Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s unpopular but I think this is why you’re supposed to be married by a certain age. Who wants to be thinking about MEN while you’re aging? A man you can grow old with, without drama and sleeping around and short term relationships is called your husband.

Only if you are happily married otherwise husbands are even more drama than being single

At 53 and single, never married and childless, I have a ton less drama in my life than my peers of similar age.

However I do serve as an always sympathetic sounding board for family and friends who need to unload about the seemingly endless supply of disrespect, inconsideration, and exploitation being experienced by them from husbands and also too often from kids.

I still feel grief over having missed out; we are so deeply hardwired, most of us, to want marriage despite the glaringly clear evidence that it is not a net positive for women - at least not as presently constructed.

After menopause my feelings about men changed dramatically, and I felt almost embarrassed by how obviously my thinking had been hacked for decades by my hormones.

I understand why menopausal women often have dramatic personality changes - they are finally seeing the world free from the biological urges that blinded them to all the toxicity. And yes, often that means feeling angry at men and all the misogyny.

Sorry to say it but the mass of men leading lives of quiet desperation just continue to be selfish into aging - most even more, some a little less.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women lose their beauty as they age, and since society values that, they become bitter. No wonder they aren't taking up new, adventurous hobbies.

Some men can look better as they age -- notice how James Bond has never been played by a guy in his 20s, but plenty of his female counterparts/conquests are that age. A good looking man probalby enjoys the new-found attention, and that builds confidence, then he takes on new hobbies.

Especially after the pesky kids get out of the picture or over at the co-parent’s home!

I don’t understand why everyone puts the word “co” before this word.

Yep. I believe women become less people pleasers. Men stay the same.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman and starting to be less and less interested in men. Several in my life didn't treat me well and as I age I start looking for more security, not less whereas the men seem to be looking for more freedom than before. It's completely unappealing to me to be in a long term relationship with someone who seems to want the opposite. I'm just wondering if this is what naturally happens or is this just past trauma speaking? I can't even remotely relate to the men on here who post about short term relationship conquests. All I can think about is shared diseases and feeling cheap. It's just so unappealing as I think about myself aging and needing less drama in my life.

Diverged? How so?

Diverge in libido? Who cares.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women lose their beauty as they age, and since society values that, they become bitter. No wonder they aren't taking up new, adventurous hobbies.

Some men can look better as they age -- notice how James Bond has never been played by a guy in his 20s, but plenty of his female counterparts/conquests are that age. A good looking man probalby enjoys the new-found attention, and that builds confidence, then he takes on new hobbies.

Especially after the pesky kids get out of the picture or over at the co-parent’s home!

Yea, but they fade close to their 60s and begin behaving and looking like weird wackos in their 60s, all about sleeping around. I've seen many these types and feel sorry for them

Anonymous wrote:Women lose their beauty as they age, and since society values that, they become bitter. No wonder they aren't taking up new, adventurous hobbies.

Some men can look better as they age -- notice how James Bond has never been played by a guy in his 20s, but plenty of his female counterparts/conquests are that age. A good looking man probalby enjoys the new-found attention, and that builds confidence, then he takes on new hobbies.

Especially after the pesky kids get out of the picture or over at the co-parent’s home!

Women take up tons of new and old hobbies in retirement. Open your eyes.

Women lose their beauty as they age, and since society values that, they become bitter. No wonder they aren't taking up new, adventurous hobbies.

Some men can look better as they age -- notice how James Bond has never been played by a guy in his 20s, but plenty of his female counterparts/conquests are that age. A good looking man probalby enjoys the new-found attention, and that builds confidence, then he takes on new hobbies.

Big time

Peeing on the seat increases with age, but time! Thats a divergence.