My brother’s aupair got pregnant.

She worked until she couldn’t which was 2 weeks before she gave birth.

A new aupair was scheduled to take the bee once she couldn’t work anymore.

They were not going to have a baby in the house while she so egg med for them but they did allow her to stay 2 months after the birth.

She moved in with her boyfriend and they lived happily ever after.


This was 20 years ago though. Laws may have changed.

My understanding is that our agency has au pairs sign a contract that ends their participation in the program if they get pregnant. They are expected to return home immediately if they become pregnant.

My understanding is that the au pair agency doesn't want responsibility if there are pregnancy complications or bed rest. Au pairs have to leave the country if they can no longer perform their au pair duties (i.e., childcare) and the same complications that would stop them from working could also stop them from safely flying home. So if they had serious pregnancy complications, they would be in a foreign country with little to no support network, no financial means to fund US bed rest or a hospital stay, no place to live, and no visa. And overstaying their visa is a big no no. It's just a bad situation.

If an au pair does have the support of an American father, there are other visa options, but those are outside of the scope of the au pair program.

Anonymous wrote:At some point she will not be able to fulfill her duties, nor should she, since she will need to rest and take care of herself and her baby.

I would push her to contact her family. I would provide emotional support for what is obviously a very trying time for her. This young woman needs mothering.

But I would also confer with the agency, because she cannot be a good mother to a newborn AND take care of other children.

Either she returns home while she can still travel, or she has the baby here (with what money?!) and returns home when the newborn is fit to endure the germs on airport and flight. But honestly the second solution sounds like you might have to shell out some money, unless her family can help her...

Somebody better warn all the ladies out there who are having two or more kids!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure she needs to go home immediately. The AP health insurance is more for emergencies.

Pregnant women in most states in the United States are eligible for medicaid as long as their income isn't too high. You should help her enrolls so she can get prenatal care. What state are you in and what is her income?

Foreigners and undocumented people are not eligible for obvious reasons.

Is that really true? Because plenty of undocumented people have babies in US hospitals all the time. Taxpayers and the privately insured end up paying for it in the end anyway through higher healthcare and insurance costs.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure she needs to go home immediately. The AP health insurance is more for emergencies.

Pregnant women in most states in the United States are eligible for medicaid as long as their income isn't too high. You should help her enrolls so she can get prenatal care. What state are you in and what is her income?

Foreigners and undocumented people are not eligible for obvious reasons.

Not in DC.

Not anywhere. She will get emergency Medicaid for the birth. Prenatal care is a separate issue but there are places that will provide it.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure she needs to go home immediately. The AP health insurance is more for emergencies.

Pregnant women in most states in the United States are eligible for medicaid as long as their income isn't too high. You should help her enrolls so she can get prenatal care. What state are you in and what is her income?

She isn't a citizen. Send her back to her homr.

Anonymous wrote:It is 2024. Decent human beings do not consider firing women because they are pregnant.

The au pair was hired to perform certain duties and she cannot perform these future bring pregnant. Also. au pairs are not covered by labor laws.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure she needs to go home immediately. The AP health insurance is more for emergencies.

Pregnant women in most states in the United States are eligible for medicaid as long as their income isn't too high. You should help her enrolls so she can get prenatal care. What state are you in and what is her income?

Foreigners and undocumented people are not eligible for obvious reasons.

You are very uninformed. Nothing obvious about it.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure she needs to go home immediately. The AP health insurance is more for emergencies.

Pregnant women in most states in the United States are eligible for medicaid as long as their income isn't too high. You should help her enrolls so she can get prenatal care. What state are you in and what is her income?

Foreigners and undocumented people are not eligible for obvious reasons.

Yes they absolutely are in the majority of states! The reasoning is that the child will be a US citizen so it is in the interest of the US that the child be born healthy.

Anonymous wrote:At some point she will not be able to fulfill her duties, nor should she, since she will need to rest and take care of herself and her baby.

I would push her to contact her family. I would provide emotional support for what is obviously a very trying time for her. This young woman needs mothering.

But I would also confer with the agency, because she cannot be a good mother to a newborn AND take care of other children.

Either she returns home while she can still travel, or she has the baby here (with what money?!) and returns home when the newborn[b] is fit to endure the germs on airport and flight[/b]. But honestly the second solution sounds like you might have to shell out some money, unless her family can help her...

OP never said she was keeping the baby. She specifically said "carry the baby to term." Sounds like au pair plans to place the baby for adoption.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure she needs to go home immediately. The AP health insurance is more for emergencies.

Pregnant women in most states in the United States are eligible for medicaid as long as their income isn't too high. You should help her enrolls so she can get prenatal care. What state are you in and what is her income?

Foreigners and undocumented people are not eligible for obvious reasons.

Not in DC.

I hired an ex-au pair who lost her job due to pregnancy. It worked out well for me. My kids were older and loved her baby. She was able to do all the things for my kids while also providing for her own. She also married the father. The difference here is that in OP’s scenario, the au pair will need to take maternity leave. How will she support herself during this time? This is clearly a question for the agency if this is a legitimate post.

I imagine you’re a troll. Anyone actually in the Au pair program would know to contact your coordinator.

That said I believe pregnancy is (or was, when I hosted) a terminating event of the contract and she will lose her sponsorship.

Her options are limited because she’s not legally permitted to work in this country. She could marry the father and go the green card route. She could work under the table and support herself (but really hard to do with a newborn). It’s really her choice but from your standpoint, I’d encourage her to leave or marry the father. You don’t want to inadvertently end up supporting an unemployable young mother.

Anonymous wrote:Troll. Anyone who was NOT a troll would know that they can contact the au pair agency for guidance.

If it is, this is a good topic for once!

Troll. Anyone who was NOT a troll would know that they can contact the au pair agency for guidance.