Anonymous wrote:She has a small social security check but not enough to live on. We save most of her checks for emergency money. No other assets.
The condo we sold was in both our names. The new one I bought for her is in my name only.
She doesn’t have any retirement accounts since she was a stay at home mom. Without me she would have been destitute years ago.
Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why she is living in a condo but incapable of caring for herself. Move her in with you. She needs to be on Medicare. What you are doing is a disservice to yourself. All of your money is going to your mother and will you retire and become old, you are going to be the same problem to your kids as she is for you.
Anonymous wrote:I am shocked by how many are recommending she abandon her mom. Shame on you. OP, I'd move her in with you.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It makes no sense to provide that much care for your mom and have her live alone. Does she really need so much in home care. 40 hours a week is a lot. Can you move her in with you?
Hmmm, 40 hours/week actually isn't a lot for someone who is on a feeding tube. There seems to be some disconnect here on the capacity of the mom.
As someone who took care of scheduling for her own mom, there are 168 in a week.
I think the choice is to sell the condo and move Mom in with OP if she doesn't need 24 hr care, or find a Medicaid bed.
Anonymous wrote:It makes no sense to provide that much care for your mom and have her live alone. Does she really need so much in home care. 40 hours a week is a lot. Can you move her in with you?
I’d check with the Department of Social Services and also Adult Protective services.