Anonymous wrote:The dating market is broken. If it was a regulated market it's a classic sign of market failure.

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Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I found Bumble to be demoralizing. In my experience, men matched and vetted me AFTER I messaged. I thought they were interested in my profile and pictures, but no. They just liked all women, and when a woman would message as a result of the match, only then would a man decide whether he would consider actually matching. So often times, I would be unmatched after my first message sent. It was an esteem roller coaster and an unforeseen and gross antithesis to the actual intent of women messaging first.

That’s how men feel

Anonymous wrote:It was apparently too much work for women to message first.

Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I found Bumble to be demoralizing. In my experience, men matched and vetted me AFTER I messaged. I thought they were interested in my profile and pictures, but no. They just liked all women, and when a woman would message as a result of the match, only then would a man decide whether he would consider actually matching. So often times, I would be unmatched after my first message sent. It was an esteem roller coaster and an unforeseen and gross antithesis to the actual intent of women messaging first.

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Anonymous wrote:Which app should we be using, then?

Real life

The same real life where women seem annoyed to be approached?

Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I found Bumble to be demoralizing. In my experience, men matched and vetted me AFTER I messaged. I thought they were interested in my profile and pictures, but no. They just liked all women, and when a woman would message as a result of the match, only then would a man decide whether he would consider actually matching. So often times, I would be unmatched after my first message sent. It was an esteem roller coaster and an unforeseen and gross antithesis to the actual intent of women messaging first.

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Anonymous wrote:Which app should we be using, then?

Real life

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Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I found Bumble to be demoralizing. In my experience, men matched and vetted me AFTER I messaged. I thought they were interested in my profile and pictures, but no. They just liked all women, and when a woman would message as a result of the match, only then would a man decide whether he would consider actually matching. So often times, I would be unmatched after my first message sent. It was an esteem roller coaster and an unforeseen and gross antithesis to the actual intent of women messaging first.

Why did you message them first? Can’t you just wait until someone really interested messages you ?

No. The whole point of Bumble, and the way it was set up, was that women only could message first in order to avoid unwanted (and sometimes crass or inappropriate) first messages from men.

Not anymore

https://www.forbes.com/sites/kimelsesser/2024/05/03/men-can-now-initiate-conversations-on-bumble-heres-why-it-matters/

Anonymous wrote:Which app should we be using, then?

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Anonymous wrote:It's the same - no one messages each other! When I try to message my matches half the time they unmatch. I'm female and when I message it's very low-key, just hi and something based on their profile to get the conversation started, like "hi, I see you like movies, what have you seen recently?" I have no idea how people actually meet!

Most women on Bumble are too lazy to do even that. They just say "hi" and let you take it from there.

Because we know the men swipe on everyone and aren’t necessarily interested.

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Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I found Bumble to be demoralizing. In my experience, men matched and vetted me AFTER I messaged. I thought they were interested in my profile and pictures, but no. They just liked all women, and when a woman would message as a result of the match, only then would a man decide whether he would consider actually matching. So often times, I would be unmatched after my first message sent. It was an esteem roller coaster and an unforeseen and gross antithesis to the actual intent of women messaging first.

Why did you message them first? Can’t you just wait until someone really interested messages you ?

No. The whole point of Bumble, and the way it was set up, was that women only could message first in order to avoid unwanted (and sometimes crass or inappropriate) first messages from men.