Our middle school sells pajama pants (aka flannels) with the school logo and EVERYONE wears them. I cannot even imagine making this my hill to die on in middle school.

al she's going to do is put them in her backpack and change when she gets to school.

It's not a big deal

Brandy Melville has cute pajama-adjacent pants, including waffle ones, and all kinds of sweatpants. UNIQLO also has loose cotton pants now, that are very comfy, but very cute.

However, if my DD decides she wants to wear something, no way can I convince her to wear something else. She'd just refuse to go to school.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so she can’t wear flannel pants but she also can’t wear athletic leggings? But somehow sweatpants make the cut? There are many hills on which you could choose to die during the tween/teen years, but you really can’t choose to die on all of them. For me, this isn’t one of them.

I also couldn’t figure out the crazy lines OP is drawing. There are clothing battles I might pick but this isn’t one.

Also what is wrong with an oversized shirt? OP is acting like she’s being super accommodating by not “strenuously objecting “ to an oversized shirt. This is some serious micromanaging.

You know what else a lot of kids where at middle school, OP? Crop tops (that look to me like sports bras) and short-shorts. You are really going to stand your ground on baggy flannel pants? Be careful what you wish for.

Anonymous wrote:This isn't a battle to have. Pajama pants with funny patterns were an in thing when I was middle and high school 20+ years ago. My mother rolled her eyes and said nothing. They weren't the ones I had just slept in, and I do agree you could try to have that standard, but it's a harmless fashion thing and not a hill to die on.

Same for me - I recall in 7th and 8th grade a brand called Skidz being very popular in New York.

https://skidznyc.com/collections/all-products/products/skidz-original-pant-og-black-white

I had this, but in yellow and black. Then I had navy blue with dark green (bigger squares), and I think a third pair.

Anonymous wrote:Pp again. I had a friend in college who wore grownup footie PJs to class all the time. Do i think that was ridiculous? Yes. Did it prevent her from doing well, getting a career , getting married and having kids? No.

My DD's friend showed up in 7th or 8th grade wearing footie pajamas. The assistant principal tried to give her crap for it and she said she'd checked the handbook and there was nothing in the dress code about pajamas. They agreed she could wear them but had to keep the hood down. She went to Stanford.

I don’t understand why you’re discriminatory against pants just because they are made of warm comfortable fabric. If they were linen drawstring pants would that be okay? Denim? Chino?

My teen is a HS varsity athlete. On game days they are supposed to wear school gear so she typically wears her school branded flannel pants with her iersey top or a school tee.

I cringe about some of the crop tops but I just don’t see why flannel gets hate.

This isn't a battle to have. Pajama pants with funny patterns were an in thing when I was middle and high school 20+ years ago. My mother rolled her eyes and said nothing. They weren't the ones I had just slept in, and I do agree you could try to have that standard, but it's a harmless fashion thing and not a hill to die on.

C'mon Elsa.

Leave her to walk to school in the weather, and choose appropriate clothing for it.

Make her uncomfortable and resentful at school. Less competition for my kid for selective colleges.

adding to the others - not worth fighting. why do you care?

The thing with flannel pants and teens is that teens don’t wear them to bed. They aren’t PJs to them. They are pants, no more or less than joggers.

My son wears joggers or flannels and nothing else. He’s 17. There are so many things you will need to hold the line on - pants is not one of them.

Pp again. I had a friend in college who wore grownup footie PJs to class all the time. Do i think that was ridiculous? Yes. Did it prevent her from doing well, getting a career , getting married and having kids? No.