Of course you tell her, and give her options.

I started a similar thread a couple of years ago and DCUM almost unanimously told me she needed to take care of that or wear board shorts. Her body her choice seemed fine for legs, under arms and lip hair but many brought up kids taking and posting photos that would stay online forever. I don’t know the right answer but I took the advice, bought some board shorts and a variety of hair removal products and told her to pick. She mostly wore the board or boy shorts bottoms that summer.

She’s an older teen now and has bikini like hair removal under control since the terrible cheeky bottoms are in style. Her choice now and never needs reminders. She still doesn’t care that much about her legs, upper lip or underarms. I don’t understand it but she’s comfortable.

"You can use the razor to shave your bikini line if you'd like. There's also nair/waxing etc if it is something you want to try"

I don't remove my body hair but feel like the option presented in a neutral way is the right thing to do

I’m horrified by this post and many like it. You tell your daughter, make sure she knows, and allow her to make an informed decision. it’s cruel to not discuss it. And in all fairness you should be sure she understands social norms, she can choose to disregard them but at least she knows.

DD doesn’t shave legs or underarms, though she has an electric razor in her bathroom if she’d like. She does swim for school and those suits are skimpy. I told her that no one needs to see her pubic hair. She agreed and shaved. I honestly think she didn’t realize and certainly she would have been embarrassed (mortified) had she realized how it looked.
At least point it out and make a suggestion. That’s called parenting.

Anonymous wrote:This is one of those cases where natural consequences will take care of things. Either another teen will mock her, another mom will scold her or a gross dad will ogle her and make her uncomfortable. And then she will deal with it.

This is exactly why you should say something. Who puts their daughter in that position?

Please please tell her and decide what to do about it with her. Do not let her do this. She's totally unaware, I guarantee you. And lots of people have pubic hair that goes way beyond where even a modest bathing suit would go, so don't blame the suit for being too small, people.

Maybe suggest it's time for a better/different fitting suit. Let her know, somehow.

I was at a swimming class with a young woman who had hair going down the insides of her thighs.

Anonymous wrote:"I would let her know she can’t go out with such a small bathing suit bottom."

That's a bad idea.

Why? It’s probably too small which is why so much shows. Too many females thinking they’re size small and squeezing into clothes when they would look so much better with the proper fit.

Get her waxed, she'll thank you later

I hope you are kinder to her about it than you are in your post.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is one of those cases where natural consequences will take care of things. Either another teen will mock her, another mom will scold her or a gross dad will ogle her and make her uncomfortable. And then she will deal with it.

So you parent by waiting for your child to be publicly humiliated? Thank god you weren’t my mother.

+1

Anonymous wrote:This is one of those cases where natural consequences will take care of things. Either another teen will mock her, another mom will scold her or a gross dad will ogle her and make her uncomfortable. And then she will deal with it.

So you parent by waiting for your child to be publicly humiliated? Thank god you weren’t my mother.

Men are whores. Please tell her to take care of that immediately.

I am fine with my teen having hair showing if they want but I would not hesitate to ask them if they know it’s happening.