Anonymous
Post 04/14/2024 12:53     Subject: Re:Married here always contemplating divorce
Anonymous wrote:Not me. If I actually divorced, I 100% would not marry or live with a man ever again. Ever. Someone to date and do things with, maybe sleep over here and there? Sure. I don’t hate men at all, but I think marriage is overrated and doesn’t benefit most women much.


I agree 10000% and it does not benefit men either.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2024 12:51     Subject: Re:Married here always contemplating divorce
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For women the pinnacle of their life is their wedding day. It's all downhill from there.


Goal 1 marriage
Goal 2 kids
Goal 3 me me me me me

Unfortunately in that "me" phase many men fail to see the signals that she is sending. The thing "some" men sadly think that once they are married and have kids thats it. These men completely forget that with women you MUST show her love, passion, care from time to time not always but don't neglect it. Men do not need the same kind of care, but women do. And on my opinion that's where many marriages break down. If she spends hours getting ready and putt a beautiful dress on and you neglect or forget to compliment her she won't say anything to you at that moment but that moment will go into the "basket of issues" about you. Once that basket is full she will dump it and you along with it. You must take care of your wife the same way you treat a puppy otherwise she is gone. I think if men realize this they won't sign up for marriage in my opinion.


I agree on the puppy part lol. In fact you should see her as puppy. Every time I hug my wife out dog tries to steal the moment. He wants the attention on him all the times. Wives are the same way. You must devote your attention to them all time. Have you notice when women cheat, they go into elaborate details to explain why they did so and many of those details point to her feeling romantically and or sexually neglected. She actually thinks while her choice to cheat may be bad she had to do it because YOU (the neglectful husband) did not pay attention to her.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2024 12:48     Subject: Re:Married here always contemplating divorce
Not me. If I actually divorced, I 100% would not marry or live with a man ever again. Ever. Someone to date and do things with, maybe sleep over here and there? Sure. I don’t hate men at all, but I think marriage is overrated and doesn’t benefit most women much.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2024 12:39     Subject: Re:Married here always contemplating divorce
Anonymous wrote:For women the pinnacle of their life is their wedding day. It's all downhill from there.


Goal 1 marriage
Goal 2 kids
Goal 3 me me me me me

Unfortunately in that "me" phase many men fail to see the signals that she is sending. The thing "some" men sadly think that once they are married and have kids thats it. These men completely forget that with women you MUST show her love, passion, care from time to time not always but don't neglect it. Men do not need the same kind of care, but women do. And on my opinion that's where many marriages break down. If she spends hours getting ready and putt a beautiful dress on and you neglect or forget to compliment her she won't say anything to you at that moment but that moment will go into the "basket of issues" about you. Once that basket is full she will dump it and you along with it. You must take care of your wife the same way you treat a puppy otherwise she is gone. I think if men realize this they won't sign up for marriage in my opinion.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2024 12:32     Subject: Re:Married here always contemplating divorce
Anonymous wrote:If we are going to contrast how women feel about marriage and divorce with how men feel about marriage and divorce, can you tell us how men feel about it?
People keep bringing up men who are divorced and then explaining these men’s wives motivations. How do the men feel about it? Are they glad for the divorce? Do they wish they had done things differently?


I recently divorced. At first I didn't agree with it. I asked my ex for us to try to patch things up. We tried therapy and it didn't work. 1 year post divorce I wished she had (or I) filed for divorce earlier. After being single for a year I am realizing how difficult it was living with my ex. And I am sure she feels the same. To be more specific the issue I had with my ex was that she constantly comparing us to other couples. I do not know if she was suffering from mental illness but it became an obsession of hers.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2024 12:19     Subject: Re:Married here always contemplating divorce
For women the pinnacle of their life is their wedding day. It's all downhill from there.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2024 11:45     Subject: Re:Married here always contemplating divorce
If we are going to contrast how women feel about marriage and divorce with how men feel about marriage and divorce, can you tell us how men feel about it?
People keep bringing up men who are divorced and then explaining these men’s wives motivations. How do the men feel about it? Are they glad for the divorce? Do they wish they had done things differently?
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2024 03:31     Subject: Married here always contemplating divorce
Anonymous wrote:Divorce is worth it for women that’s why.


This is really all you need to know. It's a good deal for women, so they take it. Not really that much more to it.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2024 01:04     Subject: Married here always contemplating divorce
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some married women complain about their husbands a lot and constantly think about divorcing him. These women also tend to talk about men in a general sense as if all men were like their husbands. Yet these same women are eager to re-join the dating scene as soon as they are divorced perhaps because they are scared to be alone or are still looking for that elusive perfect husband. I am just confused about what they want.


I don’t see women divorcees “eager to rejoin” the dating scene IRL or in DCUM.
They’re done with that crap, and already refocused on their kids, friends, career and other goals.


+1. Not a lot of divorced friends in my circle pairing up again. They’re done with it all.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2024 00:49     Subject: Re:Married here always contemplating divorce
Anonymous wrote:I don’t give a crap about those women.


About what women? OPs imaginary bank of constant newly divorced women whooping it up on the wash dc dating scene?!?

You don’t give a crap about such women supposedly out dating?
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2024 00:46     Subject: Married here always contemplating divorce
Anonymous wrote:IMO many of the divorced male friends I have were basically baffled by their spouses behavior and just assumed she was depressed and hoped they would snap out of it if they held out long enough. Frankly my experience with women is that when they are unhappy with the relationship they begin giving the man signals but little in the way of direct or circumspect communication. They will treat the male in ways that will make him less receptive, bit more, to change.


Nope. They had the direct convos, joking therapy sessions, and big blow ups over the years citing exactly what the core issue was. Guy just didn’t care to address it or improve.

Then the wife reaches the saturation point or the kids are late teens and she’s beyond done.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2024 00:44     Subject: Married here always contemplating divorce
Anonymous wrote:Women have extremely high expectation going into a marriage, but some men end up disappointing them. I think women should aim for low expectations to avoid frustration that end up with divorce down the line...


Exactly.

How low can you go.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2024 00:42     Subject: Married here always contemplating divorce
Anonymous wrote:Some married women complain about their husbands a lot and constantly think about divorcing him. These women also tend to talk about men in a general sense as if all men were like their husbands. Yet these same women are eager to re-join the dating scene as soon as they are divorced perhaps because they are scared to be alone or are still looking for that elusive perfect husband. I am just confused about what they want.


Is this a joke?

Women aren’t doing this at all. Racing to dating because they’re scared to be alone or want perfection? Lol.

What’s lonelier than being alone solo OP?
Being lonely in a marriage to an ahole deadweight.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2024 00:40     Subject: Married here always contemplating divorce
Anonymous wrote:Some married women complain about their husbands a lot and constantly think about divorcing him. These women also tend to talk about men in a general sense as if all men were like their husbands. Yet these same women are eager to re-join the dating scene as soon as they are divorced perhaps because they are scared to be alone or are still looking for that elusive perfect husband. I am just confused about what they want.


I don’t see women divorcees “eager to rejoin” the dating scene IRL or in DCUM.
They’re done with that crap, and already refocused on their kids, friends, career and other goals.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2024 21:44     Subject: Re:Married here always contemplating divorce
I don’t give a crap about those women.