Anonymous wrote:I’m the mom, I work FT and I do it all. DH will take the kids to appointments but I still have to schedule them, research providers, deal with insurance, mind the bills.

Same. I am the manager of all things medical, DH is the assistant. It works for us, it just helps to have one person in charge. And he is always willing to do whatever part I assign to him - take someone to an appointment, pick up a prescription, etc.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the mom, I work FT and I do it all. DH will take the kids to appointments but I still have to schedule them, research providers, deal with insurance, mind the bills.

+1. Exactly the same. If I don’t do it, it won’t happen.

DH also has ADHD, the apple didn’t fall very far…

Exact same here - 2 ADHD / 3 fmaily. My job is a true 40 hours and has tons of flexibility otherwise I doubt I could work FT.

Anonymous wrote:I’m the mom, I work FT and I do it all. DH will take the kids to appointments but I still have to schedule them, research providers, deal with insurance, mind the bills.

+1. Exactly the same. If I don’t do it, it won’t happen.

DH also has ADHD, the apple didn’t fall very far…

I’m the mom, I work FT and I do it all. DH will take the kids to appointments but I still have to schedule them, research providers, deal with insurance, mind the bills.

Two moms household here. I do all the OON billing (even though DC is on her insurance now), IEP related work, finding tutors (boy, was that a bear), finding/applying to summer academic programs. She does some of the routine medical appointment and dentist appointment scheduling. She takes to more appointments than I do. Whenever she catches me doing some of the painful insurance stuff, she quips, "You do everything and I do nothing)

Both work full time, and I recently passed off responsibility for dentist and orthodontist to my spouse. Both of our kids recently got different, complicated diagnoses so I am managing the rest, including all insurance.

I spent two hours on the phone today dealing with medical stuff. Sigh.

Thank you all for the input, I'm comforted knowing this is common.