Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 21:24     Subject: Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
Wow, I know a lot of women who dress very on point, and nobody seems to hold it against them. Huh.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 20:45     Subject: Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
Anonymous wrote:I wear non baggy clothes all the time. No yoga pant or baggy anything. Quince dresses and flats/sandals and mascara to the grocery store, kid pickup etc. I also WOH and wear pants, nicer dresses etc daily. Try to be nice to everyone no matter the outfit. But I'm eastern European and by those standards I'm slumming it. Most everyone i run into in that community here wears full make up, heels, very nice, ironed clothes when they do drop off at activities.


Yes! My family is East-European too and that is very familiar to me. Grandma wouldn’t let me leave the house without ironing my clothes.

Once my brother saw me wearing frumpy clothes on the college campus and told me I needed to dress better. That night I got a call from my mom saying my brother told her I was on campus looking like a slob.

Now I live here where what I was taught is not the norm and seems offensive. DH is from here and he said women just cut their hair short and dress practical.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 20:42     Subject: Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
Lord, lady, you're just really obsessed with how you dress, and how other people dress, and how you compare to them. If it weren't for that fixation, I don't think anyone would care.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 20:41     Subject: Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
Anonymous wrote:I wear non baggy clothes all the time. No yoga pant or baggy anything. Quince dresses and flats/sandals and mascara to the grocery store, kid pickup etc. I also WOH and wear pants, nicer dresses etc daily. Try to be nice to everyone no matter the outfit. But I'm eastern European and by those standards I'm slumming it. Most everyone i run into in that community here wears full make up, heels, very nice, ironed clothes when they do drop off at activities.


I was born in the US but my extended famliy has E European roots and when we go to those social events, women are very nicely dressed. A pleasant surprise compared to when we go to other events.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 20:33     Subject: Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
I wear non baggy clothes all the time. No yoga pant or baggy anything. Quince dresses and flats/sandals and mascara to the grocery store, kid pickup etc. I also WOH and wear pants, nicer dresses etc daily. Try to be nice to everyone no matter the outfit. But I'm eastern European and by those standards I'm slumming it. Most everyone i run into in that community here wears full make up, heels, very nice, ironed clothes when they do drop off at activities.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 20:24     Subject: Re:Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
Anonymous wrote:DC is frumptown. Don't be expecting much.

I figure it's always better to overdress than underdress. If I'm invited out for drinks to celebrate a friends' birthday, I'll be the best-dressed person there. Better than the opposite.

One nice thing in this area is that men in particular are not adventurous when it comes to fashion, so a lot of the clothes I get are from the clearance rack because they were too "fashion forward" for this crowd. The same store in Miami and it would have sold out the first day they put it on the rack.



Miami is so tacky.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 20:23     Subject: Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
I don't do "yard work" and the lakes I hang out at are essentially Lario and Thunersee. So yes, I wear generally the same clothes there as I do here.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 20:21     Subject: Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
Anonymous wrote:Why are you so convinced it’s about your clothing? Honest question, I promise.


Because in the car, that’s what DH said he thought it was.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 20:11     Subject: Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
Why are you so convinced it’s about your clothing? Honest question, I promise.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 20:10     Subject: Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Are you the chinos shorts lady? I’m a plain Jane but it seems like we might have a different definition of nice. I have never been anywhere where chinos shorts were overdressed.

So give us more examples of what kind of clothes you mean?


I wore this shirt with a pair of pink chino shorts and flip flops.

https://www.moleavon.co.uk/images/products/large/51104c.jpg


How old are you? This is something my mom would wear.


50. I guess I’m dressing old.

How old is your child? Are you older than the other moms?

I agree that from your other post, you seem pretty condescending and they may be picking up on that. You also may be having issues if you’re older than the others (and I’m guessing your child is young if you’re staying for parties).


We are all close to the same age. They have big families with wide range of ages in kids. Some kids are adopted.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 20:02     Subject: Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you the chinos shorts lady? I’m a plain Jane but it seems like we might have a different definition of nice. I have never been anywhere where chinos shorts were overdressed.

So give us more examples of what kind of clothes you mean?


I wore this shirt with a pair of pink chino shorts and flip flops.

https://www.moleavon.co.uk/images/products/large/51104c.jpg


How old are you? This is something my mom would wear.


50. I guess I’m dressing old.

How old is your child? Are you older than the other moms?

I agree that from your other post, you seem pretty condescending and they may be picking up on that. You also may be having issues if you’re older than the others (and I’m guessing your child is young if you’re staying for parties).
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 19:54     Subject: Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you the chinos shorts lady? I’m a plain Jane but it seems like we might have a different definition of nice. I have never been anywhere where chinos shorts were overdressed.

So give us more examples of what kind of clothes you mean?


I wore this shirt with a pair of pink chino shorts and flip flops.

https://www.moleavon.co.uk/images/products/large/51104c.jpg


How old are you? This is something my mom would wear.


50. I guess I’m dressing old.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 19:52     Subject: Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
Our school has a gala once a year and the pta president announced at a meeting "I'm sick of people dressing like they're going to the prom. I really want to stress casual dress this year." Of course she is the frumpiest one there. I said "no way, this is my one chance to go all out!"
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 19:48     Subject: Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
I dress nice nearly all the time, OP. Not "desk job" style because I don't like it, but cute and put-together. It makes me happy. I live in the DC suburbs, I'm not an American, and know plenty of non-Americans who also dress nice.

I don't quite understand the American love for athleisure and shapeless T-shirts
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2024 19:39     Subject: Re:Is it only socially acceptable to dress nice for work?
DC is frumptown. Don't be expecting much.

I figure it's always better to overdress than underdress. If I'm invited out for drinks to celebrate a friends' birthday, I'll be the best-dressed person there. Better than the opposite.

One nice thing in this area is that men in particular are not adventurous when it comes to fashion, so a lot of the clothes I get are from the clearance rack because they were too "fashion forward" for this crowd. The same store in Miami and it would have sold out the first day they put it on the rack.