Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks everyone’s, I know you’re right. The thing is, now not only did she “waste time” sending the email, but on Tuesday she will “waste time” again when he asks her how to complete the assignment then. Why not just answer the kid in the time it took to send what she did?

To send a message to both you and your kid to not do this again. If she had just complied, you would have been ignorant and continued to believe that it is acceptable to have unexcused absences and yet expect the teacher to give your child one on one assistance.

+1. The teacher realized that this was an opportunity to teach both you and your son how to behave.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks everyone’s, I know you’re right. The thing is, now not only did she “waste time” sending the email, but on Tuesday she will “waste time” again when he asks her how to complete the assignment then. Why not just answer the kid in the time it took to send what she did?

To send a message to both you and your kid to not do this again. If she had just complied, you would have been ignorant and continued to believe that it is acceptable to have unexcused absences and yet expect the teacher to give your child one on one assistance.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks everyone’s, I know you’re right. The thing is, now not only did she “waste time” sending the email, but on Tuesday she will “waste time” again when he asks her how to complete the assignment then. Why not just answer the kid in the time it took to send what she did?

The assignment apparently included written instructions, which was probably her best effort at a written explanation. It is probably something easier to explain in person, which she offered to do, rather than try to re-write the instructions in am email to your kid, which will probably lead to follow up questions and a back and forth exchange on a holiday weekend instead of just taking 5 seconds to explain in class. Just like your family, she wants to get her weekend started! Agree with PPs about reaching out to other kids first with questions.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks everyone’s, I know you’re right. The thing is, now not only did she “waste time” sending the email, but on Tuesday she will “waste time” again when he asks her how to complete the assignment then. Why not just answer the kid in the time it took to send what she did?

Because apparently you and your child need to learn there are consequences for the choices you make. You can prioritize skipping traffic and leaving early, but there are consequences for that choice, including that he may miss important instruction.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks everyone’s, I know you’re right. The thing is, now not only did she “waste time” sending the email, but on Tuesday she will “waste time” again when he asks her how to complete the assignment then. Why not just answer the kid in the time it took to send what she did?

Because she wants kids to learn responsibility. She cares about him and she knows that protecting kids from learning responsibility is not good for them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For how long has he had the assignment?

It was assigned today.

Teachers aren’t supposed to protect students from the consequences of skipping school.

OP here. Thanks everyone’s, I know you’re right. The thing is, now not only did she “waste time” sending the email, but on Tuesday she will “waste time” again when he asks her how to complete the assignment then. Why not just answer the kid in the time it took to send what she did?

I think the teacher was justified given that this was an unexcused absence, though could have stated more simply: “I won’t be able to do that because this was an unexcused absence.” Don’t pull your kid out early next time. Agree with others that your kid should ask a friend from class how to complete it.

The teacher should give written directions- even for the kids present. This is so stupid not to.

And I repeat, it’s best to say your child is sick to avoid this type of rudeness.

Anonymous wrote:If its an unexcused absence the teacher is not required to spend additional time to explain things they explained in class that was missed.

Not OP but I always call in sick for when DC is not going to be in school. It’s good for the school (they get their moneys) and prevents any potential truancy stuff

Anonymous wrote:He should be asking another student

+1. Your child should know better than to ask the teacher for this when the absence is not excused.

Generally teachers are not expected to provide personalized instruction to students who choose not to attend class. They don't need to repeat what they said in class to anyone who didn't come. Why go to class if you can get a private individualized lesson from home or wherever you are. They are not private tutors.

He should have asked a friend who was in class.

He should be asking another student

I think she would have been better off not replying at all.

Sounds like you’re reading tone into a factual email. There is nothing wrong with the teachers refusal to help. That’s the consequence of your decision and it’s you who is responsible for the problems your child is having not the teacher. Presumably you considered this possibility when you made your decision and decided it was worth it.