Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 10:07     Subject: 13 year old is Dad's best man
Anonymous wrote:This is not weird at all. It is lovely.

And this kid doesn’t have to do anything like host or give a speech unless he and the dad agree on these things. The kid isn’t going to be arrested if he “fails” some strange litmus test some of you have for best man duties. The two of them can work this out.


+1
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 10:02     Subject: 13 year old is Dad's best man

I was a flower girl at my parents' wedding. Don't remember a thing

Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 10:01     Subject: Re:13 year old is Dad's best man
Anonymous wrote:The groomsmen have a role to play with things like helping guests to seats, rounding up the right people for group photos. A 13-year-old is a child, not a man.


Stop being so rigid about wedding roles!
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 10:01     Subject: 13 year old is Dad's best man
Anonymous wrote:Is that weird? My child just told me he's his Dad's best man at his wedding. I thought it was weird, but maybe I haven't been to enough weddings?


Maybe you went to one too many, or one too few, depending on what happened with you and the Dad.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 10:00     Subject: Re:13 year old is Dad's best man
Anonymous wrote:The groomsmen have a role to play with things like helping guests to seats, rounding up the right people for group photos. A 13-year-old is a child, not a man.


The best man's job is to support the groom how the groom needs, not to be an admin assistant.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 09:59     Subject: Re:13 year old is Dad's best man
[quote=Anonymous]The groomsmen have a role to play with things like helping guests to seats, rounding up the right people for group photos. A 13-year-old is a child, not a man.[/quote]

I'm sorry your life is so empty of love and basic problem-solving skills.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 09:57     Subject: 13 year old is Dad's best man
Anonymous wrote:Is that weird? My child just told me he's his Dad's best man at his wedding. I thought it was weird, but maybe I haven't been to enough weddings?


What a disgusting response to have to a wedding and a father and son with strong bond. Be better.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 09:04     Subject: 13 year old is Dad's best man

It's great!!

Your attitude towards this will impact your relationship going forward.

Be supportive and you will have smoother sailing.

If you try to make it difficult or don't help you will look like a shrew and poison the relationship with both son and ex.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 08:58     Subject: 13 year old is Dad's best man
Very common for people with kids to do this.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 08:44     Subject: 13 year old is Dad's best man
Anonymous wrote:This is not weird at all. It is lovely.

And this kid doesn’t have to do anything like host or give a speech unless he and the dad agree on these things. The kid isn’t going to be arrested if he “fails” some strange litmus test some of you have for best man duties. The two of them can work this out.



This.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 08:23     Subject: 13 year old is Dad's best man
He gets to plan the bachelor party! 😁
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 07:45     Subject: Re:13 year old is Dad's best man
Anonymous wrote:You’re all assuming that 13 YO is happy about this wedding and his dad’s remarriage. OP I think that is key.


I think mom is unhappy and casting shade on the event.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 07:13     Subject: 13 year old is Dad's best man
This is not weird at all. It is lovely.

And this kid doesn’t have to do anything like host or give a speech unless he and the dad agree on these things. The kid isn’t going to be arrested if he “fails” some strange litmus test some of you have for best man duties. The two of them can work this out.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2024 21:57     Subject: 13 year old is Dad's best man
Anonymous wrote:Is that weird? My child just told me he's his Dad's best man at his wedding. I thought it was weird, but maybe I haven't been to enough weddings?
.

You havent been to enough *second* weddings. Of course you should include kids in the ceremony of the next marriage if they are willing.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2024 21:51     Subject: 13 year old is Dad's best man
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not weird, makes sense for him to want his son to be part of the wedding. He’s too old to be a ring bearer.


I asked him if he was giving a speech and he had no idea that best men give speeches...!


Do a kindness and help him get ready for this! of course he does not know.