Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:52     Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:If your DH seduced her then she is guilty but If she seduced him then she is criminal, either way she is a home wrecker and so is your DH. You can take high road or stoop low to wreck hers, either way its your call and no one would judge you.


When hos go low, go lower!!!
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:52     Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
*criminal mean socially and morally not legally
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:52     Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Share the evidence. Recommend STD tests and politely ask him to follow up with you if he tests positive for anything. Then, leave it be and focus on your own household. Good luck.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:51     Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just confirmed the affair 100%, sadly both EA and physical now.
Not sure what will happen with me and DH. He’s ending it, as he says he wants “us” over her. But we obv have a LOT to figure out.

But being in a world of anger and pain, I feel that AP should not get off scott free. I’m assuming she loves my DH, so his ending it will hurt. Any reason why I should not blow up her marriage as she/DH have done mine?
Why do you assume that?


Cuz he's so garsh-darn loveable. And all women get the feels.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:51     Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
If your DH seduced her then she is guilty but If she seduced him then she is criminal, either way she is a home wrecker and so is your DH. You can take high road or stoop low to wreck hers, either way its your call and no one would judge you.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:51     Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:I would! If anything it ensures the AP isn’t going to be mucking around.


+1 Think of it as a favor to all the other married women out there. Maybe she'll think twice before messing with someone else's family again.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:46     Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Once she knows that you know, she will prob come clean to her H in fear if you doing so. Plenty of stories on DCUM where this has happened (and it often does not end well for the AP, despite their “honesty”).


Doubtful. If she does she will likely lie and say some crazy woman that thinks she was hitting on her husband is wrongly accusing her. OR she'll claims a multi-year thing was 'one time'.

She blew up your life. You can repay her with the same.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:44     Subject: Re:Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
I did by email- with details. Go for it.

Her husband filed and divorced her.

Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:40     Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just confirmed the affair 100%, sadly both EA and physical now.
Not sure what will happen with me and DH. He’s ending it, as he says he wants “us” over her. But we obv have a LOT to figure out.

But being in a world of anger and pain, I feel that AP should not get off scott free. I’m assuming she loves my DH, so his ending it will hurt. Any reason why I should not blow up her marriage as she/DH have done mine?
Why do you assume that?


Cuz he's so garsh-darn loveable. And all women get the feels.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:40     Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Just confirmed the affair 100%, sadly both EA and physical now.
Not sure what will happen with me and DH. He’s ending it, as he says he wants “us” over her. But we obv have a LOT to figure out.

But being in a world of anger and pain, I feel that AP should not get off scott free. I’m assuming she loves my DH, so his ending it will hurt. Any reason why I should not blow up her marriage as she/DH have done mine?
Why do you assume that?
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:36     Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Once she knows that you know, she will prob come clean to her H in fear if you doing so. Plenty of stories on DCUM where this has happened (and it often does not end well for the AP, despite their “honesty”).


In my experience, the AP sort of came clean to his wife but then I invited her to call me with questions and she did and learned a whole lot more, including the length of the affair. They may "come clean" with a heavily sanitized version with a lot of trickle true and important details omitted.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:34     Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:I’d do it and tell them you caught herpes from someone in the trio so he’d better get tested.


No need to lie like that.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:29     Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Yes you should tell him.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:28     Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Once she knows that you know, she will prob come clean to her H in fear if you doing so. Plenty of stories on DCUM where this has happened (and it often does not end well for the AP, despite their “honesty”).
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 15:25     Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
I would! If anything it ensures the AP isn’t going to be mucking around.