They are smart, very smart

Totally single, never married, no kids = difficult to get along with/live with, overly accustomed to their own space and habits, looking for a friend to set them up with someone but won’t put themselves out there on online dating and such.

Divorced = the divorce messed them up mentally and/or financially and they never got around to dating again.

Single with kids = don’t want to bring a stranger around their kids until the kids are much older (probably responsible).

Anonymous wrote:Of them? I know you people judge everyone so what is the first thing that pops in your mind when meeting someone like this?

I would think they should plan a fun trip for their 40th birthday.

I would also think they aren't either interested in marriage, couldn't find a good match or didn't want to settle.

I would think they have no responsibility or restriction so should make the most of their life.

Anonymous wrote:I'm female, 63, never married. 20 year old daughter. SMC. Enjoy dating and sex; dislike boredom in sex partner year after year. Nearly all former boyfriends are dependable friends.

I love being different. I thank god I am so not ordinary.

Yuck

Anonymous wrote:Undiagnosed and/or untreated mental illness.

This^^

There’s usually a reason, but the range of reasons is far too wide to make an immediate judgment.

In my very late 30s and early 40s I was lawyering in rural Montana - well all of Montana is rural compared to DC.

Anyway had some female colleagues who like me had gone that far without ever marrying. We would have the occasional dinner party and would often laugh about how we were either considered to be lesbians or somehow odd while people on their second and third marriages were considered run of the mill.

Society is weird.

I'm female, 63, never married. 20 year old daughter. SMC. Enjoy dating and sex; dislike boredom in sex partner year after year. Nearly all former boyfriends are dependable friends.

I love being different. I thank god I am so not ordinary.

There are many reasons but if they are happy alls well. If they are sad I’m not one to judge why it hasn’t worked out for them.

When I was younger , I went to therapy to make sure I was not blocking my own way to gettng married (I was pretty and popular, but often rejected nice guys due to lack of passion). I sometimes had passion, but it was often with guys who lived in another place or were not ready for commitment.

The therapist interacted with me for a year, and concluded that I was very healthy and happily independent. He said many people coupled off because they feel a hole or need to not be alone . He said I was clearly fine on my own and therefore was not motivated to turn a blind eye to a partner with issues, because anything was better than being alone.

He said he saw nothing to fix and that I should not listen to people who were concerned about my single status.

Genuinely think "good for her" and I have a happy marriage/family. That doesn't mean I'm blind to the benefits of other lifestyles!

I also assume she has a stronger personality than most because she doesn't need to compromise as much but I admire that and enjoy women like that in my social sphere. I am often surprised at what we have in common since our lifestyles are so different. They know how to have a good time and carry a conversation.

Lucky that they didn't have to marry for papers like I did. Good for them that they probably just dated and decided that marriage wasn't for them.
I never met anyone worth marrying until age 43, and that person is already married.
If you ask why the people I know are not married, then I can tell you the are several reasons. For men, mostly undiagnosed special needs. Women are half special needs and half unable to find decent men. All special needs one are functioning adults, but slightly strange.

Anonymous wrote:Nothing based off that fact alone.

Same

Anonymous wrote:They lost their soulmate in childhood or early adulthood tragedy and haven’t gotten far enough along in the grieving.

This sounds like the perfect beginning of a Hallmark Christmas Movie.

People I know that I might set them up with.