Anonymous wrote:Mine son is 13, rising 8th grader. Currently zero interest in anyone romantically. He's overwhelmed by all the constant talk about labels, sex, gender, etc. and says he just "wants to wait".

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Anonymous wrote:Mine son is 13, rising 8th grader. Currently zero interest in anyone romantically. He's overwhelmed by all the constant talk about labels, sex, gender, etc. and says he just "wants to wait".

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Anonymous wrote:Most middle school boys have crushes but they are not obsessive about it like girls are. They don’t call each other to talk about “signs” all day long. It’s just a girl they have a crush on and typically dont plan to do anything about. Meanwhile, girls obsess waiting for them to make a move.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s around puberty. I agree that the boys do not really talk about their crushes. The most I’ve heard is them talking about another guy getting rejected in an embossing way which is like top news for the MS group. The girls talk about this stuff and strategize around it. The boys don’t really.

Mine had his first girlfriend in 8th grade and now has a pretty serious girlfriend in 9th.

Ugh #boymom

Anonymous wrote:I think many of you are living under rocks. The innocent crushes started in my son’s class in grade 3, which coincided with cotillion. “Crush” crushes started around 6th grade, with “girlfriends.” For those saying “my 15 year old and his friends are only interested in sports,” you’re probably missing something.

They are living under a rock. Theses moms have zero communication with their boys. The boys just say I am not interested, the mom smiles and doesn’t bother them. Most use their phones for everything, even in high school. Why bother telling mom anything.

It also makes lazy, anti-social boys who get off on porn, nudes, and playing the field via snap, rather than true connections and socializing. And then they go off to college, get wasted and have no idea what SA’ing even is but do it weekly and claim they were under the influence.

My daughter went to a 65% male engineering college and the stories are horrifying and sad.

I think it’s around puberty. I agree that the boys do not really talk about their crushes. The most I’ve heard is them talking about another guy getting rejected in an embossing way which is like top news for the MS group. The girls talk about this stuff and strategize around it. The boys don’t really.

Mine had his first girlfriend in 8th grade and now has a pretty serious girlfriend in 9th.

Anonymous wrote:I think many of you are living under rocks. The innocent crushes started in my son’s class in grade 3, which coincided with cotillion. “Crush” crushes started around 6th grade, with “girlfriends.” For those saying “my 15 year old and his friends are only interested in sports,” you’re probably missing something.

Lol. I think you may be the outlier here....

There's no one age. A 4 yr old can have a first crush and an 18 yr old can have their first crush.

Most middle school boys have crushes but they are not obsessive about it like girls are. They don’t call each other to talk about “signs” all day long. It’s just a girl they have a crush on and typically dont plan to do anything about. Meanwhile, girls obsess waiting for them to make a move.

I think many of you are living under rocks. The innocent crushes started in my son’s class in grade 3, which coincided with cotillion. “Crush” crushes started around 6th grade, with “girlfriends.” For those saying “my 15 year old and his friends are only interested in sports,” you’re probably missing something.

Anonymous wrote:My two stepsons are 19 and almost 17 and show no outward interest towards women that is apparent to us. Of course, maybe they just aren't expressing it to us. But as far as I know neither of them has been on a date, or kissed a girl, or whatever. The older one is in college now so maybe stuff has happened there I don't know about. But the younger one spends most of his time other than school in his room playing video game and has gone on maybe six social outings with friends (bowling, birthday party etc) since 2020. And he comes home on the bus right after school. So...not sure when anything could have happened.

I’m terrified that this will happen to my kids.

My two stepsons are 19 and almost 17 and show no outward interest towards women that is apparent to us. Of course, maybe they just aren't expressing it to us. But as far as I know neither of them has been on a date, or kissed a girl, or whatever. The older one is in college now so maybe stuff has happened there I don't know about. But the younger one spends most of his time other than school in his room playing video game and has gone on maybe six social outings with friends (bowling, birthday party etc) since 2020. And he comes home on the bus right after school. So...not sure when anything could have happened.

Mine is 15 and I know he has some interest incoming and outgoing but I stay the hell out of it. If he is asking to date or host we can chat then.

Anonymous wrote:My DD was talking about crushes in 5th grade but my DS is still goofy running around in 6th. As PPs said it's a wide range but your observation is correct in general that girls tend to develop a bit earlier and have crushes (and hormones) sooner but they all eventually get there... hopefully later!

It’s interesting to me as the mom who had some serious crushes in 5th, 6th, 7th grades. Now I spend my weekends ferrying boys around and I think it’s funny how o was so boys crazy and wondering what boys were doing and now I know. They were occupied with their sports and not at all interested in girls.

Anonymous wrote:Mine son is 13, rising 8th grader. Currently zero interest in anyone romantically. He's overwhelmed by all the constant talk about labels, sex, gender, etc. and says he just "wants to wait".

Same. Mine just wants to play sports. Not sure about crushes, but as far as I know neither he nor his friends really care about girls.