Anonymous wrote:Simple complementarity. A straight outdoorsy man with high testosterone will seek higher estrogen women.

And the fact is that they, no less than other men, want someone to take care of the home front. The man who does not want genetic offspring is rare, and the one who does not expect any potential mate to raise them almost does not exist.

If you are both out conquering the world, who will be at home to handle everything else?

Don't think they will hike or bike an iota less after the babies come.

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Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. In still pictures I look like a blonde sorority girl, but I’m actually very technical/quantitative and my interests and hobbies are very “nerdy tech guy” and not at all “pilates and tennis PTA mom”. My demeanor and vibe isn’t feminine and nurturing at all. The huge mismatch between who people expect me to be based on appearance and who I actually am is kind of distressing because some men will abruptly lose interest once they figure it out and the men who might actually be into it won’t bother to approach me. I honestly have no idea how to present myself in a way that would fix that, because I’m a pretty conventional person and anything edgy would feel like a costume, like I’m not going out dressed like girl with the dragon tattoo.

Just put on a tee-shirt with the Linux penguin. It's not complicated.

Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. In still pictures I look like a blonde sorority girl, but I’m actually very technical/quantitative and my interests and hobbies are very “nerdy tech guy” and not at all “pilates and tennis PTA mom”. My demeanor and vibe isn’t feminine and nurturing at all. The huge mismatch between who people expect me to be based on appearance and who I actually am is kind of distressing because some men will abruptly lose interest once they figure it out and the men who might actually be into it won’t bother to approach me. I honestly have no idea how to present myself in a way that would fix that, because I’m a pretty conventional person and anything edgy would feel like a costume, like I’m not going out dressed like girl with the dragon tattoo.

Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. In still pictures I look like a blonde sorority girl, but I’m actually very technical/quantitative and my interests and hobbies are very “nerdy tech guy” and not at all “pilates and tennis PTA mom”. My demeanor and vibe isn’t feminine and nurturing at all. The huge mismatch between who people expect me to be based on appearance and who I actually am is kind of distressing because some men will abruptly lose interest once they figure it out and the men who might actually be into it won’t bother to approach me. I honestly have no idea how to present myself in a way that would fix that, because I’m a pretty conventional person and anything edgy would feel like a costume, like I’m not going out dressed like girl with the dragon tattoo.

Anonymous wrote:I think for desirable men as you describe, an "outdoorsy" personality is only a secondary/minor thing they would be looking for....

Anonymous wrote:If you're on the strong and chunky side, you might need to make a slight pivot from the hiking, outdoorsy men to the shotput, caber tossy lads.