Once a month so I don't have to hear his complaints as much. I don't care what he thinks as long as I don't have to hear the complaining.

“Yes, she should have sex with you whenever you want. And you should graciously decline whenever she would like to decline.”

This first part of this sentence is dangerous. It’s what led to abuse in my marriage.

Anonymous wrote:I would do it once a week . I also didn’t feel normal for months after having my first due to a bad tear . Once you feel more normal down there (I promise soon you will) you can try to add in more . You can maybe give him a HJ when he is dying for it for his “second” time of the week

OP here. I’m hoping soon. It just feels odd.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man with a high sex drive and I think it just depends. I'd rather have less frequent but higher quality sex than needing it to be a certain amount of times. I have to chore it up a bit more for my wife to feel energized enough for that, so I guess that's the implicit deal being made in my own marriage. Quickly got bored of going through the motions sex even if I appreciated her making any time for it at all.

OP here. That’s not it at all for us. We don’t use sex as a weapon. I love and want intimacy with my husband but I’m just not as high drive as him PP. The sex we do have is fun.

He does a lot and that’s really great. This makes having and wanting sex easier because I’m not as tired.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man with a high sex drive and I think it just depends. I'd rather have less frequent but higher quality sex than needing it to be a certain amount of times. I have to chore it up a bit more for my wife to feel energized enough for that, so I guess that's the implicit deal being made in my own marriage. Quickly got bored of going through the motions sex even if I appreciated her making any time for it at all.

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I'm a man with a high sex drive and I think it just depends. I'd rather have less frequent but higher quality sex than needing it to be a certain amount of times. I have to chore it up a bit more for my wife to feel energized enough for that, so I guess that's the implicit deal being made in my own marriage. Quickly got bored of going through the motions sex even if I appreciated her making any time for it at all.

I would do it once a week . I also didn’t feel normal for months after having my first due to a bad tear . Once you feel more normal down there (I promise soon you will) you can try to add in more . You can maybe give him a HJ when he is dying for it for his “second” time of the week

OP here. I’m also shy and don’t talk about sexual things with friends or family. It’s nice being able to ask what’s normal without having a close family or friends knowing how often my husband and I are intimate.

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Anonymous wrote:What is a PP? There needs to be a central database for all the DCUM abbreviations.

OP here. Postpartum. We have a 3 month old.

I would say once a month for 8 months would be normal. I can't imagine sex 1-3 times a week with a baby that little. My kids did not sleep for almost a year and I was breastfeeding. Just no.

OP here. I’m no longer breastfeeding (stopped at 8 weeks) and he sleeps 10-11 hours without waking up.

OP here. Things didn’t feel normal down there 100% and I would be happy with 1x a week but I know my husband wants at least 2x a week. We have the time since our baby goes to bed for the night between 7-8pm. I’m just not that into yet because it doesn’t always feel that good to me.

Another thing is I have very sensitive nipples post birth. I’m no longer breastfeeding ( only pumped because of latch issue) and they are still super sensitive and tend to hurt with more than a couple minutes of stimulation.

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Anonymous wrote:What is a PP? There needs to be a central database for all the DCUM abbreviations.

OP here. Postpartum. We have a 3 month old.

I would say once a month for 8 months would be normal. I can't imagine sex 1-3 times a week with a baby that little. My kids did not sleep for almost a year and I was breastfeeding. Just no.

OP here. I’m no longer breastfeeding (stopped at 8 weeks) and he sleeps 10-11 hours without waking up.

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Anonymous wrote:What is a PP? There needs to be a central database for all the DCUM abbreviations.

OP here. Postpartum. We have a 3 month old.

I would say once a month for 8 months would be normal. I can't imagine sex 1-3 times a week with a baby that little. My kids did not sleep for almost a year and I was breastfeeding. Just no.

Anonymous wrote:Really depends on if your kid sleeps or not. We had an amazing sleeper and after I felt like having sex again we went right back to 3x/week. But I have friends who didn't sleep through the night until their kid was 18 months old - they're lucky they didn't kill each other let alone get in the perfect amount of time in pound town.

OP here. We have a unicorn sleeper. He’s already sleeping 10-11 hours a night.

Anonymous wrote:What is a PP? There needs to be a central database for all the DCUM abbreviations.

OP here. Postpartum. We have a 3 month old.

2-3x a week. About every other day. We’re both very satisfied and honestly too tired for more.

1-3 times a week is pretty normal and that is very good.

For me though, it was years. And years. We were not a good match and divorced.

Sexless is less than 10 times a year.

1-3 times a week very, very good.