Anonymous wrote:It's a risk, but the bigger risk is your kids dating and falling in love with someone who doesn't want to live where you live, and this is something you can't control. So, I'd like them to go to college where they want, and you can afford it, as you're losing control starting now regardless...

This.

My kid goes to college on the East Coast but has interned in SFO for several years in AI and we realize our kid will 99% move out there after graduation.

Like others, we will be empty nesters soon so an excuse to maybe spend a month or two out West during bleak Winter months.

Let’s chain our kids to our nests, no west coast, no living in any city more than 3 hour drive from home, ever. Way to let them grow up DCUM. I bet half of you claiming that you forbid the west coast application are the same ones harping about cutting the apron strings on find trackers. Hypocrites.

Anonymous wrote:It's too far away. We are not allowing dc to apply on West Coast. Friend whose daughter went to college in CA for freshman year spent $10K on flights for her daughter to go back and forth. Her daughter transferred after first year and now is back on East Coast. We are also limiting geographic range on the East Coast, too. I don't see any reason to go to college so far away from home.

Did she fly 15 times round trip in the year she attended before transferring?! Bc my kid’s tickets are 450 bucks RT and he does it 4x a year. Your math doesn’t work.

Anonymous wrote:I am curious - if you or your child was raised on the east coast but went to college on the west coast, did you/they return back to the east coast after college or eventually? I am worried my kids will go to college in California, fall in love with the scenery and never come home. Anyone forbid their child from applying to west coast colleges?

My neighbor's kid graduated from UCSB two years ago and isn't coming back. One parent has roots out there and is fine with it. Other parent is really sad tbh.

I moved from the east coast to California after college graduation, worked three years, and had had enough. Since turning 18, I've lived in five major cities that are not the city I grew up in.

My DC #1 has a motto now “west coast is the best coast”. They are a STEM major and have an awesome internship at a Silicon Valley company. They will likely stay in California. DC#2 is a finance major and loves their school and California but knows that it’s likely NYC or London for their first job.

Anonymous wrote:My DC goes to school in LA. Most of their friends are planning to head to East Coast (NYC or DC) when they graduate. For the record, we don't live on either coast any more, so it's not like DC is coming 'home'.

CA is a lot of fun for college, let them get it out of their system OP.

Same. My DC is about to graduate from UCLA. Almost all of her friends, most of whom are native Californians, are moving to NYC (nobody wants to be in DC LOL). The first two years my DC was adamant that she was staying in CA after graduation. But slowly realized that LA is a very difficult place to live - too spread out, takes HOURS to get anywhere, and everyone seems to work in the "industry." That said, she wants to work in NYC for several years and then move back to LA if she has a career where she makes a lot of money.

That said, she emphatically states that LA (and UCLA in particular) was the absolute best place to go to college. She had a blast.

I'm really happy that my DD went to school in LA and would've NEVER limited her. We spent a lot of time in CA over the past four years and have really enjoyed it. But it would of course be harder if you have limited funds. My DH works in the Bay area quite often so we were already used to the frequent long flights.

My kid went to Cooyle in upstate NY and moved to Seattle after graduation..

Most kids who study in California stay put. Fact.

My kid narrowed her search to middle Atlantic and northeast. I was glad. That includes a lot of schools.

I’ve been an East Coaster my whole life, but my kid’s going to CA for college. If he stays there after graduating, well, I’ll be retired soon enough, maybe I’ll finally move out west!

Couldn’t be more excited for him as he starts this new adventure!

It's too far away. We are not allowing dc to apply on West Coast. Friend whose daughter went to college in CA for freshman year spent $10K on flights for her daughter to go back and forth. Her daughter transferred after first year and now is back on East Coast. We are also limiting geographic range on the East Coast, too. I don't see any reason to go to college so far away from home.

My DC is also on the West Coast and is back this summer for an internship. So far they seem to want to come back to NYC. However, a lot will depend on where they find a job.

My DC goes to school in LA. Most of their friends are planning to head to East Coast (NYC or DC) when they graduate. For the record, we don't live on either coast any more, so it's not like DC is coming 'home'.

CA is a lot of fun for college, let them get it out of their system OP.