything LT since. I have FWBs which get really exhausting. Not sure I will ever want to try again for anything LT.

FWBs are exhausting but still not looking for LTR ? It would be indeed exhausting for me to try juggling several lovers.
You need therapy

Dated someone after my divorce for about two years. It seemed like we were both on the same page and wanting to get remarried but she ended up ghosting me. I put in so much effort, time and money into her. And her kids. It felt like it was going to be something that lasted so it really rocked my world when she ended everything and blocked me. I haven't even tried dating or getting into anything LT since. I have FWBs which get really exhausting. Not sure I will ever want to try again for anything LT.

Anonymous wrote:Guess I'm the exception, but I kind of enjoyed OLD. I've had two great relationships as a result. One fizzled and the other I'm still in. I personally liked meeting and getting to know new people. It was fun. I can only think of one or two dates that I didn't have a great time. I'm a 50 year old, divorced male fwiw.

How old is she ?

I had no interest in pursuing dating and I just let it happen organically. But, I had a willingness to date so when the right opportunity came up I was open to it. OLD was just wrong for me.

Guess I'm the exception, but I kind of enjoyed OLD. I've had two great relationships as a result. One fizzled and the other I'm still in. I personally liked meeting and getting to know new people. It was fun. I can only think of one or two dates that I didn't have a great time. I'm a 50 year old, divorced male fwiw.

I’m a widow. It’s been 5 years and I still don’t care about dating. I’m just living my life.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am a divorced woman and would like to be in a new relationship, but have had the same experience with OLD. Just seems exhausting. Hoping to meet people the old-fashioned way.

Third here, woman 40’s. I’m doing the exact same thing and said goodbye to romantic expectations.

OLD seems at best, mediocre and at worst, stalkers with herpes.

Take your time. The last two guys I dated were NOT ready and should have taken their time. I ended up getting hurt and now I'm wary of dating again.

Anonymous wrote:Bro
Check out the sugar baby thread here
No drama no commitment and just have fun

Hahaha they can’t wait for middle age Joe to buy them groceries

Bro
Check out the sugar baby thread here
No drama no commitment and just have fun