Anonymous
Post 06/26/2024 21:39     Subject: Re:I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
OP, I am a mess too. It is ok to be a mess for a little while. Sorry I don’t have words of encouragement.

Hugs.
Anonymous
Post 06/26/2024 20:59     Subject: I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
Anonymous wrote:I felt just like you…but drop off day was not as hard as I thought. Because my child was so ready and excited, I knew she was where she belonged.

The house was quiet in the days that followed (I only had the one). And my first grocery shopping trip after her departure was a bit wistful (when I realized there was no need to buy her favorites).

But, to be honest , they come home very often during college. And for extended periods. You will adjust.

But I feel you…


Not in this case.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2024 20:24     Subject: I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It will be ok. I had twins leave three years ago. I planned things to do that I enjoyed like getting back into tennis and Pilates and lost weight. It’s been a great 3 years in college for all of us and great breaks too. I will very much miss them when they are out on their own permanently next year

I get it OP and hugs. Make a plan to meet a friend your first day without them or set a goal to get back into something you enjoyed before kids.


Are the twins your only kids? I have this coming in 2 years so I’m intrigued.

Yep they are my only. Damn that was hard and still is when they leave. I am very close to both kids and my marriage is not the best so it’s sad times. But time does move on and you will too. I enjoy spending time with them now that they are adults and they seem to appreciate being home more when they are.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2024 02:41     Subject: I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
Anonymous wrote:I know I'm not the only one thinking it, but July 1 might as well be tomorrow, and I'm not just ready. Everything will be ok, right? (Please be kind, DCUM.)


I’m very sorry this got moved away from the College forum. My husband and I had no idea how hard sending our DC off would hit us. I think it’s an important thing to warn parents about and talk about.

Once your youngest leaves, you’ll move to a whole new stage of life.
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2024 21:01     Subject: I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I know I'm not the only one thinking it, but July 1 might as well be tomorrow, and I'm not just ready. Everything will be ok, right? (Please be kind, DCUM.)

Babysitting my bratty kids age 7, 4 and 2 will cure you. When can I drop them off?


Just stop.

- fellow mom of young kids who can't imagine OP's stage but tear up just thinking about it
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2024 20:44     Subject: I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
I know the feeling. This is what you prepared her for. She will do well. If you raised her right, she will flourish. Sending you hugs. It will be ok.
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2024 20:22     Subject: I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
Anonymous wrote:One word: pickleball.
Ugh, such a tedious sport!
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2024 20:11     Subject: I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
Anonymous wrote:It will be ok. I had twins leave three years ago. I planned things to do that I enjoyed like getting back into tennis and Pilates and lost weight. It’s been a great 3 years in college for all of us and great breaks too. I will very much miss them when they are out on their own permanently next year

I get it OP and hugs. Make a plan to meet a friend your first day without them or set a goal to get back into something you enjoyed before kids.


Are the twins your only kids? I have this coming in 2 years so I’m intrigued.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 19:45     Subject: I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
Anonymous wrote:I felt just like you…but drop off day was not as hard as I thought. Because my child was so ready and excited, I knew she was where she belonged.

The house was quiet in the days that followed (I only had the one). And my first grocery shopping trip after her departure was a bit wistful (when I realized there was no need to buy her favorites).

But, to be honest , they come home very often during college. And for extended periods. You will adjust.

But I feel you…


My kids are 5 and 9 and i am sobbing reading this. DH is the primary parent and I already feel like I miss them daily.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 18:08     Subject: I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
Anonymous wrote:I know I'm not the only one thinking it, but July 1 might as well be tomorrow, and I'm not just ready. Everything will be ok, right? (Please be kind, DCUM.)

Babysitting my bratty kids age 7, 4 and 2 will cure you. When can I drop them off?
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 16:15     Subject: I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
I felt just like you…but drop off day was not as hard as I thought. Because my child was so ready and excited, I knew she was where she belonged.

The house was quiet in the days that followed (I only had the one). And my first grocery shopping trip after her departure was a bit wistful (when I realized there was no need to buy her favorites).

But, to be honest , they come home very often during college. And for extended periods. You will adjust.

But I feel you…
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 16:14     Subject: Re:I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
Anonymous wrote:All birds leave the nest and soar. Be proud of your child.


Actually this is pretty deep- not all birds leave the nest and soar, at all! You have done your job right OP and it will be an adjustment but you will do it together. Good luck!!
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 16:11     Subject: I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Get a job


You can have a job - even a busy one - and still be sad about your child moving away, you know.


Of course!

Somebody lives in a small world.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 15:56     Subject: I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
The military is a whole other thing. You need support from that community Op. The rest of us don't really understand. There's a lot at play here.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2024 15:51     Subject: I'm not ready for my oldest to leave
I was so happy, OP, that my oldest decided to attend a local university! He came back for all the Holidays and all our birthdays, didn't have to change his doctors, and even attended some of his siblings' musical performances.