If you are the rich spouse you should be marrying the homemaker or sex buddy.

A career man has no ned for a rich career woman. He already has a career.

Anonymous wrote:Stop having a “provider mindset.” This isn’t the 1950s.

I'm a feminist and I don't think it's anti-feminist to seek out a man who wants to be a provider (even though I didn't... maybe because I didn't). If you want kids, having a partner who will view it as his responsibility to make sure the family is financially provided for will give you a lot more options when the kids are small, and also helps to even things out a bit since women do all this unpaid labor around pregnancy and childbirth. Also, if you know up front you want to be a SAHM, you absolutely have to find someone who will be on board with that, which means finding someone who *wants* to be the sole earner during the years you aren't making money. I don't view wanting to be a SAHM as a 1950s attitude, especially if you just want to do it when your kids are young. Raising kids is important, under appreciated work, and if a family wants to set it up so that one person earns money to enable the other person to do that work, what's wrong with that? I also think if you want to SAHD, you should look for a woman who wants to provide for the family.

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Anonymous wrote:The question is why are you "marriage material"?

+1 I'm wealthy and have a career. I expect the same from a partner.

Most wealthy and career driven men do not expect or even want the same out of a woman. They tend to be more traditional. They want a woman that cook, be a great mom, clean and look presentable.

Stop having a “provider mindset.” This isn’t the 1950s.

That's because you're not wife material.

Exactly how much of a “provider” are you looking for? Big difference between finding a guy who makes $150K and one who makes $600-$1.2M.

You aren't marriage material and that is why you posted this.

You don't have to do anything they will know of that's the case.

Anonymous wrote:Stop being vapid for a start. Your “fun” and “down for anything” vibe is antithetical to a wife married to a high quality guy.

This. These men want something worth working to obtain, something other men will envy; kind but discerning.

Anonymous wrote:My poor scientist boyfriend became a wealthy husband, OP. If both of you are on the younger side, you can be with someone with potential and drive rather than someone who has already "arrived".

Big gamble though.

A T-shirt that says “Marriage Material” in all-caps might be a fun conversation-starter. Perhaps there is a provider-minded, age-appropriate man in your circle who is befuddled why he is only attracting the boho party girls. If you don’t want to be so direct (wearing this T-shirt) maybe join a club like the University Club or similar. Not a country club. If you belong to a faith community you may wish to let your rabbi/pastor/imam/or other religious person know about your interest in marrying. If they truly are leaders of the flock, they should have insights into potential matches for you.

Go to places that cost a lot. Weeds out the broke clowns.

Anonymous wrote:My poor scientist boyfriend became a wealthy husband, OP. If both of you are on the younger side, you can be with someone with potential and drive rather than someone who has already "arrived".

I have to disagree. Don't marry potential.

Propise to them

Read “The Rules”

Dress like the wives of the type of men you desire.