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Anonymous wrote:I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

This seems about right to me.

Most of my DD's friends (she is a senior) have not had sex and some have. The ones who have had sex have a long-term boyfriend in later high school years (junior/senior) OR date a lot.

See this right here is why none of us will actually know the truth. Many teens, guys and girls have sex outside of relationships and most will not know about it because of the shame. And all of those “anonymous” poles that we think are so honest, the teens still won’t tell the truth in fear it’s not really anonymous. I mean if you had strict parents and had a pole in school, no way are you like I’m 15 and have had 3 partners. Get real.

Only the ones in relationships will admit to it. The other ones are “virgins” like Dione from Clueless.

And don’t get me started on the sexting and photos/videos. That actually PEAKS in middle school.

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Anonymous wrote:“The 2022 Fairfax County Youth Survey of 8th, 10th, and 12th Grade Students included several questions on students’ sexual activities. One in ten students (10.1%) reported having had sexual intercourse at least once in their lifetime, ranging from 1.6% of eighth-grade students to 22.0% of twelfth-grade students. A larger percentage of male students reported having had intercourse (10.8% compared to 8.9% of female students). The percentage of students who have had intercourse varied by racial/ethnic group, ranging from 4.5% of Asian students to 13.8% of Hispanic students. The rate for lifetime prevalence of sexual intercourse dropped 1.7 percentage points from 2021 to 2022, and the percentage of students in 2022 who reported having had sexual intercourse in their lifetime was 12.5 percentage points lower than the 2010 rate. Approximately one in fifteen Fairfax County students (6.8%) reported having sexual intercourse in the past three months, including 15.3% of twelfth-grade students.
Less than two thirds of the Fairfax County students (63.1%) who are sexually active* reported using a condom during their last sexual intercourse. Male students were more likely to report condom use (66.8% compared to 59.4% of female students). Students of other or multiple races reported the lowest rate of condom usage (57.5%) during their last sexual intercourse. The 2022 rate increased by roughly 2.0 percentage points from 2021 after declining for three consecutive survey years since 2018.
About one in nine students (11.0%) reported having had oral sex in their lifetime, ranging from 2.3% of eighth-grade students to 22.7% of twelfth-grade students. Male students were more likely to report having had oral sex (12.1% compared to 9.4% of female students). Rates of having had oral sex ranged from 5.7% of Asian students to 13.6% of White students and students of other or multiple races. The rate has continued to trend downward since 2010 when 26.2% of students reported having oral sex in their

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Take those self reported polls with a grain of salt. Kids don't want to report what they've done/haven't done even when anonymous.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“The 2022 Fairfax County Youth Survey of 8th, 10th, and 12th Grade Students included several questions on students’ sexual activities. One in ten students (10.1%) reported having had sexual intercourse at least once in their lifetime, ranging from 1.6% of eighth-grade students to 22.0% of twelfth-grade students. A larger percentage of male students reported having had intercourse (10.8% compared to 8.9% of female students). The percentage of students who have had intercourse varied by racial/ethnic group, ranging from 4.5% of Asian students to 13.8% of Hispanic students. The rate for lifetime prevalence of sexual intercourse dropped 1.7 percentage points from 2021 to 2022, and the percentage of students in 2022 who reported having had sexual intercourse in their lifetime was 12.5 percentage points lower than the 2010 rate. Approximately one in fifteen Fairfax County students (6.8%) reported having sexual intercourse in the past three months, including 15.3% of twelfth-grade students.
Less than two thirds of the Fairfax County students (63.1%) who are sexually active* reported using a condom during their last sexual intercourse. Male students were more likely to report condom use (66.8% compared to 59.4% of female students). Students of other or multiple races reported the lowest rate of condom usage (57.5%) during their last sexual intercourse. The 2022 rate increased by roughly 2.0 percentage points from 2021 after declining for three consecutive survey years since 2018.
About one in nine students (11.0%) reported having had oral sex in their lifetime, ranging from 2.3% of eighth-grade students to 22.7% of twelfth-grade students. Male students were more likely to report having had oral sex (12.1% compared to 9.4% of female students). Rates of having had oral sex ranged from 5.7% of Asian students to 13.6% of White students and students of other or multiple races. The rate has continued to trend downward since 2010 when 26.2% of students reported having oral sex in their

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Take those self reported polls with a grain of salt. Kids don't want to report what they've done/haven't done even when anonymous.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

I would love to see a study comparing teens with more extracurriculars and “rigor” with those with less, and age of first sexual activity. My bet is the difference won’t be statistically significant.

NP. I don't know. The ones I know of in the middle school already into all the things have a whole lot of time on their hands in pretty lightly supervised environments.

Not saying other kids don't find a way if they are so inclined.

