Anonymous
Post 05/30/2024 12:58     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
Anonymous wrote:Do not offer a 630 pick up, but in retrospect, I would have offered a later pickup that night. I would expect you and the kids to be up closer to 12. 630 is ridiculous on her part, expecting you to get her kid up.


Not OP but WHAT? I am not driving anywhere (nor awake) at midnight.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2024 19:34     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DD is turning 10 and having a sleepover birthday party this weekend. One friend RSVP'd yes a few weeks ago but the mom texted yesterday to say that they have decided to go out of town next weekend. She would like for her daughter to still spend the night but she wants to pick her up at 6:30am the next morning. She also said "it would be great if the kids didn't stay up too late". I replied that of course that was fine but couldn't guarantee that the kids wouldn't stay up late. I offered that another option would be to have her daughter stay late and one of us could drive her home around 9:30 or 10. This seems more reasonable to me, rather than having to wake her up so early and have her ready to be picked up. The mom seemed offended by this and is now saying that "it sounds like it would be better if we just skip the party all together". Did I handle this wrong? I feel really bad and I also know my DD will be disappointed that her friend is no longer coming.

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are you sure she's offended? maybe she just realized it was a dumb idea for them to travel with very little sleep and more wans't going to happen


Yeah, i read her response more as though she wanted her Dd to still get to come but on second thought it wouldn’t work that well, practically speaking so they should probably skip it instead.

She should have been more gracious about it though. And it is rude to RSVP yes and then change your RSVP (unless the change is due to illness or emergency of course)
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2024 19:24     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
Anonymous wrote:DD is turning 10 and having a sleepover birthday party this weekend. One friend RSVP'd yes a few weeks ago but the mom texted yesterday to say that they have decided to go out of town next weekend. She would like for her daughter to still spend the night but she wants to pick her up at 6:30am the next morning. She also said "it would be great if the kids didn't stay up too late". I replied that of course that was fine but couldn't guarantee that the kids wouldn't stay up late. I offered that another option would be to have her daughter stay late and one of us could drive her home around 9:30 or 10. This seems more reasonable to me, rather than having to wake her up so early and have her ready to be picked up. The mom seemed offended by this and is now saying that "it sounds like it would be better if we just skip the party all together". Did I handle this wrong? I feel really bad and I also know my DD will be disappointed that her friend is no longer coming.

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are you sure she's offended? maybe she just realized it was a dumb idea for them to travel with very little sleep and more wans't going to happen
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2024 19:03     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
You can be a terminator
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2024 18:39     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We had a 730am pickup at my son's 10th bday sleepover. Some of the kids woke the others earlier so it wasn't like anyone got a good amount of sleep. I think you handled it very well. I had also offered 10PM pickup for anyone who needed a good night's sleep for the next day's activities.



Unless it was was his best friend in the world (and even then I’d be annoyed and think the parents were lunatics) there’s no way I’d send my child to a sleepover that required a 7:30 am pickup….Why would you do this????


This was at the parent's request, she came early to get her child.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2024 18:16     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As a parent you need to supervise and get the kids to bed at a reasonable hour.


A "reasonable hour" for a sleepover is quite late IMO

Expecting OP to wake the kid for a 6:30 pick up, and likely waking a lot of the other kids is unreasonable.


+1

I think you dodged a bullet OP.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2024 15:06     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
The other mom has a loose screw. Her dd is probably upset to miss but its totally nuts that she is putting this on you instead of giving her daughter the 9:30pm pick up option. You handled very well!
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2024 15:03     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
Anonymous wrote:We had a 730am pickup at my son's 10th bday sleepover. Some of the kids woke the others earlier so it wasn't like anyone got a good amount of sleep. I think you handled it very well. I had also offered 10PM pickup for anyone who needed a good night's sleep for the next day's activities.



Unless it was was his best friend in the world (and even then I’d be annoyed and think the parents were lunatics) there’s no way I’d send my child to a sleepover that required a 7:30 am pickup….Why would you do this????
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2024 14:18     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
We had a 730am pickup at my son's 10th bday sleepover. Some of the kids woke the others earlier so it wasn't like anyone got a good amount of sleep. I think you handled it very well. I had also offered 10PM pickup for anyone who needed a good night's sleep for the next day's activities.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2024 14:16     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
Anonymous wrote:As a parent you need to supervise and get the kids to bed at a reasonable hour.


A "reasonable hour" for a sleepover is quite late IMO

Expecting OP to wake the kid for a 6:30 pick up, and likely waking a lot of the other kids is unreasonable.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2024 14:13     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
As a parent you need to supervise and get the kids to bed at a reasonable hour.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2024 14:13     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
I would not personally be willing to commit to getting up at 6:30am and getting a child ready to go home after hosting a sleepover. This is not a reasonable request, nor is requiring children to go to bed early to accommodate her schedule.

It does sound like it would be easier to skip the party. For you, mostly.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2024 14:11     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
The other Mother is being a drama queen. Forget it and move on. Maybe the girls will work out a solution. If the girl is really responsible, she can get herself up, by herself, and quietly slip out in the morning to meet her pick-up.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2024 14:07     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
She's being ridiculous.

"6:30 is too early. Dd will be disappointed, maybe another time."
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2024 14:00     Subject: sleepover birthday party- how to handle?
Yeah…you did nothing wrong OP and were totally appropriate and accommodating. Sorry for your DD and hers. I’d leave the offer open to drop her off later at night if she decides that would be ok