Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you. Yes, she wears sneakers all the time even in dress/skirts with shorts. That should not prevent her full participation in any active activity. She is in dress and skirt phases. One more question, can she wear 1 or 2 pieces, like necklace, nail stickers, crazy toy plastic glasses, and those colorful hair accessories including fairy hair/big bow etc? She has a huge toy jewllery box with many hair accessories and necklaces/bracelets/rings etc. I tell her that sje cannot bring toy to school. The girls at her current daycare loves to dress up every day with all these and brings toy.

Things like glasses or large jewelry that she may be tempted to fiddle with or take on and off, will be deemed a distraction in class, and she’ll be asked to put them away.

I’d try to pare it down to one accessory at a time, and stick to only things that will stay on without adjustments or removal during the day. Teachers won’t want to help replace a bow that falls out of her hair at PE, or track down a bracelet lost at recess. And definitely no toys.

Just have her choose one accessory each day, and remind her it should stay in/on all day. If it gets in her way or comes off, or falls out of her hair, she should ask her teacher for permission to put it in her backpack—don’t ask the teacher to help put it back on. If it comes home in her bag, that item should be removed from her daily options in the future.

It’s not about squashing her style and creativity, but about eliminating distractions and not pulling the teacher away from teaching. My DD always liked to have bright funky (temporary) hair colors, and nobody ever complained. In fact, she got lots of compliments!

Op here. Thank you for tips. At current daycare, her teachers sometimes help some kids to do braids & find their lost items. They are mostly found because there are only certain places they hang out at daycare. That group of girls like to pay attention what other girls dress, wear or bring, so they normally know where those things are if anyone pull it out/take it off/borrow to wear. They are all quite lovely and cute. I would not expect this kind of attention/help from busy public school teacher, so I will try my best for her to get smoother transition. She is still at those fancy of dress up phase with bright color/silly things. They are all imexpensive and replaceable if needed.

PPs and OP are perceptive on this: DCs of all genders often see accessories as toys that fit on their bodies, and that will be very difficult to sustain in kindergarten. Plus accessories can lead to injuries (things around necks or dangling from ears or hair can get caught on playground equipment, for example), and teachers are not going to be able to help round up fallen bows and bracelets and pendants. Remember that in MCPS a child's classroom teacher is usually _not_ the person with them at lunch and recess (YMMV), so there is even less acquaintance there with a child's habits or belongings, and the number of supervisors is _much_ smaller than the number of kids, not at all like preschool. Playgrounds can be total anarchy.

Sure, let DC wear all the dresses (with shorts underneath) they desire, but I'd steer clear of belts, necklaces (especially if DC tends to suck on them!), scarves and shawls, dangly jewelry, multiple hair accessories, things made of strings of beads, super-lightweight clothing layers that are easy to shed and drop, or anything you really care about losing. I'd also recommend against flats, flipflops, skimpy sandals, or other detachable shoes: they need things they can run and climb in safely. And they will still get hurt nevertheless!

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Anonymous wrote:Julius West Middle sent out a notice after spring break about dress code enforcement, including limitations on tops, midriff showing, and skirt length

Sexism is still alive and well in MCPS.

In and of itself, it's always creepy when male principals are policing the clothing of middle school girls, but worse is the message that is teaching middle school boys - that men have a right to police women's clothing and appearance and that boys can be "distracted" or lose self-control by women's appearance.

I DGAF about how girls are dressed at school. I want to know why only 23% of Julius West students are at our above grade level in reading and why only 53% read at grade level. The principal has better things to do with his time than police skirt length.

Another Progressive on the prowl.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Julius West Middle sent out a notice after spring break about dress code enforcement, including limitations on tops, midriff showing, and skirt length

Sexism is still alive and well in MCPS.

In and of itself, it's always creepy when male principals are policing the clothing of middle school girls, but worse is the message that is teaching middle school boys - that men have a right to police women's clothing and appearance and that boys can be "distracted" or lose self-control by women's appearance.

I DGAF about how girls are dressed at school. I want to know why only 23% of Julius West students are at our above grade level in reading and why only 53% read at grade level. The principal has better things to do with his time than police skirt length.

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