Anonymous wrote:This post makes me so sad. Losing weight for yourself is one thing, but feeling a need to literally destroy evidence that a different version of you existed is such a self-hating act. Losing weight because you feel ashamed of your body is tragic. You are alive. You were alive then, too. That version of you is what makes this version of you possible.

How sad that some of you would rather pretend you don't have a past at all and delete your history rather than just accept that your body was different then.

As for the whole "potential boyfriends" bit, listen: if you don't want to love all of me, you don't get any of me. Period. I would never date someone who'd have an issue with the fact that I'd lost weight. I lost weight, I don't need to go picking up dead weight.

It may be sad. It may also just be vanity.

Anonymous wrote:That’s sad…the fat you was still you on the inside. Love yourself.

This. 💖

Anonymous wrote:Please please please keep pictures with you and your kids. My mom struggled with her weight her whole life and hated being in photos. I have so few of her with me and I lost her when she was 58. I so wish I had more.

I am also overweight (working on it) but make sure to take lots of pictures with me and my kids. Even though I don’t look at them often I know they exist just in case.

I'm sorry for your loss, PP. I'm sure someday your kids will appreciate having the pics you didn't.

Anonymous wrote:I have been thin and fat. However, I keep all my photos. My mom has always warned me not to be fat and had no problem telling me when I was. Funny thing is sometimes I agree and sometimes I see a rather normal looking person. My mom has disordered eating so it is nice having evidence that I am not fat.

I'm sorry your mom was abused, and that she put that abuse on you.

This post makes me so sad. Losing weight for yourself is one thing, but feeling a need to literally destroy evidence that a different version of you existed is such a self-hating act. Losing weight because you feel ashamed of your body is tragic. You are alive. You were alive then, too. That version of you is what makes this version of you possible.

How sad that some of you would rather pretend you don't have a past at all and delete your history rather than just accept that your body was different then.

As for the whole "potential boyfriends" bit, listen: if you don't want to love all of me, you don't get any of me. Period. I would never date someone who'd have an issue with the fact that I'd lost weight. I lost weight, I don't need to go picking up dead weight.

I was skinny as a kid and into my 20s. I spent my 30s overweight and then lost it all at 40. There's about 10 years of missing photos on purpose. I have no regrets about getting rid of the evidence.

Why would potential boyfriends want to see the old you? How odd.

I have been thin and fat. However, I keep all my photos. My mom has always warned me not to be fat and had no problem telling me when I was. Funny thing is sometimes I agree and sometimes I see a rather normal looking person. My mom has disordered eating so it is nice having evidence that I am not fat.

I mostly avoided taking pictures during the years I was fat which was before smart phones were everywhere. So only a few pics here and there from 20+ years ago. I won't ever get rid of them though. I like showing people to get their reaction.

I'd delete all the pictures as a big girl

Anonymous wrote:If you lost a lot of weight what do you do with your fat pictures? I find myself deleting most of mine but I've been fat for so long and sometimes potential boyfriends say they want to see the old me. I look terrible when I was younger. I look better now that I'm older.

You are so gross

Anonymous wrote:There were only two photos of my mother from her childhood. One was a toddler picture and the other was later in life after she dieted and her weight was down for a short period. Two photos.

Okay, but it's a different time now. Photos are everywhere.

OP, I delete the photos of me I do not like. Not to worry, there are plenty of photos that my family has taken of me, and they are free to keep them. I'm not keeping anything that brings me down. I do not need those visual memories, I lived it.

There were only two photos of my mother from her childhood. One was a toddler picture and the other was later in life after she dieted and her weight was down for a short period. Two photos.

I can't and won't delete old pictures. My kids growing up are in those pictures. I only see them now.

Please please please keep pictures with you and your kids. My mom struggled with her weight her whole life and hated being in photos. I have so few of her with me and I lost her when she was 58. I so wish I had more.

I am also overweight (working on it) but make sure to take lots of pictures with me and my kids. Even though I don’t look at them often I know they exist just in case.