Someone who wants to be married?

A better question is, what makes a man marriage material?

How big his bank account is.

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Anonymous wrote:The biggest difference between my married and nonmarried female friends: the ones who are single didn't want to settle for someone mediocre/with issues.

I have a friend who had many suitors but she wanted someone who was better. I think people who remain single are often ones who think they are better than they are. I remember we had a mutual friend who was in love with my friend but he was a comcast guy. That wasn’t good enough. Another guy became a cop. A third ran a small restaurant. She wanted a banker or hedge fund type guy.

Yep, I’ve seen the same thing. These are the women who say things like “men are too intimidated to ask me out” or “she’s just jealous of me” and you just nod politely while not pointing out the litany of off-putting things about them that they are completely blind to.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.

Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.

Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?

Marriage material:

Good in bed, good at cooking, good at planning awesome vacations & weekends, good at cleaning & tidying, good with babies, toddlers, adolescents, tweens & teens, good at keeping family traditions, good health & wellness & fitness, and good at supporting me.

I always appreciate hearing the truth like this even it makes me a little bit ill. Marriage material = making a man's life easy and happy.

What reason do you think men should have? Why else would we bother?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.

Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.

Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?

Marriage material:

Good in bed, good at cooking, good at planning awesome vacations & weekends, good at cleaning & tidying, good with babies, toddlers, adolescents, tweens & teens, good at keeping family traditions, good health & wellness & fitness, and good at supporting me.

I was just going to say KIND.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.

Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.

Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?

Marriage material:

Good in bed, good at cooking, good at planning awesome vacations & weekends, good at cleaning & tidying, good with babies, toddlers, adolescents, tweens & teens, good at keeping family traditions, good health & wellness & fitness, and good at supporting me.

Yep, well said.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.

Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.

Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?

Marriage material:

Good in bed, good at cooking, good at planning awesome vacations & weekends, good at cleaning & tidying, good with babies, toddlers, adolescents, tweens & teens, good at keeping family traditions, good health & wellness & fitness, and good at supporting me.

I always appreciate hearing the truth like this even it makes me a little bit ill. Marriage material = making a man's life easy and happy.

Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.

Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.

Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?

Marriage material:

Good in bed, good at cooking, good at planning awesome vacations & weekends, good at cleaning & tidying, good with babies, toddlers, adolescents, tweens & teens, good at keeping family traditions, good health & wellness & fitness, and good at supporting me.

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Anonymous wrote:The biggest difference between my married and nonmarried female friends: the ones who are single didn't want to settle for someone mediocre/with issues.

I have a friend who had many suitors but she wanted someone who was better. I think people who remain single are often ones who think they are better than they are. I remember we had a mutual friend who was in love with my friend but he was a comcast guy. That wasn’t good enough. Another guy became a cop. A third ran a small restaurant. She wanted a banker or hedge fund type guy.

Some people have a difficult time coming to terms with the reality that they are a flawed human in search of another flawed human.

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Anonymous wrote:Describing someone as marriage material is so gross. It's intrinsically super sexist.

Marriage is all luck and timing. Luck in meeting someone who works (I don't believe in The One) and timing with it being during society's tiny window acceptability for women (age 25-35).

The rest is nonsense.

This is what people say when they’re old, fat, and/or ugly.

No way, this is just not true. Timing and flexibility is huge. There are many fat, old, and ugly married people. Be serious.

My married friends vary in terms of looks/professional success but the married ones met their now spouses in their mid 20s. They found equal ish matches in men who had the shared goal of settling down. Finding the right person (an acceptable match) at the right time (typically mid 20s) is about luck. Of course you can increase your options by being especially marketable and having flexible standards but being hot and/or rich is not at all necessary.

Perhaps a better question is who has a marriage agenda? Many people make marrying their priority for various reasons including but not always for love. Some people (women & men) just don't make it a priority but would be suitable should that be a goal of theirs.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you aren't marriage material!

Anonymous wrote:Describing someone as marriage material is so gross. It's intrinsically super sexist.

Marriage is all luck and timing. Luck in meeting someone who works (I don't believe in The One) and timing with it being during society's tiny window acceptability for women (age 25-35).

The rest is nonsense.

No, PP is right. I spent my early twenties attempting to date within my own religion. I suppose the idea was to check one of those "marriage material" boxes right off the bat. Then at age 26 I met a woman completely randomly who was not my religion but much more enjoyable to spend time with. We became marriage material when we met each other.

Anonymous wrote:A big issue that I see in the women I know: they don't want to get married. That's a deal killer right there.

+1

That's what out of your league means.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The biggest difference between my married and nonmarried female friends: the ones who are single didn't want to settle for someone mediocre/with issues.

I have a friend who had many suitors but she wanted someone who was better. I think people who remain single are often ones who think they are better than they are. I remember we had a mutual friend who was in love with my friend but he was a comcast guy. That wasn’t good enough. Another guy became a cop. A third ran a small restaurant. She wanted a banker or hedge fund type guy.

This. My friend who desperately wanted to marry and never did was a 5 looking to date/marry men at 8 or 9.

Sounds like you aren't marriage material!

Anonymous wrote:Describing someone as marriage material is so gross. It's intrinsically super sexist.

Marriage is all luck and timing. Luck in meeting someone who works (I don't believe in The One) and timing with it being during society's tiny window acceptability for women (age 25-35).

The rest is nonsense.