Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:56     Subject: Is this fair?
I did not want my child to choose based upon cost, but I think she let it sway her.

I knew that money would just go in my pocket, and this was a once in a lifetime decision. I wanted her to follow her heart, rather than try to be practical/unselfish in this instance.

(So she did not always wonder if the other would have been better.)

But that circumstance does not sound like it applies here.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:54     Subject: Is this fair?
Anonymous wrote:Without knowing the college, cant comment.

OP, share the names


DP
The names are irrelevant. If a kid is torn between two he loves both, and clearly isn’t using your precious rankings or prestige as a deciding factor. Lots of us care about many other things besides that.

OP, I would definitely let them know $$ is a factor. My DD knew how much we had to give her, and decided based on that.

Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:50     Subject: Re:Is this fair?
Offer to pay them 10-20k to pick the cheaper school, worked for us. Everyone happy
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:33     Subject: Is this fair?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dc is torn between two schools. One is 20/25k cheaper. Can we sway them to that one as a tiebreaker? I don't want to cause resentment.


No, not unless you were clear there was a set budget from the start



Even if he's torn or can't decide?
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:27     Subject: Is this fair?
Anonymous wrote:Dc is torn between two schools. One is 20/25k cheaper. Can we sway them to that one as a tiebreaker? I don't want to cause resentment.


No, not unless you were clear there was a set budget from the start
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:04     Subject: Is this fair?
I don't see how this is a question.
Do you tiptoe around finances on every aspect of your and your kid's life, as if it's a forbidden topic?
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 07:46     Subject: Is this fair?
Is the difference money you will be paying or loans they will have to pay back?
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 07:38     Subject: Is this fair?
Anonymous wrote:Dc is torn between two schools. One is 20/25k cheaper. Can we sway them to that one as a tiebreaker? I don't want to cause resentment.


If you are financing and this this the prime deciding factor, it seems logical that you should have a say or at least be able to express a strong opinion without repercussion. If the extra $80K-$100K does not justify the outcome, the decision seems easy to me. What does the extra $100K get you?
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 07:25     Subject: Is this fair?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Without knowing the college, cant comment.

OP, share the names


State flagships similarly ranked. Maybe one is 33 vs 45.


So what schools and major?


Not OP but GaTech is 33. Purdue is tied for 45 so I’d guess that one.


Not flagships
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 07:08     Subject: Is this fair?
Anonymous wrote:For starters 12 isn’t 20/25k


What do you mean by this?
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 06:59     Subject: Is this fair?
For starters 12 isn’t 20/25k
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 06:43     Subject: Is this fair?
Cost difference is a perfectly reasonable tie-breaker if kid is otherwise undecided.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 06:37     Subject: Is this fair?
Anonymous wrote:swaying as in manipulating or swaying as in asking them to consider the cost and the values of both schools?


The latter
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 06:36     Subject: Is this fair?
Anonymous wrote:swaying as in manipulating or swaying as in asking them to consider the cost and the values of both schools?[/quot


The latter
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 06:27     Subject: Is this fair?
The point is examples are UMD vs Ohio, Penn state v Indiana, UF vs UGA, Wisconsin vs UMD
Along those lines but none are exact. Can't say due to someone seeing.