Anonymous wrote:

LOL you are an idiot.

Your kid is in private school "I don't think grades are inflated much" LOL >....

Grow up this whole thread is stupid.

I don’t know what school you are in, but in our school is generally high achieving.

25% have GPA > 4.0, 20% have ACT scores > 34, 10% are National Merit Finalists.

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Anonymous wrote:

You seem very disgruntled, and that’s understandable, but you’re ignoring everyone who gives actual advice and pushing back on anyone who suggests that this seems to be just the way the school is, even if they are sympathetic to your frustration.

“Just the way it is”? I don’t we should accept things just because that’s how they have been.

My point was that it seems systemic vs OP’s kid being singled out. Lots of people have suggested actions to take if that is “just the way it is” but OP seems to be ignoring them. There’s really not much else to say in that case. OP’s options are to try to change the school culture (worth doing, even if an uphill battle), deal with it as is, or move. OP doesn’t seem to want to hear any of that so I’m not sure the point of the thread beyond venting. Which is fine, but then there’s not really anything new to add.

Anonymous wrote:

You seem very disgruntled, and that’s understandable, but you’re ignoring everyone who gives actual advice and pushing back on anyone who suggests that this seems to be just the way the school is, even if they are sympathetic to your frustration.

“Just the way it is”? I don’t we should accept things just because that’s how they have been.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Is she one of a few who earned straight As, or are there many other students who have, too? Does your school include a list of award winners at the end of the year/near prize day or whatever equivalent your school might have?

I don’t have data for how many get straight As. Her friend group mostly get As, but they’re the most academically overachieving group. But even in their group some have a B here and there.

It’s definitely very hard, she works very hard to get all As. I don’t think grades are inflated much.

LOL you are an idiot.

Your kid is in private school "I don't think grades are inflated much" LOL >....

Grow up this whole thread is stupid.

The irony that you tell someone to grow up while calling them an "idiot" and "stupid" is pure hypocrisy on your part. You don't wear that well.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Is she one of a few who earned straight As, or are there many other students who have, too? Does your school include a list of award winners at the end of the year/near prize day or whatever equivalent your school might have?

I don’t have data for how many get straight As. Her friend group mostly get As, but they’re the most academically overachieving group. But even in their group some have a B here and there.

It’s definitely very hard, she works very hard to get all As. I don’t think grades are inflated much.

LOL you are an idiot.

Your kid is in private school "I don't think grades are inflated much" LOL >....

Grow up this whole thread is stupid.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she's in a school of high achievers and academic success is simply expected. Not everyone gets (or needs) a trophy.

Well, maybe, but if a student wins 1st place for the school in math competition, maybe they deserve the award presented them properly and not shoved in a hallway?

Also, if the school gives athletic awards and teachers pet awards, maybe they should be giving academic awards too?

Maybe you should talk to the school instead of just grumping here? Maybe you should look at other schools with a more supportive environment that’s a better fit?

You seem very disgruntled, and that’s understandable, but you’re ignoring everyone who gives actual advice and pushing back on anyone who suggests that this seems to be just the way the school is, even if they are sympathetic to your frustration.

I get wanting to just vent, so ok, you’ve done that. Take some of the advice to bring this up with the school, or move on.

Is this Potomac? Based upon our experience, only certain students get recognized for equal achievements.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she's in a school of high achievers and academic success is simply expected. Not everyone gets (or needs) a trophy.

Well, maybe, but if a student wins 1st place for the school in math competition, maybe they deserve the award presented them properly and not shoved in a hallway?

Also, if the school gives athletic awards and teachers pet awards, maybe they should be giving academic awards too?

My daughter was in this position which was not a huge deal but a bit unpleasant. I think the issue was she’s both an excellent student and very independent-never asked for help, did it seem to need encouragement, etc. I think sometimes teachers use discretionary awards for students they like or have made great strides, which is okay but it doesn’t feel great to feel invisible.

Also, the kid who got the kindness award is well known by the students to be a really mean kid, and that actually made her feel a little better.

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Anonymous wrote:For example, her bio teacher will not round up 89.9. You have to earn your A-.

Just her or the other students as well?

I don’t know. I have zero access to information about other students grades.

Sounds like she's in a school of high achievers and academic success is simply expected. Not everyone gets (or needs) a trophy.

Anonymous wrote:For example, her bio teacher will not round up 89.9. You have to earn your A-.

Agree it’s dumb that an 89.9 isn’t rounded up, but this seems like a separate issue from not being recognized for coming first in a math competition, for example.

It doesn’t sound like your kid is being unfairly overlooked, but rather that the school gives extremely limited awards and acknowledgements for academic success in general.

It seems like you are overall frustrated with the school’s approach. Is your daughter happy there? What grade is she? How many years do you have left? Is it worth switching?

If your kid is happy and the lack of recognition isn’t bothering her, or if you’re near the end of your time at the school anyway, maybe let it ride. If she’s unhappy or there’s still a long way to go, you might consider changing schools. It sounds like the school’s culture and approach to awarding academic success might not be a good fit.

Anonymous wrote:For example, her bio teacher will not round up 89.9. You have to earn your A-.

Just her or the other students as well?

For example, her bio teacher will not round up 89.9. You have to earn your A-.

Anonymous wrote:Just so I understand this, is your daughter the only one not being recognized while others with similar achievements are?

I don’t know how others are getting recognized. All I know that there are award ceremonies and she never gets anything for her academic achievements.