Anonymous
04/19/2024 20:24
Subject: How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
OP I know this is not what you want to hear. Finding a good part time nanny is like finding a unicorn. Also, many nannies don’t want to watch 3 kids, finding a new nanny will not be a cake walk.
Something to think about, what if the baby comes early or you have a complicated birth. You will appreciate having a third responsible adult in the house.
Something to think about, what if the baby comes early or you have a complicated birth. You will appreciate having a third responsible adult in the house.
Anonymous
04/19/2024 20:15
Subject: How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
You want to deal with this and have a new baby at the same time? You need to look at the big picture. When you go back to work you need someone you can trust.
Anonymous
04/19/2024 20:14
Subject: How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
+100 on keeping her full time. If you propose this, she will leave, guaranteed
Anonymous
04/19/2024 20:07
Subject: How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
Agree with all the others. This is cutting off your nose to save money on your facelift.
Keep paying her FT. Use her hours for date nights, back to school nights, all the random school holidays, sick-but-not-super-sick days, etc. You could also have a conversation about her using some of her child-free time to return things at Target, pick up groceries, find a purple shirt for Purple Shirt Day at school tomorrow, etc. — all the errands that suck out my will to live.
Do not ask her to clean your house.
Keep paying her FT. Use her hours for date nights, back to school nights, all the random school holidays, sick-but-not-super-sick days, etc. You could also have a conversation about her using some of her child-free time to return things at Target, pick up groceries, find a purple shirt for Purple Shirt Day at school tomorrow, etc. — all the errands that suck out my will to live.
Do not ask her to clean your house.
Anonymous
04/19/2024 19:35
Subject: How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
OP, your nanny might not even want to take care of 3 kids and if you approach her with your unbelievably stupid proposal, she will quit on the spot and you will get what you deserve.
Anonymous
04/19/2024 17:28
Subject: Re:How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
Eek this is tough. With a third coming I truly would consider trying to make it work op… have her come in the mornings and make your life easier getting off to school somehow. During maternity leave have her take things off your plate. 3 kids and a full time job is a lot, having a trusted nanny is worth a lot. And it’s an expense that is already currently built into your life
Anonymous
04/19/2024 17:26
Subject: How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
Damn. She’s full time. You want her to work 3 hours a day from Sept to “late fall”. And then zero until spring. And then full time in spring? You sound very naive. And inconsiderate. Think about if someone ask you to do that what your reaction would be. Most likely F Off.
Anonymous
04/19/2024 17:10
Subject: How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
Anonymous wrote:In a similar situation, we opted to move heaven and earth financially in order to keep our nanny. It was tight but worth it to keep consistency for our toddler who was very attached to the nanny. And i did really appreciate the full time help during maternity leave. The nanny focused on the toddler and I focused on the baby or sometimes we would trade off so I could have quality time with the toddler.
Listen to this person.
Your nanny won't be able to survive on 3hr/day, so 15hr/week of pay. I'm sure her expenses are adjusted to her being fulltime. And she won't be able to find other work to fill the time. You are putting her in a terrible position. Don't even ask this of her, because just asking will change your relationship.
In a few years, you won't miss that money. You and your kids will be so grateful to having a caring and trustworthy nanny.
Anonymous
04/19/2024 17:04
Subject: How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
You’d be nuts to let this nanny go with a third child on the way. Find a way to afford her full-time and you can spend more time with your older two or work on home projects during your mat leave.
Anonymous
04/19/2024 16:29
Subject: How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
Anonymous wrote:The time has come in our family where, next school year, I will only need childcare in the afternoons, from about 1:30-4:30.
We adore our nanny who is currently full time with us. I am fully aware that she might not be able to stay with us part time, but is there a way I could frame it up to increase our chances? Should I offer to find her another family who only needs morning help?
The twist is we are expecting our third baby, but not til late in the fall, and then I will have five months of maternity leave. I can't justify the price of a full time nanny during that time, but I would love her to come back with us and work full time again when I go back to work next spring.
Is there anything I can do to make this happen (part time starting in august, then scale back up to full time in the spring)? I understand this is a selfish thought but I would love to make it work. The alternative, I know, would be to let her go, find an afternoon babysitter for this school year til the spring, then find a whole new nanny when I go back to work. I can't justify the cost or the hours of extra help I won't need when my kids are in school full time, and when I'm off work on maternity leave.
Good lord, but you are a selfish, entitled beatch.
Anonymous
04/19/2024 16:25
Subject: How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
Anonymous wrote:The time has come in our family where, next school year, I will only need childcare in the afternoons, from about 1:30-4:30.
We adore our nanny who is currently full time with us. I am fully aware that she might not be able to stay with us part time, but is there a way I could frame it up to increase our chances? Should I offer to find her another family who only needs morning help?
The twist is we are expecting our third baby, but not til late in the fall, and then I will have five months of maternity leave. I can't justify the price of a full time nanny during that time, but I would love her to come back with us and work full time again when I go back to work next spring.
Is there anything I can do to make this happen (part time starting in august, then scale back up to full time in the spring)? I understand this is a selfish thought but I would love to make it work. The alternative, I know, would be to let her go, find an afternoon babysitter for this school year til the spring, then find a whole new nanny when I go back to work. I can't justify the cost or the hours of extra help I won't need when my kids are in school full time, and when I'm off work on maternity leave.
How would you like it if your boss cut your to part time? You'd have a blinking fit. You are cheap and ridiculously stupid to think that a nanny can live in half pay. I hope she finds a new job soon.
Anonymous
04/19/2024 15:45
Subject: How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
Anonymous wrote:You could speak to her landlord and get the landlord to agree (in writing!) to reduce her rent by at least 50%.
Also, speak to local grocery stores, concert venues, airlines, and restaurants and get them agree to give her at least a 50% discount on everything she could possibly ever need or want.
Or did you just expect her to go without her own needs to accommodate what you can "justify?"
+1
I bet you also say you love her like a family.
No, you can’t ask somebody to take a massive cut and pay for your own benefit. You either need to let her go so she can go find another family well probably give her a raise, or keep her on at full-time until you need her again in the spring.
Anonymous
04/19/2024 15:42
Subject: How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
Well can you convince her landlord and grocery store to give her a 50% discount? I don’t understand the selfishness of your mindset op, you want to guilt someone into extreme hardship for the convenience of your family? So you live in downton abbey or something?
Anonymous
04/19/2024 15:41
Subject: How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
In a similar situation, we opted to move heaven and earth financially in order to keep our nanny. It was tight but worth it to keep consistency for our toddler who was very attached to the nanny. And i did really appreciate the full time help during maternity leave. The nanny focused on the toddler and I focused on the baby or sometimes we would trade off so I could have quality time with the toddler.
Anonymous
04/19/2024 15:39
Subject: How to ask Nanny if she'd be willing to go part time
Good luck getting reliable daily help for only three hours during the afternoon