Anonymous wrote:“The 2022 Fairfax County Youth Survey of 8th, 10th, and 12th Grade Students included several questions on students’ sexual activities. One in ten students (10.1%) reported having had sexual intercourse at least once in their lifetime, ranging from 1.6% of eighth-grade students to 22.0% of twelfth-grade students. A larger percentage of male students reported having had intercourse (10.8% compared to 8.9% of female students). The percentage of students who have had intercourse varied by racial/ethnic group, ranging from 4.5% of Asian students to 13.8% of Hispanic students. The rate for lifetime prevalence of sexual intercourse dropped 1.7 percentage points from 2021 to 2022, and the percentage of students in 2022 who reported having had sexual intercourse in their lifetime was 12.5 percentage points lower than the 2010 rate. Approximately one in fifteen Fairfax County students (6.8%) reported having sexual intercourse in the past three months, including 15.3% of twelfth-grade students.
Less than two thirds of the Fairfax County students (63.1%) who are sexually active* reported using a condom during their last sexual intercourse. Male students were more likely to report condom use (66.8% compared to 59.4% of female students). Students of other or multiple races reported the lowest rate of condom usage (57.5%) during their last sexual intercourse. The 2022 rate increased by roughly 2.0 percentage points from 2021 after declining for three consecutive survey years since 2018.
About one in nine students (11.0%) reported having had oral sex in their lifetime, ranging from 2.3% of eighth-grade students to 22.7% of twelfth-grade students. Male students were more likely to report having had oral sex (12.1% compared to 9.4% of female students). Rates of having had oral sex ranged from 5.7% of Asian students to 13.6% of White students and students of other or multiple races. The rate has continued to trend downward since 2010 when 26.2% of students reported having oral sex in their

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

I would love to see a study comparing teens with more extracurriculars and “rigor” with those with less, and age of first sexual activity. My bet is the difference won’t be statistically significant.

NP. I don't know. The ones I know of in the middle school already into all the things have a whole lot of time on their hands in pretty lightly supervised environments.

Not saying other kids don't find a way if they are so inclined.

This is similar to what I have seen as well. The kids with lots of time on their hands and inadequate supervision, are into all sorts of things (and not just sex, vaping, drinking, etc.). The ones with lots of time on their hands but parents who don't try to be their friends are considerably less likely to engage in all fo the above.

I don't agree with this at all. First, you're lumping vaping, drinking, and sex together. I don't see them as similar at all UNLESS you're dealing with promiscuity. It is normal for teens to date and also normal for teens to have sex. The CDC says more than half of teens have had sex before 18. Are you seriously thinking that more than half the teens are inadequately supervised and that is why they have had sex?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

This seems about right to me.

Most of my DD's friends (she is a senior) have not had sex and some have. The ones who have had sex have a long-term boyfriend in later high school years (junior/senior) OR date a lot.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

I would love to see a study comparing teens with more extracurriculars and “rigor” with those with less, and age of first sexual activity. My bet is the difference won’t be statistically significant.

NP. I don't know. The ones I know of in the middle school already into all the things have a whole lot of time on their hands in pretty lightly supervised environments.

Not saying other kids don't find a way if they are so inclined.

This is similar to what I have seen as well. The kids with lots of time on their hands and inadequate supervision, are into all sorts of things (and not just sex, vaping, drinking, etc.). The ones with lots of time on their hands but parents who don't try to be their friends are considerably less likely to engage in all fo the above.

I don't agree with this at all. First, you're lumping vaping, drinking, and sex together. I don't see them as similar at all UNLESS you're dealing with promiscuity. It is normal for teens to date and also normal for teens to have sex. The CDC says more than half of teens have had sex before 18. Are you seriously thinking that more than half the teens are inadequately supervised and that is why they have had sex?

Anonymous wrote:My spouse & I are both immigrants from a more conservative country.

We have a 12 & 14 year old ( boy & girl) and are curious as to what to expect in the coming years. For those who have older teens, what has been your experience ?

TIA

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

I would love to see a study comparing teens with more extracurriculars and “rigor” with those with less, and age of first sexual activity. My bet is the difference won’t be statistically significant.

Disagree. The 12-14 yr olds having sex having a lot of free time that is unsupervised and tend to be troubled. If your 13 yr old is not in a relationship and is having sex, you have a big problem

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Anonymous wrote:Per DD, a few are active by the time they're 12, and more by 14, although the ones that started at 12 seem to have stopped. Most studies show that teens are delaying sex and average age is something like 17 (IIRC).

Also keep in mind that what a teen considers sex generally involves penetration, and they do not consider BJs and oral sex to be sex.

12 and even 14 year olds having sex is so depressing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

I would love to see a study comparing teens with more extracurriculars and “rigor” with those with less, and age of first sexual activity. My bet is the difference won’t be statistically significant.

NP. I don't know. The ones I know of in the middle school already into all the things have a whole lot of time on their hands in pretty lightly supervised environments.

Not saying other kids don't find a way if they are so inclined.

This is similar to what I have seen as well. The kids with lots of time on their hands and inadequate supervision, are into all sorts of things (and not just sex, vaping, drinking, etc.). The ones with lots of time on their hands but parents who don't try to be their friends are considerably less likely to engage in all fo the above.