He drank himself to death a few years after his second wife also left him and he had a sex offender conviction. Watching it unfold real time was harrowing for our young teen.

It’s been over 25 years but I think he never got married, no kids and lives with some cats last I heard 16 years ago. He’s retirement age now.

I’m happily married with 2 wonderful kids and husband. I live a very privileged life. I’m glad he dumped me.

I wish I knew. His name is as common as John Smith, so he's impossible to google and he doesn't have facebook.

He joined the military after college and moved around a bunch, so it's not like any of our old friends would know either.

Mine married my sorority sister who he started dating after we split up (it was post-college, but they met through me).

They eloped and he invited me to their wedding reception, but then left a message on my answering machine UNINVITING me. Since then, he's reached out via phone or Facebook several times. I finally stopped responding and now it's been years.

He appears to have a nice suburban lifestyle in an exurb of a major city, which was pretty much exactly why I left him.

Anonymous wrote:It seems odd to me that there are so many "she" significant others referenced here. DCUM runs very female and statistically I would doubt that 7/8 of the first responses here would come from members of the LGBTQ community. It's not bad, just remarkable.

Yup! I noticed this too!

We were college sweethearts, engaged, and had a tragic breakup. Had zero contact for years thereafter. He did reach out when he lost his sister, but I was not willing to give him emotional comfort at that time. He and I both eventually found other people and got married. A few years ago, I reached out to him to catch up. Since then, we have had friendly convos, but infrequent. He said he is open to be AP.

Said he didn't want to get married until he was 50 and I didn't want to wait that long so I peaced out. 30 years later found out he did get married in middle aged and then his wife tragically died of cancer.

I've been happily married to someone else for 25 years, no regrets.

Mine became an alcoholic , and committed suicide. He was the love of my life.

Reconnected with mine a few months ago. I have been divorced a long time. He never married but has a kid with someone and lives with her. All the same sparks were there, but I could see a lot of the same dynamics that caused us to break up were still there too.

Yes. I am divorced. He is getting a divorce.

He divorced his second wife and is estranged from their two children. I call him about once a year to check on him. He is broke and alone. I am very fortunate that he chose to prioritize his mother over me, because I have had a happy life with a lovely husband and two great kids. I am sad that he has done so poorly.

The one who got away finally settled down around age 40, no kids, seems happy. We lost touch but aren’t on bad terms.

The ex i had a very long relationship but just couldn’t see myself marrying and raising kids with is now happily married with two kids. I hope he is happy. I thought he’d mature and gave him seven years, but it didn’t happen. Maybe we just weren’t the best match and he has found someone who is a better fit for him.
We are not in touch.

Another significant ex is also married with kids. We remained friends.

Happily married, raised a kid, is enjoying her career. Seems fine.

Don't know and have no interest.

It seems odd to me that there are so many "she" significant others referenced here. DCUM runs very female and statistically I would doubt that 7/8 of the first responses here would come from members of the LGBTQ community. It's not bad, just remarkable.