Anonymous wrote:grand parent relationships can't be forced. Some are good at it others force it and guilt kids into liking them.

How do you know my ILs?!

grand parent relationships can't be forced. Some are good at it others force it and guilt kids into liking them.

Anonymous wrote:She doesn't like them because she feels like they don't like her. She's only 3 - can you suggest they read her a story over FaceTime? That is about the level of her attention span over a screen.

Nice idea. I hated forced conversations with my grandparents, even though I loved them. I have to also wonder how long can a 3 year old hold a conversation with people she barely knows or sees. 3-4 times/year is an eternity in her world.

Everything everyone else has said and can I also say that I LOATHED Facetime/video calls with my parents and kids and I wish we would have done something like 5 minutes of a book and then moved to adult conversation.

Please describe your honest feelings about having to participate on unplanned zoom meetings with the people above your boss that you barely know, and then I’ll comment.

Don't worry about it. FaceTime sucks with most toddlers and preschoolers (and for many of us, in general). Keep talking positively about them. Show them pics of grandparents and tell them often how much they love her and how awesome they are.

You write the story here. And it's also fine that they don't know how to interact with her on FT.,,that doesn't mean they won't be great grandparents. Not all grandparents have to be the kind who crawl around with a kid on the floor, or talk baby talk. They can have a great relationship that's very different than the one she has with maternal grandparents.

Anonymous wrote:Little kids don’t like FaceTimeing adults.

This. Especially adults that are strangers.

For my son, FaceTiming was just him making random noises and faces until,he was way older than 3. It sounds like all of you expect your kid to have a conversation. That is not going to happen without a lot of prompting. Perhaps go over one thing to talk about - a school project, a movie, a fun thing that happened, and you sit with them and set up the prompts. ‘Tell grandma and grandpa about our day at the park”. ‘Sis’s you like the slide?” Have them talk for a minute or two and then excuse them.