Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lots of test optional schools. Focus on those.

Don't bother studying more. Just go test optional.

+1 My NT DD was president of her HS class all 4 years, had average grades and didn't take the SAT. She got into her dream university (we couldn't afford it) and three out of her top five.

My ND DS didn't take the SAT, made no effort in HS and his grades showed it. He did 2 years at NOVA and is now at a 4 year school and doing great.

The biggest question you need to answer is if your DC has the skills needed to go away to school or should they stay local?

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BTW - this is true for all kids going to college. My NT kid decided to stay local so that -
- he wouldn't miss out in family events,
- he wouldn't have to travel during holidays, sickness, breaks
- he wouldn't have to pay $$$ for travel, or spend money on supplies
- he could occasionally gets cooked food from home, occasionally get his clothes laundered and dry-cleaned for no cost to him at home, and so that he could raid our pantry for Costco freebees
- he could continue to get excellent medical care and wellness checks from his regular doctors while still on our medical insurance. He came home to recuperate when on the very first week of freshman year he came down with COVID.
- he could store seasonal clothes and gear home and have more storage available in his dorm.
- he had a ready group of high school friends, EC friends etc from school in college. All he had to do was make more friends.
- pre-existing professional connections through his years of EC and internships in HS.

P.S. to above.

He'll be way happier if he skips college, probably. I grew up with a lot of Mennonites who left school at 8th grade. Not going to college has a bad rap because it also captures deadbeats and losers. But these guys learn a trade, work hard, marry well and rake it in.

Way more to life than the fckin SAT. I remember having a friend who scored sub-700 in high school. In all honesty, when he told me, I said which part? And he was like, no, total. His life has been fine.

Your kid will be happy if he learns a marketable skill, marries well, and has a great family and community.

Zero is the exact number of fcks to give about this news.