Anonymous wrote:Good Lord! OP is just waiting for someone to give her the answer she wants.

Right

I work as a first responder and work every other weekend too. You know what I have though? Leave. I use leave. He could do if he wanted to. We all make choices based on priorities.

He visits his mom Saturday no kids.
You visit your mom Saturday with kids.
Sunday everyone stays home and you have a family day.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you focus on your mom and his mom this weekend.Then claim his next weekend off as your own personal Mother's Day weekend and enjoy it as you wish. Who cares what the calendar says.

Why on earth would they do this? Why is his mother more important than OP and her daughter? If it’s just a calendar day then why give up everything to celebrate the boomers instead of the younger mother?

Id rather have my own weekend but you obviously disagree. When my birthday is on a Tuesday, we celebrate it on Saturday. It's just better that way.

Anonymous wrote:I think you focus on your mom and his mom this weekend.Then claim his next weekend off as your own personal Mother's Day weekend and enjoy it as you wish. Who cares what the calendar says.

Why on earth would they do this? Why is his mother more important than OP and her daughter? If it’s just a calendar day then why give up everything to celebrate the boomers instead of the younger mother?

Anonymous wrote:I think your husband should take her out to lunch in the days surrounding MD, since that’s what he usually does anyway. Then you have MD with your mom on Saturday, and your husband/kids on Sunday.

The but 100% do not tell either your mother or especially his that he isn’t working this weekend. They don’t need to know and this avoids them trying to disrupt your plans.

I think you focus on your mom and his mom this weekend.Then claim his next weekend off as your own personal Mother's Day weekend and enjoy it as you wish. Who cares what the calendar says.

Go see your mom by yourself on Saturday and he can take the kids to visit his mother.

I think your husband should take her out to lunch in the days surrounding MD, since that’s what he usually does anyway. Then you have MD with your mom on Saturday, and your husband/kids on Sunday.

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Anonymous wrote:What? You said he isn’t working the weekend. He can go see her on Saturday, as you said you see your mom on Saturday.

Shoot! I thought I put it in my OP but I didn’t:

MIL likes for him to bring the kids. They will be with me on Saturday!

I hope everyone sees this! Ugh, my mistake.

Kids is plural so you're loading them up for a drive to see your mother on Saturday? ie slogging on a 4 hour same day round trip. Poor kids. Where's his mother? I'm a boomer and I don't get why you'd do this.

Wherever your mom is if you all decide both grandmas have to be seen just do brief 30 minute stops for each. Is 1 enroute to the other? Get both over with on Saturday and if either one doesn't like brief then knock them off the visit list. Me? If I was you they'd get cards and maybe flowers/consumable and just stay home.

I think it depends on who else is on the mix. If he has a family celebration with his sisters and their kids for example, then you let him go with the kids and tell your mom this year she’s the one who gets to reschedule. On the other hand if he’s an only child and it’s easy for them to move you ask them to have their celebration another day.

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Anonymous wrote:Good Lord! OP is just waiting for someone to give her the answer she wants.

She has already decided that she’s doing whatever she wants. Seeing her mom with the kids on Saturday and doing nothing on Sunday. Is she asking who will tell her MiL that this is the plan?

No she hasn’t already decided. Bold it where she says she this is what she is doing.

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Anonymous wrote:You split Sat between your mom and his. One mom gets brunch together and the other gets dinner together. Sunday it’s just you and the kids.

My parents are a day-long drive. Would it be horrible to send him without our kids?

No, you let him take the kids and you visit your mom alone.

Anonymous wrote:Good Lord! OP is just waiting for someone to give her the answer she wants.

She has already decided that she’s doing whatever she wants. Seeing her mom with the kids on Saturday and doing nothing on Sunday. Is she asking who will tell her MiL that this is the plan?

Anonymous wrote:Don’t tell his mother that he’s home! She doesn’t need to know. Do not tell your mother either! The boomer brigade will swoop in and pout, whine, and stamp their nasty feet until they take away your Mother’s Day!

You’ll either have to deal with weeks of boomer nastiness or give in and send the day swooning over the old bats. So don’t tell them! If they find out, tell them you didn’t know. Your husband surprised you. Nether will blame the husband.

Where did the boomer hurt you?

Don’t tell his mother that he’s home! She doesn’t need to know. Do not tell your mother either! The boomer brigade will swoop in and pout, whine, and stamp their nasty feet until they take away your Mother’s Day!

You’ll either have to deal with weeks of boomer nastiness or give in and send the day swooning over the old bats. So don’t tell them! If they find out, tell them you didn’t know. Your husband surprised you. Nether will blame the husband.