Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 16:30     Subject: I don’t want DD to get a job
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll post.

OP said nothing about why she thought it would be a bad idea.


This is OP. I thought I made myself clear but maybe not. She doesn’t need money so there’s no practical reason for a job, plus I don’t want her to spend her summer alone and not make friends.


But she does have a reason according to you - she said it would be interesting and look good on a college application. That is a solid reason. Building a resume and a good work ethic is never a bad idea.

She doesn't want to go to camp. Good for her for not wanting to sit home and be lazy either! Not needing money is irrelevant. It's what she wants to do, and is a productive use of her time.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 16:17     Subject: Re:I don’t want DD to get a job
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She won’t get a job so let her try. If she gets hired she’ll be lucky to get a few hours a week.

She can still go to camp.

This. Chances are they won’t hire a kid that young, but she can try!


OP here. I was thinking something similar. She’s young and has no work experience so who would even hire her?


You gotta start somewhere but it may be too late for this summer. Camps love teens working as assistants. Maybe she can apply for next year.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 16:16     Subject: I don’t want DD to get a job
Anonymous wrote:DD15 wants to get a part time job over the summer, maybe at the bookstore or grocery store. She is very uninterested in going to a sleep away camp, which I think she should do. She doesn’t have many friends and I think it would be beneficial for her to have fun at camp. However, she has been asking for a job for a while and thinks it would be interesting and look good on college applications. However, I buy her basically whatever she wants so she doesn’t need money. How can I convince her that this is a bad idea?


It isn't a bad idea! You can make friends at work and it isn't about buying things it is about the independence and getting life skills. Let her do it
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 16:12     Subject: I don’t want DD to get a job
If she works someplace with other teenagers, she will probably make friends OP. If she can get a job, let her.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 16:11     Subject: I don’t want DD to get a job
You are wildly off base. A local job is going to help her make friends much, much more easily than a camp where she might make friends while there, but they won’t translate to the school year.

Plus the camp isn’t all summer is it? That’ll leave the rest of her summer pretty lonely.

I’d encourage her to find a job where teenagers work - more likely to hire her.

Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 15:46     Subject: I don’t want DD to get a job
Colleges like to see students taking initiative and responsibility. Colleges are less excited about opportunities that students' parents have purchased for them. If the camp isn't designed to impart a particular skill, like music, she would probably be better served by the job. If she doesn't need the cash, she can volunteer.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 15:36     Subject: I don’t want DD to get a job
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll post.

OP said nothing about why she thought it would be a bad idea.


This is OP. I thought I made myself clear but maybe not. She doesn’t need money so there’s no practical reason for a job, plus I don’t want her to spend her summer alone and not make friends.


That doesn’t make the job a bad idea. She will make friends at her job. She will make friends with school friends who stay in town.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 15:36     Subject: I don’t want DD to get a job
I met so many people in college who never had jobs and thought it was so weird. I made lots of friends at jobs in high school. I didn’t “need” the money, but I wanted to make my own money.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 15:36     Subject: Re:I don’t want DD to get a job
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She won’t get a job so let her try. If she gets hired she’ll be lucky to get a few hours a week.

She can still go to camp.

This. Chances are they won’t hire a kid that young, but she can try!


OP here. I was thinking something similar. She’s young and has no work experience so who would even hire her?
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 15:34     Subject: I don’t want DD to get a job
Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll post.

OP said nothing about why she thought it would be a bad idea.


This is OP. I thought I made myself clear but maybe not. She doesn’t need money so there’s no practical reason for a job, plus I don’t want her to spend her summer alone and not make friends.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 15:34     Subject: I don’t want DD to get a job
A job is a great idea. She will learn some responsibility and make local friends.
As a bonus, working minimum wage jobs is an excellent push for why a college degree is needed.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 15:29     Subject: I don’t want DD to get a job
Anonymous wrote:DD15 wants to get a part time job over the summer, maybe at the bookstore or grocery store. She is very uninterested in going to a sleep away camp, which I think she should do. She doesn’t have many friends and I think it would be beneficial for her to have fun at camp. However, she has been asking for a job for a while and thinks it would be interesting and look good on college applications. However, I buy her basically whatever she wants so she doesn’t need money. How can I convince her that this is a bad idea?


Are you insane or stupid?

Of course if she wants a job that's fabulous you are an idiot
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 15:28     Subject: I don’t want DD to get a job
A job is great... if she can get one. My college student and everyone he knows, except for one kid, is struggling with finding summer internships and jobs.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 15:26     Subject: I don’t want DD to get a job
Anonymous wrote:Um… What?

+1
Op is living the dream and saying "No thank you!"

This is a great moment to let go and let her take on this summer decision
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 15:24     Subject: Re:I don’t want DD to get a job
It's not a bad idea -- it's a great idea.