Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 08:51     Subject: Fell in love with an older man
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Continue until it doesn't work for you anymore.


yeah, but she could be wasting precious time. Say they marry and he dies at 70, she’ll be 55. That’s a tough age to find a new spouse if she doesn’t want to be alone forever after that.


Unlike 41, where men are in desperate search of a woman just entering menopause?


GMAFB. I’m 53 and not menopausal yet.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 08:42     Subject: Fell in love with an older man
women who are old like above age 35 are not pursued by men their age, more like men 50+
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 08:11     Subject: Fell in love with an older man
Anonymous wrote:U have One life to live

Finding real love is so hard

Infinitely harder when you are 40+

Why not go deep and enjoy the love you have. for as long as you can?

Love usually does not last a lifetime. The deeply intimate loving feelings have a shelf life. 7-10yrs. Do you think he will survive relatively healthy and physically mentally and sexually functional for 7-10 years? Then why not go for it?

I think this is a bigger gamble: You can get back on dating market and get hit on by 20/30yr old with milf fantasies or more age appropriate 40yr olds with baggage and other past failed relationship/divorce/life issues

+1

If you love him and you are truly happy and he treats you like a queen, why not. 15 years is not a huge difference. Be happy!





Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 08:06     Subject: Fell in love with an older man
At your age, you should be looking for someone to take care of you, not vice versa.

Dump him.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 07:51     Subject: Fell in love with an older man
I would not end the relationship. But I would not marry or combine households either.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 07:48     Subject: Fell in love with an older man
My parents were only two years apart in age and one of them became a caretaker for years. Life isnt always predictable and tidy. Nor is love.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 07:44     Subject: Fell in love with an older man
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Continue until it doesn't work for you anymore.


yeah, but she could be wasting precious time. Say they marry and he dies at 70, she’ll be 55. That’s a tough age to find a new spouse if she doesn’t want to be alone forever after that.


Unlike 41, where men are in desperate search of a woman just entering menopause?

I'm 54 and still getting a monthly period.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 07:33     Subject: Fell in love with an older man
Most health issues in middle age are a result of decades of living the typical American lifestyle and consuming the typical American diet. It’s almost never too late to improve health by eating right and exercising - get your old guy to embrace the food revolution, eat vegan or mostly vegan, and start building a lifestyle around fitness.

Diet for a New America is an old book whose messaging is still on point. The Food Revolution network is a great resource: foodrevolution.org and there are many others. Lots of stories of middle aged men (and women) who reversed diabetes, heart disease, gut issues by changing diet and exercising. Lots of hale and hearty 70-90 years olds out there who changed their lives by dietary changes.

If however your man is resistant to any positive lifestyle changes and determined to keep doing what he’s been doing and to decline into disability, that would be a dealbreaker for me. You will end up a nurse before too long and having spent a decade as a professional caregiver, I can attest that most older men do not respond well to their frailty and lash out at the fitter people who end up helping them survive.

Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 06:58     Subject: Re:Fell in love with an older man
Anonymous wrote:

Does he have children? How are the finances? Money equals comfort and ease, both become increasingly necessary as you age. If all his money is not going to adult children AND you are the nurturing/maternal sort with a strong sense of meeting family obligations- go for it.


This.

Do not tie yourself to someone as likely caretaker only to find out you’re making a huge financial mistake and are going to be homeless at 60.

Once you’ve protected yourself, I think there’s no problem with the age gap.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 06:21     Subject: Fell in love with an older man
He already has health issues at 56? That’s quite early. I imagine they aren’t age-related. Does he take good care of himself and access appropriate health care?
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 05:44     Subject: Fell in love with an older man
The finances are key, as when he is 65 and goes on Medicare are you working the next 15 years to keep your health insurance, or paying out of picket for private insurance? If he's retired at the same 65 and wants to travel and you're stuck working a job just for health insurance, you'll be miserable
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 03:20     Subject: Re:Fell in love with an older man
Anonymous wrote:

Does he have children? How are the finances? Money equals comfort and ease, both become increasingly necessary as you age. If all his money is not going to adult children AND you are the nurturing/maternal sort with a strong sense of meeting family obligations- go for it.


+1

A win win for both of you.

I am a nurturing, very domestic type who would be thrilled with this scenario.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 02:24     Subject: Re:Fell in love with an older man
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 01:59     Subject: Fell in love with an older man
I mean, that'll make you the person's care taker and might not be long for now. No thanks, pass.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2024 01:57     Subject: Re:Fell in love with an older man


Does he have children? How are the finances? Money equals comfort and ease, both become increasingly necessary as you age. If all his money is not going to adult children AND you are the nurturing/maternal sort with a strong sense of meeting family obligations- go for it.