Anonymous wrote:try dozens, hundreds?, of products and product combos and you will find one that does this

This really is the way.

- almost 50 - finally found my unicorn combo a year ago, and it’s still iffy. It’s a curl cream followed by a gel.

Also, if you find a reasonable product, it’s easy to style curly hair. There’s a lot more forgiveness with curly hair when it’s a bit messy etc.

Don’t brush it, be generous with moisturizing conditioner, and accept that the perfect hair days happen when you aren’t leaving the house and don’t see anyone…

My DD has taken to straightening her hair everyday. It's the simplest way to make it look good.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm lazy and just use curl cream, air dry, scrunch a bit. The drawback is that it takes a couple hours to dry before you can scrunch and get it nice and soft looking. The good part is that it doesn't take any longer than running a brush through straight hair and air drying.

This is basically what I do, without the scrunching.

I wash and condition, wrap it in a microfiber towel while I dry off and get dressed, then take it down and part/comb it. I put in curl cream and a shine product, brush through it with a Denman brush (just brush—not the section by section brush/curl thing I’ve seen people do), then let it air dry. I shower at night and go to bed with it damp.

The Denman brush has made a noticeable difference in the way my hair dries; my hair is very smooth after brushing with it, and my curls have more definition and less frizz when they dry.

See, great example of how everyone is different. I have very fine, thin hair, and the two most important rules for me are that my hair has to be really wet when I put product in and I can't brush it, at all. I just run my fingers through in the shower. I can't wash it at night or I'll be a frizzy, greasy mess the next day. And yes, I have tried what the PP posted! And yes, I 100% believe it works great for her! We just all have wildly different hair, that's why it's so hard to figure out what will work for you.

I’m the PP, and yes, for sure. I have thick, coarse hair, so I’m not surprised that this would never work for someone with thin, fine hair. It’s trial and error.

Anonymous wrote:It’s a ponytail week with this heat sorry can’t help you

Bun week here
Nothing will manage this hair right now. Nothing.

Just use a curl cream. All those videos show ladies with dripping wet hair using ton of product. You don't have to do that. Try different curl creams, basically cycle through stuff with coconut oil, shea oil, avocado oil, etc. Find the one that works best. Microfiber towel to remove excess water, wide tooth comb to comb through the cream and loosely form curls, and air dry. Silk pillow case is good to help the curls last.

Also, the Denman brush works wonders for me, but I have fine 3B hair. You have to really research which Denman brush works for your curl pattern. I also needed to remove some of the bristles to get it exactly right.

I use a pudding type product from Shea moisture. Then I add a gel on top. That’s the formula, cream + gel. The specific ones that work for DD’s hair will be highly individual.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm lazy and just use curl cream, air dry, scrunch a bit. The drawback is that it takes a couple hours to dry before you can scrunch and get it nice and soft looking. The good part is that it doesn't take any longer than running a brush through straight hair and air drying.

This is basically what I do, without the scrunching.

I wash and condition, wrap it in a microfiber towel while I dry off and get dressed, then take it down and part/comb it. I put in curl cream and a shine product, brush through it with a Denman brush (just brush—not the section by section brush/curl thing I’ve seen people do), then let it air dry. I shower at night and go to bed with it damp.

The Denman brush has made a noticeable difference in the way my hair dries; my hair is very smooth after brushing with it, and my curls have more definition and less frizz when they dry.

See, great example of how everyone is different. I have very fine, thin hair, and the two most important rules for me are that my hair has to be really wet when I put product in and I can't brush it, at all. I just run my fingers through in the shower. I can't wash it at night or I'll be a frizzy, greasy mess the next day. And yes, I have tried what the PP posted! And yes, I 100% believe it works great for her! We just all have wildly different hair, that's why it's so hard to figure out what will work for you.

Yes. Curls just need moisture -- use a curl cream or a leave in conditioner after showering, and comb it through.


I'm also the rare person who loved brushing curly hair -- I brush it out at night and then braid it, and when I wake up it's soft and wavy and looks great.

Try tgin

It’s a ponytail week with this heat sorry can’t help you

Curly hair takes longer to style and manage than straight hair. Please just accept that if you want your daughter’s hair to look nice and do not complain to her about how long it takes, or how much easier it would be if she had straight hair. You will do lifelong damage to her self esteem.

The crunch you’re referring to is called the cast. Once it is 100% dry, you can scrunch it out. That cast is critical to managing frizz while the hair is drying and if you let it dry completely in the cast, either air dry or diffusing, the curls will look so much better and stay longer with less frizz. Also, the less you touch curly hair once styled, the better it will look. So don’t fuss with it, play with it etc. straight haired women don’t get this, as playing with one’s hair is pretty much a top hobby/accepted tic for most straight haired (white) women. Flipping it constantly, putting it up and down, flipping from one side to another, and so on and so forth. Aww

It doesn't matter how it looks to you!
How does it look to her?

Is there an actual problem here?

Anonymous wrote:I'm lazy and just use curl cream, air dry, scrunch a bit. The drawback is that it takes a couple hours to dry before you can scrunch and get it nice and soft looking. The good part is that it doesn't take any longer than running a brush through straight hair and air drying.

This is basically what I do, without the scrunching.

I wash and condition, wrap it in a microfiber towel while I dry off and get dressed, then take it down and part/comb it. I put in curl cream and a shine product, brush through it with a Denman brush (just brush—not the section by section brush/curl thing I’ve seen people do), then let it air dry. I shower at night and go to bed with it damp.

The Denman brush has made a noticeable difference in the way my hair dries; my hair is very smooth after brushing with it, and my curls have more definition and less frizz when they dry.

I'm lazy and just use curl cream, air dry, scrunch a bit. The drawback is that it takes a couple hours to dry before you can scrunch and get it nice and soft looking. The good part is that it doesn't take any longer than running a brush through straight hair and air drying.