Anonymous wrote:Op update. I purchased the gift shortly after I posted, and now nanny has been really flighty this week and missed two days of work. I’m annoyed and now leaning towards not giving the gift.

I wouldn't as well. Sorry.

Frankly, it sounds like your relationship has soured. This is bigger than a gift. Either give the gift to her son or don’t, but to me it sounds like you need to move on from her.

Anonymous wrote:Op update. I purchased the gift shortly after I posted, and now nanny has been really flighty this week and missed two days of work. I’m annoyed and now leaning towards not giving the gift.

dont be petty. give the gift.

Op update. I purchased the gift shortly after I posted, and now nanny has been really flighty this week and missed two days of work. I’m annoyed and now leaning towards not giving the gift.

Yes, $100. It’s for the kid, not the nanny.

No one other than close family gave my kids more than $50 as graduation gifts. $100 is too much, unless you know the son well.

Anonymous wrote:Yes and yes. You should give the gift even without having had a disagreement. She looks after your kids. You share the experience of being a mother. A gift to her son acknowledges her child, in light of all the things she does for yours.

This!

Give $100 cash.

How much would you give the son of a close friend? You should give the same amount. Be nice, it will go a long way.

$50 is too low. Makes you look fake sorry.

Anonymous wrote:$50 is too low

+1
Should be at least $100.

I think a $50 Amazon gift card would look like an afterthought for a high school graduation. If this nanny has been with you for more than a year, I think you should give the graduate $100-$150 cash. If you haven't known her that long, maybe you can reduce the amount and/or offer the gift card. The disagreement is irrelevant to the gift but it's always good to patch things up.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t usually give her gifts, except for a bonus at Christmas. But we had a minor disagreement recently and maybe this would be a nice gesture? Or would she see it as overcompensating?


And if I do, would $50 Amazon gift card be appropriate or too low?

Just give $50 cash. I hate gift cards. Give cash so he can get what he wants!

Anonymous wrote:I don’t usually give her gifts, except for a bonus at Christmas. But we had a minor disagreement recently and maybe this would be a nice gesture? Or would she see it as overcompensating?


And if I do, would $50 Amazon gift card be appropriate or too low?

Give gift and apologize l.

Anonymous wrote:Yes and yes. You should give the gift even without having had a disagreement. She looks after your kids. You share the experience of being a mother. A gift to her son acknowledges her child, in light of all the things she does for yours.

+1!