Anonymous wrote:if you have a large house, so it there. you don't need tables and chairs for everyone.
host it at a tearoom type place that doesn't serve alcohol. problem solved. i hosted one (less people) and the bill was 600.
nobody will die if there is no alcohol.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You seem very inflexible, OP. Must have alcohol, must have room to sit everyone down at a table, etc. That's why you're running into cost problems. There are many ways to host showers, and the immense majority of them are casual affairs at people's homes, with people snacking and standing, or resting on a couch arm, or whatever. If you're moving in a rarified atmosphere where you MUST have elegance, place cards and sit-downs... you should also be able to put up the money.
Op here. I’m actually a flexible person. I’ve never been to a shower that didn’t serve a brunch or lunch. Buffet a lot of times. I’ve never seen just appetizers. And I’ve probably been to 15-20. I am not trying to make it super formal. Normally there’s like 4-5 round tables and guests sit there while they eat. Then they open presents in the living area room or sometimes watch from the tables.
You're not planning to open presents in a restaurant are you? This is nuts.
Brunch is fine. Buffet for sure. And keep it to finger foods -- mini quiches, mini croissants, prosciutto wrapped melon -- because most of the people should be standing!
My sister's shower was a brunch held in a very modest house. You didn't get to sit unless you were over 70. And it was FINE. We had mimosas and a punch of some kind (I think it had vodka in it) but no one drank that much because it was 11am. I would never have two glasses of wine at 11am.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You seem very inflexible, OP. Must have alcohol, must have room to sit everyone down at a table, etc. That's why you're running into cost problems. There are many ways to host showers, and the immense majority of them are casual affairs at people's homes, with people snacking and standing, or resting on a couch arm, or whatever. If you're moving in a rarified atmosphere where you MUST have elegance, place cards and sit-downs... you should also be able to put up the money.
Op here. I’m actually a flexible person. I’ve never been to a shower that didn’t serve a brunch or lunch. Buffet a lot of times. I’ve never seen just appetizers. And I’ve probably been to 15-20. I am not trying to make it super formal. Normally there’s like 4-5 round tables and guests sit there while they eat. Then they open presents in the living area room or sometimes watch from the tables.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You seem very inflexible, OP. Must have alcohol, must have room to sit everyone down at a table, etc. That's why you're running into cost problems. There are many ways to host showers, and the immense majority of them are casual affairs at people's homes, with people snacking and standing, or resting on a couch arm, or whatever. If you're moving in a rarified atmosphere where you MUST have elegance, place cards and sit-downs... you should also be able to put up the money.
Op here. I’m actually a flexible person. I’ve never been to a shower that didn’t serve a brunch or lunch. Buffet a lot of times. I’ve never seen just appetizers. And I’ve probably been to 15-20. I am not trying to make it super formal. Normally there’s like 4-5 round tables and guests sit there while they eat. Then they open presents in the living area room or sometimes watch from the tables.
Anonymous wrote:You seem very inflexible, OP. Must have alcohol, must have room to sit everyone down at a table, etc. That's why you're running into cost problems. There are many ways to host showers, and the immense majority of them are casual affairs at people's homes, with people snacking and standing, or resting on a couch arm, or whatever. If you're moving in a rarified atmosphere where you MUST have elegance, place cards and sit-downs... you should also be able to put up the money.
Anonymous wrote:OP, I would have no desire whatsoever to sit through a seated dinner for a bridal shower. Change these plans.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No one has a house or large apartment to lend? Are there private rooms with bars that offer a deal on alcohol? I suppose no one wants a shower in a regional park where you could just rent a pavilion, decorate it and bring your own stuff? Are there museums or other spaces that you could rent and bring your own food and drink?
Op here. I have a large home. I can’t fit that many women or tables in my home.