Anonymous
Post 05/12/2024 05:40     Subject: I need friends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anyone want to hang out? I wish all these awesome 45+ women on here with whom I relate so strongly could reveal themselves to me. I’m really fun and have a list of really cool list of awesome things to do around here if I only I had someone to do them with. Anyone else love live music? A day at the winery? Staring at the ocean? Hiking with your dog? Try clubbing one night just to remember how fun it is to dance and not care? I know it would help with all the stresses I (and everyone else) seem to feel with being a sandwich. Boring husband who never wants to do or initiate anything? Go out with your friends!! I just wish I knew where you all were. I can’t seem to find you.


It's so hard. I posted about this a couple days ago and, so far, am not having a lot of luck finding "meetups" and things that are directed to my demographic (in terms of age, local, non-single). It's frustrating. And giving me some anxiety over what the next 30 years is going to look like . . . . I don't do well when I'm bored or when I don't have social outlets.


Wow. Wtf. You lost me at non single. Why aren’t you willing to be friends with single people? Try to being less judgmental and maybe you will make more friends


DP but I don’t think she meant “non single” the way it sounded. I interpreted it to mean that she’s not looking to be part of meetups where the focus is dating/looking for partners. Some groups are — and there’s nothing wrong with that but the dynamics are different. Maybe try assuming good intent instead of attacking someone who is just looking for friendship.
Anonymous
Post 05/12/2024 03:05     Subject: I need friends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anyone want to hang out? I wish all these awesome 45+ women on here with whom I relate so strongly could reveal themselves to me. I’m really fun and have a list of really cool list of awesome things to do around here if I only I had someone to do them with. Anyone else love live music? A day at the winery? Staring at the ocean? Hiking with your dog? Try clubbing one night just to remember how fun it is to dance and not care? I know it would help with all the stresses I (and everyone else) seem to feel with being a sandwich. Boring husband who never wants to do or initiate anything? Go out with your friends!! I just wish I knew where you all were. I can’t seem to find you.


It's so hard. I posted about this a couple days ago and, so far, am not having a lot of luck finding "meetups" and things that are directed to my demographic (in terms of age, local, non-single). It's frustrating. And giving me some anxiety over what the next 30 years is going to look like . . . . I don't do well when I'm bored or when I don't have social outlets.


Wow. Wtf. You lost me at non single. Why aren’t you willing to be friends with single people? Try to being less judgmental and maybe you will make more friends
Anonymous
Post 05/12/2024 02:34     Subject: I need friends
Anonymous wrote:Anyone want to hang out? I wish all these awesome 45+ women on here with whom I relate so strongly could reveal themselves to me. I’m really fun and have a list of really cool list of awesome things to do around here if I only I had someone to do them with. Anyone else love live music? A day at the winery? Staring at the ocean? Hiking with your dog? Try clubbing one night just to remember how fun it is to dance and not care? I know it would help with all the stresses I (and everyone else) seem to feel with being a sandwich. Boring husband who never wants to do or initiate anything? Go out with your friends!! I just wish I knew where you all were. I can’t seem to find you.


I found friends like this at my church.

I am a big believer that if all you want from church is a social outlet that is fine.
Anonymous
Post 05/12/2024 01:47     Subject: I need friends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would love to join in the following: Anyone else love live music? A day at the winery? Staring at the ocean? Hiking with your dog?
who doesn’t like this? your dh refuses all these things??


Me. I don’t like crowds so don’t like live music. I don’t drink. Just staring at the ocean?? Boring. I hate hiking and I absolutely hate dogs!


You should be MY best friend!
Anonymous
Post 05/12/2024 01:45     Subject: I need friends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would love to join in the following: Anyone else love live music? A day at the winery? Staring at the ocean? Hiking with your dog?
who doesn’t like this? your dh refuses all these things??


Me. I don’t like crowds so don’t like live music. I don’t drink. Just staring at the ocean?? Boring. I hate hiking and I absolutely hate dogs!
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2024 23:15     Subject: I need friends
Anonymous wrote:no not FB, a Meet-Up


Np. But if you do a private FB group, you could join it and plan events there. And old people know how to use Facebook.

I would make it, but I'm in NC. But I'm cheering all of you on. Do it!
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 17:31     Subject: I need friends
Anonymous wrote:Or you could just post: let’s meet next Friday for a 4 pm Happy Hour at ______.

I like the idea, but live in MoCo.


+1
And everyone wear something identifying, like a pink top, because I'm an introvert and unlikely to approach people I don't know.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 17:25     Subject: I need friends
Anonymous wrote:+2 in Northern Virginia.

Just read an article in NYT about the prevalence of loneliness in young adults, which tapers off during "mid life", and then picks up again post 60'ish years old. I'm feeling this really hard, right now.


Another in NoVa. 52.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 17:20     Subject: I need friends
Anonymous wrote:Or you could just post: let’s meet next Friday for a 4 pm Happy Hour at ______.

I like the idea, but live in MoCo.


This is a great idea.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 17:17     Subject: I need friends
Or you could just post: let’s meet next Friday for a 4 pm Happy Hour at ______.

I like the idea, but live in MoCo.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 09:39     Subject: I need friends
I know no one prob wants to out their identity or take the first step on Meetup. . . . I'm wondering if this is something the DCUM moderator would be willing to start???? As an extension of the online community?
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2024 14:01     Subject: I need friends
Yep, 51 in NoVa.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2024 13:48     Subject: I need friends
no not FB, a Meet-Up
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2024 12:18     Subject: I need friends
Maybe create a Facebook group for all of us to join? 45 here in Northern Virginia.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2024 12:15     Subject: I need friends
Anonymous wrote:Me too! I’m in northern Virginia and feeling this so much. Just reading these posts makes me feel not so alone. It’s a scary prospect looking at the upcoming years with no social circle to enjoy.

I would love to meet!


How would we set this up ???? I'm not very SM/tech savvy.