Anonymous wrote:My DH is 42. He recently switched jobs and is now suddenly “bros” with his much younger, mid-20-something male coworkers. He could be their father. They are always texting him asking him to get together for drinks, and it’s like some weird ego boost for him—they think he’s really cool. He doesn’t ever take them up on their offer because life, kids, responsibilities, but they are always texting trying to get him to come out with them. He shares the texts with me and I think deep down, he’d love to and is just waiting for me to be like, “Just go, I’ll get the kids to bed,” while also knowing this would be a waste of a “night off”, if that makes sense. Is this a midlife crisis? I’m reminded of the book/movie Little Children, and the husband who became obsessed with skateboarding with the neighborhood teens.

Anonymous wrote:The more he says no the less frequent the texts will be. He would be smart to say yes once in a while just for the sake of teamwork. This isn’t a midlife crisis unless all the 20 somethings were female and he went out a lot with them.

Anonymous wrote:My DH is 42. He recently switched jobs and is now suddenly “bros” with his much younger, mid-20-something male coworkers. He could be their father. They are always texting him asking him to get together for drinks, and it’s like some weird ego boost for him—they think he’s really cool. He doesn’t ever take them up on their offer because life, kids, responsibilities, but they are always texting trying to get him to come out with them. He shares the texts with me and I think deep down, he’d love to and is just waiting for me to be like, “Just go, I’ll get the kids to bed,” while also knowing this would be a waste of a “night off”, if that makes sense. Is this a midlife crisis? I’m reminded of the book/movie Little Children, and the husband who became obsessed with skateboarding with the neighborhood teens.

Anonymous wrote:My DH is 42. He recently switched jobs and is now suddenly “bros” with his much younger, mid-20-something male coworkers. He could be their father. They are always texting him asking him to get together for drinks, and it’s like some weird ego boost for him—they think he’s really cool. He doesn’t ever take them up on their offer because life, kids, responsibilities, but they are always texting trying to get him to come out with them. He shares the texts with me and I think deep down, he’d love to and is just waiting for me to be like, “Just go, I’ll get the kids to bed,” while also knowing this would be a waste of a “night off”, if that makes sense. Is this a midlife crisis? I’m reminded of the book/movie Little Children, and the husband who became obsessed with skateboarding with the neighborhood teens.

Anonymous wrote:It seems totally reasonable for him to occasionally get out to have a drink with his coworkers. It's up to him if he thinks that's a good use of an evening or not. You should also get to get away and make choices about how to spend your time.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 51 yo male and have some really nice intelligent friends that are early-mid 30's. Not sure what the big deal is here. Just adults hanging out.

A lot of maturing happens in those 10 years. Have you hung around these mid-20s kids recently?

I have a mid-20s kid who has a solid corporate job. I genuinely enjoy his company and that of some of his friends. I'm in my late 50s. Would I choose to spend all of my time with them and vice versa? No. But they have an interesting and different outlook on a lot of social and political topics, are well traveled and well spoken, and it makes for an interesting evening. Staying within your own circle is limiting, so why not?